hen night rant.. feeling sorry for myself .....is it justified

Hope you manage to sort it out .

Debbie

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Sorry to hear your feeling down.

IMO, hen nights are becoming less "big" than they used to. A few years ago it become the "norm" to go abroad and away for long weekends, now lots of people just dow a more old fashioned night out.

If the hen night is causing you a lot of worry, why not cut back and just have a night out? Be it just drinks, a meal or a comedy club or something. Weddigs can be expensive for guests just as much as the bride and groom these days and a good old girlie night could be the compromise for all?

Just an idea...

I think you've got to take it all with a big fat pinch of salt.

Give eveyone a date to go out for just 1 evening (meal and disco) rather than a whole day/weekend, and that's it. if they can come so be it, if not it's their loss.

As for the BM's should they be organising your hen do and not you? If they won;t do that are they worthy of the BM honour at all, I'd probably be questionning the purpose of their friendship, especially if other people are happy to join in the fun.

Bit of both I think.

I would be annoyed/hurt - particularly with people saying they haven't got a single weekend free! But then I did wonder whether perhaps it's that they don't have the money to go away for a weekend (2 summers ago I had a hen weekend when we had NO money - I went, but I really resented it).

I think tahdah's advice is good - pick a night and invite everyone to a big night out, but then perhaps invite closest friends/people who can make it to spend the whole weekend with you and do sunday lunch etc.

The girls that are H2B's friends girlfriends im not so bothered about but my friend who is doing a reading at the wedding I am.. I can see that she's far away in devon me London but i guess I looked at it from my point of view that i would go for her anywhere she wanted.. and now im thinking that I value her friendship more than she values mine...

Its v hurtful to know that people can't make an effort for a special event in your life but to be fair to them it could be due to money issues and they just don't want to say that. Weddings are expensive for everybody including the guests. That said, I think if somebody is playing a part in the actual wedding then they should be making an effort to come along.

I agree with Tah Dah, why don't you arrange a local night out with dinner then drinks. If some people can't afford to come along for dinner then they can meet up later. You don't have to go away somewhere to have a good time, the best nights are with everybody round about you - regardless of the location.

Hope you get something sorted. Try not to let it get you down too much.

I'm also thinking of a hitched hen do! We're having discussions about my hen do at the moment. We're spread allover the country so we've decided to go away to Blackpool so it's fair as all have to travel and pay out, also accommodation is easier to sort out. However, we can't decide on one or two nights and how to get there! I don't see the point of traveling so far for one night so i want two. Others said they only want to go one night. No one tells you what they want, but everyone tells you what they don't want!