Hi I'm new...need help with wedding gift lists? We dont need one!

There are websites where guests can contribute towards a honeymoon - we are doing a traditional list because we need to renew things so I can't comment on them.

Sure there is one called Honeyfund or something like that & I'm sure someone on here is using Trailfinders but I don't know what type of holiday they offer.

We have our list with John Lewis and you can allow the guests the opportunity to pay towards a honeymoon on that instead of or alongside traditional gifts. I think Debenhams may do something similar but I know with JL you are tied to one travel agent (I forget who) and they may not have a suitable holiday for you.

My sister did a honeymoon fund through Thomas Cook - they booked the honeymoon, put details in with the invite and guests contributed then they just had to pay any balance when it was due.

I have also heard of people setting up a bank account specifically for 'donations' but I don't personally like the idea of that - seems a bit cheeky IMO

Thank for replying, yea john lewis was the first place that came to mind thinking of gift lists but i thought it was just for traditional products etc. i think ill pop over and see as there is a few things we would like so if they did the honeymoon option it would be great, but i will check out their travel agent first . I do think a bank account would be a bit cheeky lol! We dont personallye expect anything from our guests we just want them to come and share the day with us but so far everytime i mention how i dont really want cash or objects everyone is so surprised or telling me they have to get me something.

Kuoni do a honeymoon giftlist. There are probably lots on google but it's a bit risky because I think you have to book it in advance so if people don't contribute much you would be responsible for paying the rest.

We have this prob too!

There are loads of honeymoon gift lists, we used Kuoni. However we made sure we could afford it beforehand, then any gifts were a bonus. Could you have a minimoon without the kids for a few days? Then maybe a bigger honeymoon later when you have more money?

We neither wanted nor needed wedding gifts. So we didn't have a list. Simple! We got a smattering of gifts but mostly money.

Hi ladies thanks for your replys.we don't think a honeymoon is on the cards due to work, unless we waited til school holiday.I think maybe our best bet to keep everyone happy would be to create a gift list with john Lewis etc. We just don't want people feeling obliged or to be seen as asking too much..if we had enough to pay for honeymoon We would do that and then ask guests to pay for a treat while we're there such as dinner etc as I've seen on the honeymoon site someone mentioned above..tthinking maybe just state we don't want guests to feel obliged as we have our home etc but include list there anyway?

We didn't want or need anything, so our list was all with Oxfam Unwrapped. Guests can purchase things like "teach a teacher" "educate a child", goats, seeds, disaster relief kits etc. Our guests loved the idea and we got a lot of gifts.

Hi there, similar to other posters we neither need nor wanted a wedding list and so we dont have one! We also had our honeymoon paid for and so this wasnt an option either. We put nothing to do with gifts on our invites and so people have just texted / eamiled to ask if we have a wedding list to which I am replying, no we dont have a wedding list, please do not feel obliged to give us anything however if you would like to then vouchers towards or house or honeymoon spends would be amazing.

We didnt ask for anything, no mention or gifts, or honeymoons or money or anything. We ended up with a few gifts, about £1500 in cash and £500 in various vouchers. Covered what we had already paid for our honeymoon.

I think you'll find that most people want to give some sort of gift at a wedding and will. By not mentioning it you are giving them free reign to decide what to give, without dictating that they should or shouldnt give.

Yes think we'll leave it blank. their are some guests I know will be offended by fact we don't have one but I'll just explain about needing nothing then surely they''ll understand...I honestly never taught someone could be offended by not being given a list! lol

That's a great way of saying it, do you mind if I borrow it??

How about asking for Thoms Cook / Virgin vouchers to put towards a honeymoon / family holiday? We are going away for a week straight after the wedding with our little boy too, I don't think its that uncommon nowadays x

I'm in this situation. I don't think we'll mention gifts in the invitations.

Question - did people just put money in cards? I know I did this for my cousin who didn't have a gift list.

I would say people today expect to help towards a honeymoon etc as most people live together before they get married!

You could do a cute poem as if it was written by the children asking for a weekend break for mummy and daddy - that way you get 2/3 nights away without the kids and you can book something depending on the amount you get from the wedding. The problem is with the other honeymoon giftlists is that you have to book and pay in advance, which is risky if you can't afford it.

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