Hen Party - who to invite

Ill be inviting people to hte hen do that arnt invited to the day ,,, they will all be invited to the evening though.

I dont think people would be put out if they wernt invited to the wedding but were invited to the hen do

Ive only invited people who are at least coming to the evening do - wouldnt invite anybody who was not at wedding at all - but if ur having a small family wedding then I guess thats different !

Out of the 12 invited to my hen do, only 5 of them are invited to the whole day (3 of them are BM's) The rest are all invited just to the evening. I wouldn't have invited anyone to the hen do and not invited them to at least the evening of the wedding. I think that would be weird. But like Hely08 said, if you're only having a small family wedding then that's different!

WSS. I have always seen the hen night as a bit of a 'free for all' celebration type thing, although I know a lot of B2Bs now prefer it to be more intimate. I am inviting loads of people, but saying that they will all be at least invited to the evening. I don't think it matters at all if they aren't invited to the day. It certainly wouldn't bother me.

Personally I think this is wrong. If I wasn't invited to the wedding, I wouldn't bother going to the hen do, regardless of numbers. For me it was a clear case of I invite my friends on the hen do & those friends will all be invited to the wedding (even if it was for the evening reception only)

My H was invited to a stag do but not the wedding & he felt very put out at this. Imagine being asked to spend a couple of hundred quid on a weekend with people you may not know that well, and then not to go to the wedding.

Your hen do shouldn't be a popularity contest in that you should have as many people as possible there - it should be a time for you and your close friends to get together and have a good time

I only invited those I'd invited to the wedding. And only those I knew I really wanted at my hen, so pretty much just close friends (controversially, not my SIL2B ...).

H however had people who weren't invited but he did talk to them about it first - they would ask him about his stag and he would say they could come but unfortunately we weren't able to invite them to the day. They weren't bothered!

My wedding reception isn't local, so there will be some people coming to the Hen do not coming to the wedding.

I know that some of my friends would prefer to just do the Hen do and not the wedding! Xx

Im in the same situation. Having a small wedding (30-40 guests) but as the venue is 2 hours away we arent giving out evening invites so it will just be best mates who will be invited to the wedding that i'll have at my hen party. i agree with the others, if they have been at least invited to the evening do i dont think people will find that cheeky. Good luck!

Hiya,

My Hen do is tomorrow and I'm very excited.

I've invited people who aren't coming to the day but have invited them to the night. Feel a bit bad but due to numbers and cost you can't invite everyone.

Also our wedding is away so not sure how many would travel to wedding anyway.