Honeymoon Cash!

I think this is a fairly common thing these days - I haven't been to a wedding for ages where there has been a gift list.

We are wimping out and putting the information about it on our (free) wedding website, so that we don't have to put anything "vulgar" about money (my OH's family are VERY English stiff upper lip about the subject) in with our invitations.

I believe there's a fairly strong "anti money poem" sentiment among the Hitched forum sorority though... ?

What makes you think you may have offended some of them?

It's fairly common now to ask for money instead of gifts. It all depends on how the request was put forward.

We didn't mention anything on our invitations and told our parents our preference when they told us that people had been asking them. As a result we got all cash and vouchers, plus a couple of thoughtful gifts.

Thanks for your reply's ladies

I don't think any of our friends will be offended however this is an assumption based on the fact that I am not offended by the request for cash.

I just wondered peoples opinion before I go to print with the invites where we have included a 'poem' eek is that vulgar?

We got an invitation at the weekend with a poem in. Personally, it just makes me cringe - if you want the cash just say, don't fanny around with a poem being all coy about it! This is, of course, just my opinion though.

We are having contributions towards our honeymoon. I do feel a bit rude for asking but as we live together and don't particularly need anything it seemed to make sense. Our guests can choose if they contribute or not as I'm sure some will prefer to give an actual present but we do not expect anything, just them to turn up. We didn't have a poem but put something like " the most important gift is for you to share our day but should you wish to contribute in some other way, a contribution to our honeymoon would be very gratefully received". I've had a couple of friends do this and I've never had an issue with it.

We aren't going to say or ask for money towards our honeymoon (which is our preferred gift). Some people will ask us what we want, and we will let them know what to do if they want to make a contribution, and let word spread between the family.

Also, doing this means that the gift option is still there, as some of our family and friends may get/make us something personal or quirky, which will be a lovely surprise!

We have been living together for over 4 years, everyone who is coming to our wedding knows this, and will assume we don't need a toaster or a saucepan set.

We don't see it as a necessity to take up space on our invites, whether we get something or not, we are more concerned with people showing up!

Most of the guests coming to our wedding are our Chinese families/friends and they all know to give gifts of money which is normal in Chinese culture.

We are also inviting some English friends and they have asked us if we have a gift list. I simply answered that if they wanted to gift us something that we would like money contributions towards our honeymoon and they didn't have an issue with it.

Thank you all so much for your input ladies, I have decided to remove the cheesy poem from the invite and as advised by Cw2b ask politely for the cash xxx

Thank you all so much for your input ladies, I have decided to remove the cheesy poem from the invite and as advised by Cw2b ask politely for the cash xxx

We had a poem in our invites, I found one that I liked the wording was and wasn't cheesy

personal choice down to the B&G at the end of the day

Has anyone used any of the honeymoon registry websites? We were considering using one and putting the details for that in our invites?

I am unsure about my thoughts on them as I have never seem anyone use them before.