Honeymoon - with or without little person?

We took our little man with us (and the bump too, I was 11 weeks when we got married with no2). He had not long turned 2.

We just couldn't have left him, both my parents and his parents offered to look after him as did my sister, but we just couldn't do it. So we had a nice family holiday to Bulgaria (not the most glamours location for a honeymoon) and we'd have preferred Mexico or similar but as it was more important to us to take K with us rather than the destination, so we looked for somewhere flying out the next day that we hadn't been before and that was no longer than a 4 hr flight and Bulgaria was the only one, so thats how we came to going there.

We had a fab time and K loves his holidays abroad?.

Hope this helps

Luv Victoria

xxx

We got married last week and are going on honeymoon on the 18th for a week leaving our 2 year old son with my sister. I feel guilty and worried that I will miss him so much (and he us, athough he adores his cousins so probably not!) but at the same time I'm so looking forward to some time alone with H.

ETA - I feel really guilty and worried now as it's less than 2 weeks til we go

I wouldn't be worried about dd missing us as she's stayed for a week with her grandma during the summer holidays last year and had a fab time. We also plan to have another week away during the summer but it would be in the UK as we wouldn't be able to afford to go abroad again (will hopefully only be able to afford a honeymoon abroad as we would like holiday vouchers instead of gifts). It would also mean that we could do stuff that we wouldn't with a little person in tow such as very long walks, playing about in the pool/sea and not having to make sure she is safe and okay. Also sunbathing etc.

But....I feel really mean contemplating going away without her! Especially abroad. Though I guess at her age the location isn't too important, just how much fun she can have!

We are taking my daughter with us on our mini moon straight after the wedding in the uk - and then her dad will have her whilst we go on honeymoon somewhere a little more exotic a few months after. Luckily as i no longer live with her dad - she is used to being away from me x

We got married in October and left my son who is 10 (from my first marriage) with my grandparents. He was a bit miffed to begin with as he always goes on holiday with us but when we tried to explain the difference with a honeymoon he kind of bought it. We then chose to do something we would not do with him, and went to Lake Garda in Italy. Long walks, slow meals in restaurants, drive around the different villages etc. When we showed him where we were going he was delighted he was not going as it would be too boring for him.

I dont think it is in an issue leaving your little one as she going to be 4 1/2 and a little bit more able to cope than it than if she was a lot younger. I would suggest though that you book somewhere that is not going to be full of other kids/families so it doesnt get to you when you are away, somewhere you and hubby would love but not necessarily your daughter.

Hope this makes sense!

Sx

We are going abroad for 15 days a couple of days after our wedding and leaving our two children (5 & 13) with my sister. I know we will miss them loads but it's the decision we made. And I think ultimately you will know what is right for you and your child. While we are away my sister is taking them camping for a few days with her three kids as well - think she'll have her hands full!!! ?

We're getting married in Dominican republic, so Jr's will be with us, right through to the honeymoon.

We'll have family there, so plenty of opportunity to have some alone time too.

Honeymoon is best without little person but except honeymoon other outing is wonderful with kids.

Our 2 will be 6 & 13 when we get married and we are leaving them for 2 weeks with my mum & dad wile we go o egypt, but they are lucky to be going away to spain for 2 weeks on the same day we fly out so the not at all bothered.

I will miss them both like mad but feel its right for us as me & oh have never had anytime away without children (13yr old from prev relationship).

We're getting married in June, and although we haven't decided on a honeymoon yet, we will be taking L with us. She's 2 1/2 and I couln't contemplate leaving her for that long!

We have 4 kids between us: My sons J (19) and R (17 nearly 18), h2b's daughter C (10) and our daughter L (2 1/2). We took the 3 youngest (eldest doesn't live with us and didn't want to come) on holiday last summer to Cornwall and it was a challenge to say the least!!!

Looking forward to it being just the 3 of us.

C xx

Could you have a mini-honeymoon somewhere with just the two of you for a weekend after the wedding? A gorgeous hotel or spa somewhere? And then have a familymoon for a week or two somewhere hot a few weeks later with everyone?

If you do decide to take her with you, go somewhere with a good kids-club. As an experienced kids-club rep, I know parents have told me how nice it is to have a few hours to themselves. And happy kids means happy parents. trust me, once she gets to that club, she will be so happy with the toys, other kids and such that she will not want to leave at the end of the club. This should give you some precious alone time.

Good luck deciding!

Not really planning our wedding yet, But the one thing we have decided is that when we get married. We will be going on a honeymoon and we will be taking our son who will be 6 then. But my parents are also coming with us. We have agreed to pay for there flights and they will pay for there accommadation this cost will be included in the wedding budget. This way me and my partner will be able to spend some time alone but we will also have lots of family time with our son. My parents will also be using this holiday as a belated honeymoon as they had 3 children when they got married and have never had a honeymoon. I know this wouldn't work for everyone but I dont think I could personally go away and leave my son alone for 2/3 weeks.

With my 1st wedding i left my daughter with grandparents, for me my prioities have changed and this time we are taking all three children with us 9yrs old/ nearly 3 yr old and 5 month old. We may go away for a few days on our own later in the year but i wouldn't have it any other way.

Wow, so many replies and suggestions! I like the idea of the mini-moon for just us and then a proper holiday with the little person either just after the wedding or a little while later.

DD won't have broken up for the holidays at that point, so if we went away without her straight after the wedding, my dad could possibly take some time off work and take her to nursery and collect her, but then I wouldn't like to dash off without her so soon after the wedding as it will be fun talking about it all with her after.

I think better to go away with dd for a break after the wedding and then have a holiday for just the two of us during the summer holidays when she can go and stay with her grandma for a week as is already planned.

We are planning a holiday to St Lucia for our honemoon, but seeings as we have no money we've had to put that on hold for a few years ☹️

So we have a holiday to Disneyland Paris booked form the Monday after we get married for 5 days and we're taking both the kids (who will be 8 and 5). We booked it with our airmiles so the entire thing plus Eurostar cost us a couple of hundred quid.

We couldn't really leave our kids behind as the school won't let them have time off during term time (there is no-one close by to look after them who could actually get them to school) yet will let them go with us for our holiday (I think they think we're getting married while away!!) - I can't figure that bit out!

I'm actually really excisted about going to Disney - we have been last year and the year before so it's nothing new to us but a holiday is a holiday ? and the looking forward to the big holiday in St Lucia (or wherever we eventually decide to go) gives me something to look forwards too.

Hi ?

We are going away for a few days after the wedding, probably to Rome for three days, then we are coming back for a few days and going to Florida. I just couldn't contemplate leaving my son who will be seven behind, I wouldn't relax as I would be fretting about him.

I echo what someone else said about going somewhere with a kids club, First Choice have brilliant kids clubs and you get the best of both worlds time alone and time with your family.

Also you are "allowed" to take your children out of school for up to ten days during term time, any longer than this then you have to get permission from the local Education authority. I don't think taking them out of primary school for a few days is the end of the world especially as the Sats have disappeared, different in secondary school though. Sorry rambling now !!

Good luck in what you decide ?

We were going to have a proper honeymoon abroad but we couldn't justify the money for just the two of us. So instead we are packing the car and going for a drive up north for a week, just after the wedding, finding B&Bs along the way. When the kids break up for the summer we will organise a big family holiday abroad as we have never had one. My mum will hopefully move in to my house for the week that we are away so that our kids can still get to school easily.

Nic