Hen Party/Weekend without a Bridesmaid?

Hi, I think it's awful that your bridesmaid was up for going to Spain at the time but has now cancelled. She has maybe made the excuse up of having something else on as she is embarrassed by her financial situation. Personally a hen night for me wouldn't be the same without my bridesmaid, whatever you decide to do be it going somewhere local to where you live might be just as enjoyable as she would be there by your side. I had a friend who was getting married last year, not a close one and she asked for £200 for a hen weekend away which I turned down as I thought it was a lot of money. If you would still have a good time away without her then go but if not I would change the plans. Good luck xx

If you really want to go and have already all paid, then I don't think it's too unreasonable to go and arrange another night out at home with the BM that couldn't make it.

I entirely trashed my preference for a hen do to ensure all the busy/skint/parent ladies I loved could be with me. Was 100% the point of my hen do and I don't regret it at all.

So in your shoes I would have a re-think, but I know I'm likely in the minority

This!

This is how I think if it all too.

Friends and loved ones make a day not the place or what your doing.

OP I would think about what you really want. Talk to ur BM and see if she can afford it at all.

If you are willing to move dates and make it cheaper for her so she can come, then yay!

Good luck

Duplicate.

I would rather have all my friends there even if we stayed in for the evening and drank wine than have a BM missing but that is my choice. TBH I would also refuse to go on a hen do costing £250 sorry.

Absolutely this! Isn't the point of a hen night to spend it with your bridesmaids and besties??

Ah just wanted to say sorry to hear about your hen do planning woes. IT's a difficult one, what is the right answer?! ah, good luck with it gal

It's a tough one buti think in the long run you might feel better if you rethink it. I changed my plans and opted for a really simple girls night out, not everyone's idea of a hen do but we all had a really good time and everyone was there. Because it wasn't expensive i also managed to go on a shopping/ lunch day out with bridesmaids and a posh afternoon tea. I figure that despite it being my 'last night of freedom' the reality is I can always arrange a girls weekend away next year when people aren't having to stump up for hotels, outfits etc

I went on a hen weekend in Hamburg, which was awesome, but in the end it did cost me nearly £400, which was just too much.

I've decided I'd like to do a cheap and easy spa-type thing in the daytime for a smaller group of people, BMs, maybe mum and some other close people. Then back to my flat in London (if I can evict my brother and his tenant for the weekend, haha!) to get ready a la the 'Good Old Days' then on to a party/club somewhere (one of my BMs hosts club nights, so we may make a special one for us - YAY) as I've got a LOT of hens wanting to come and it's just easier for everyone to be able to come and go as they please. Most of my mates live in London (I used to), so it was a natural choice for me and as I'm old and crabby, I can't be arsed with a big 3 day bender

I can totally see why you want to go away, but I reckon you need to think about what's more important for you - to have the mini break you want, or to have everyone there x