Hen party - what would you do?

It depends what you want to do!

if having lots of people there is important then go for B, if the A activity is something you have always wanted to do then go for that.

Is there a compromise? Like going out to do something in the day and then meeting up in the evening for food and drinks and going out. Then people can choose which to go to and also how much to spend.

I would much prefer that people can actually come so would go for Plan B. What is the activity? Could you not just do it another time?

If it was me, i'd go choice A (really wanna know what this is btw) and then on another night I would hit the town with the locals for the drinks.

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I have no idea what it is, I asked my friend for a surprise! So I hope we can do it locally!

I had a similar problem... The people I really wanted to be at my hen weekend away couldn't afford it so I'm having a day trip to Alton towers in July then a meal and night out in September. That way people can do what they can afford/want to do.

Could get your BM to ask around to see what the others can/want to do? X

Oh I see. So your BM has picked an activity that no-one can do and then asked you to come up with a solution? ? That's not particularly good organising. I would ask her to go back to the drawing board - either change the activity or the location so that the people you want there can make it.

I think you should ask the bm to plan something more inclusive ie very cheap or free. There's lots that can be done eg tea party at home (everyone brings a cake), comedy treasure hunt... To me I'd prefer it for everyone to be able to come.

Do Both. I will be having a mega night out with loads of mates, and then having a girly, more intimate day with my Bridesmaids. Best of both worlds

I've had this problem and changed my hen to local and cheap so people could come. It's now this weekend and I've had 4 drop out completely and 1 say their only coming to the night bit. It's these 5 I changed things for. In hindsight I wish I'd done what I wanted and not tried to be so accommodating. If there's one thing I've learnt in all this it's to be a bit more selfish!, my trying to be nice to everyone has left me with a hen do I didn't really want and a bill as two of the drop outs haven't paid and left it too late for me to get a refund. On that note if there is anything that needs booking make sure you get the money well before and don't accept a 'yes I'm definitely coming' before you book anything!

Hi

I've just had my hen do over the weekend. My sister organised it for me. She set the group up on fb quite early and had a hen do bank account, she gave all the members of the private fb group her details and gave them the option of putting some in each month so it wasn't a big chunk in one go. This worked really well for the people who bothered to do it. The few who didn't were the ones who pulled out as it got closer to the event as they couldn't afford to pay for it. In the end we went to Bristol and did the west country games during the day, was a really funny day out, there was 11 of us. Then we came back to Exeter for the evening to do cocktail making, and a meal and drinks, and there was 20 of us, the people who couldn't afford the day came for the evening so it was the best of both worlds.

Thanks for the replies! Still not 100% sure it's the right decision, but will ask her to arrange something locally, as I don't really want to have 2 different hen nights!