Honeymoon/invitation help

Even if you haven't booked your honeymoon can you say that's what you would like as hope to plan a February 2017 honeymoon.

I'm not really sure I get what you're asking? Do you mean you need the money first to pay for the flights? People probably won't give you anything until the actual wedding.

we asked for money for our honeymoon but we didn't book it until after the wedding as we wanted to know where we were financially- not specifically with regards to what people gave us but more as we didn't want to over commit ourselves while paying for the wedding too

Yeah we only asked for money when people asked us what we wanted- we had been engaged 15 years though and only had a small "day" we end up with lots of £10/£20 notes in cards from both day and evening guests, but we just saw it as a bonus and genuinely didn't bank on getting anything. We will use the money for something specific eg hotel/ excursions so it doesn't feel like it's swallowed up. We still got some random gifts too as people don't always like giving money

We didn't really want to ask for cash but have something in the invitation on how people can pay toward a certain aspect of the holiday, what ever they feel comfortable doing. But I feel cutting it s bit fine between booking, getting invites out & wedding?
Suppose could ask for cash toward honeymoon just feel a bit unsure about that, although I wouldn't mind if I was receiving that invite.

I personally wouldn't ask for cash but nor do I get offended when other people do. It seems to be very much the norm nowadays. If you go down the cash route you could always put in your thank you cards 'your contribution helped us to do such-and-such on honeymoon' but then that would mean you couldn't send those out until after the honeymoon which is too long IMO.

If you really want to do the contribution website, I suppose it depends how long it will take for your invitations to be printed. Or you can have them ready to go and add the honeymoon website as an invite. You could then send by the end of March and have an RSVP date of end April. Would that work?

I'd recommend you create a Honeyfund website - you can have this ready to go at any time, but put the URL in your invite.

We sent our invites out 4 months before the wedding, but actually most people did their Honeyfund gift in the 2 weeks before the wedding.

We paid for our trip in advance and we used the Honeyfund website to help us create experiences/memories whilst we were there.

My old invite flash is here, we put the link on the 'Further information' sheet: https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/t/489419.aspx

It sparked a huge debate though - here: https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/t/481348.aspx

We did make some minor changes to the Honeyfund options but ultimately it was along those lines in the end