How are you paying for your wedding?

Yes, bar the dress and honeymoon. My parents are paying for this.

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The rest comes to about £8000 which we'll be paying.

Ours is going to be around 22-23k, (not including honeymoon which is about 5k) we are lucky enough that my parents are paying for the majority of it, 15-16k, OH's parents are putting in about 5k, and we are covering the rest and the honeymoon ?

My parents very kindly paid for the reception - meal for 60 people, room hire, welcome drinks, wine on table, DJ and evening buffet. This came to £2.3K.

I paid for everything else.

Approx £20k. We paid.

A family friend gave us £5k for our honeymoon.

OH's dad contributed £3k- which is basically paying for the reception- our total budget (excluding honeymoon) is £6k.

The honeymoon is £2.5k and my dad is paying for this from some shares which have matured and he's cashed in (he gets them through work). I am still a bit 'cross' at him about this, because he's not well off and could use the money himself, but he absolutely insisted that he wanted to pay! He's a stubborn man...I can see where I get it from.

We have family members chipping in for other bits (car, flowers) in lieu of presents and friends offering to help out with freebies (hair, makeup, nails, etc.)

Ours is coming to £16K (plus honeymoon additional £4K). My parents are kindly contributing £5K and we are paying for the rest. In a way I am glad that they are not paying for everything as this would have made me feel limited and permanently worried about what we were spending, as we are paying for the majority we will have what we want and not feel guilty.

Ours is coming in at around £10,000, £7,000 of which is the reception and catering for our giant families! Our parents are paying for most of it, but we're getting our own outfits for the day and kitting out bridesmaids/ groomsmen ourselves.

We're doing without a lot of the 'traditional' things, like cars, cakes, venue dressing... we've spent a good chunk of money (£1,500) on a photographer, £700 on flowers for the church (my mum's choice to do this, otherwise I wouldn't have spent half that much!) and £400 on a ceilidh band and then the rest on the food and drink and also a donation to the church we're getting married in. They were the important things to us as we wanted to focus mostly on the party and less on the formality and tradition

We don't have any savings and we live off H2B's small salary until I graduate and get a job (I'm doing a PhD) so we were just going to have a registry office ceremony and go out for dinner afterwards with family and friends, but our respective parents decided we should have a big party and we're most excited now. I can't express how grateful I am to my parents and H2B's parents. They're all amazing, we couldn't have any of this if it wasn't for them!

Ours is coming in at about £8k. My dad has said that he will pay for the welcome/meal drinks which will be about £1k. I am hopeful that Mr Foo's parents will also give us a bit of cash nearer the time but not banking on it. The rest I am paying for - I have some inheritance money from my mum and it feels like a way of involving her even though she is not here anymore.

We paid for it all ourselves.

Ours is about 16k, mum's been saving up for years (to be used for wedding or house deposit) and is putting in 6000 and H2B is paying the rest. The honeymoon we're treating as our holiday this year just a bit more swanky so we're paying for that between us.

9k

lots of things are donated, like the cake for £200 for FSIL+FBIL, OH's folks are giving us 2.5k since this was the same they gave their daughter and planned for. Flowers are free (aka wedding gift, she's a florist) stationary free (DIY and courtesy of OH's boss). Another auntie is giving £500 just because, shes very close to are family. So far I've spend 1.2k of my money on deposits, dress and odds and sods. With me taking a financial tumble OH's is stepping up the plate and is putting aside more money a month.

My mum is saving as well, this wedding is almost her annual salary and I appreciate the help from her too, she doesn't know how much she can add but I'll be thankful for any of it. She was the one that found our band for £450 (discounted 'cause they love her!) Dad said he'd pay the TOG (£750 left) but he's a bit flaky at times, stress mainly, and he has twin babies at the mo so if he pulled out it I could understand. Plus running a business AND paying for flights from the US to the UK .. thats expensive. I'd rather he just be there at the end of the day.

We've discussed at length in our house but if push came to shove, we'd get a loan to cover any shortfall, though if we *knock wood* dont suffer anymore setbacks we might just skim by.

A combination of credit cards, annual bonus and a bit of savings. We wouldn't go into debt but I'm a student so I only work part time. Will have the day of our dreams and then have reasonable repayments. It was either that or saving for five years and then getting married and I'm not that worried about affordable debt tbh. It's less than a quarter of OHs annual salary. We may get contributions from family but I'm not expecting anything; it's the second time round for both of us.

Ours is going to be between £5k and £6k.. My parents are hoping to give us £2k and H2B's parents are hoping to give us £1k.. However I know for our parents to give us this amount of money will be a struggle to them and I will not be surprised if they cannot give us as much as they originally said. We did not ask them to help us out finacially but they said they would. My nan gave me £500 towards my dress, but we are hoping to pay for the rest of the wedding ourselves and only using the money our parents give us for the wedding if we need to. We would like to use it for a deposit or for our honeymoon.

We're paying ourselves.

When I got married in my twenties my parents paid for everything except the rings, BM dresses and the suits I think (maybe flowers?), as per the tradition of the time.

Ours is at the moment coming to just over £25k including the honeymoon. H2B's Dad has put money towards the honeymoon and his mum is paying for the flowers, whilst my parents are paying for my dress, cake, hair and make up and the band. Overall family contribution has been around £9k and the rest we have/ are aving for. We never asked either family for anything towards it, so just very very grateful for what they have offered. I think you should always expect to pay for it all yourself!

Too true

Myself and OH are paying the larger bulk!

Grandma paid venue hire

Mum paying for dress... Also contributing to wedding breakfast!

Mum and dad are taking care of the evening bar.

step dad paying for my cake.

my aunt offered to get my shoes! (I've chosen jimmy choos though and don't expect her to fork out that kind of money so might just ask for my veil instead)

my uncle is going to be a DJ and not charging!

My friend also my bridesmaid is a trained make up artist and will do my make up on the day!

everything else is being taking care of by me and OH using savings and monthly income, I refuse to come out in debt for this wedding!total spend is looking to be between 15k-20k

Ours probably topped out at around £24k, not including honeymoon. my mum contributed about £6.5k, and Ant's parents gave about the same, though it wasn't something we needed them to do, it just made it easier to have the wedding we really wanted.

My parents (mainly my Dad) have insisted that they pay for the wedding, OH's family want to contribute and my parents have said no.

I'm in a fortunate position where my parents saved a lot of money for me as a child, including child benefits etc and bonds that they are now able to use for a wedding, so in a way it's not coming out of their pockets?

They gave me 7K for my half of the flat deposit which I am now giving them back as part of the wedding.

As soon as they made it clear that they would be paying for the wedding we tried to tone it down and choose another venue but Dad liked it and was willing to pay. He could have recouped some of the costs by asking guests to contribute to the accommodation (as suggested by the venue) as we're marrying abroad and the accommodation comes with the package but he has insisted that if we're asking for people to fly out we shouldn't inconvenience people more by asking them to pay.

I have offered to use the 7k from the flat deposit to pay for the extras, flowers, decorations, DJ etc which has gone down well.

I am seriously surprised that my parents have put their foot down on this, and it makes me feel a little bit spoilt but Dad is very proud and wants to be traditional. We wouldn't have done it any other way if we'd have paid for the wedding ourselves but we would have been stretched. OH's family are pretty well off and there is also an element coming from my parents that they can do more than them financially?

I don't tend to talk to my friends about our wedding plans and have had to ham a lot of stuff down because I'm a little embarrassed about my parents paying for the wedding, but extremely grateful.

Our original budget was £9k but we have spent that already so we have upped it to £15-16k... We have been given £2k towards it but we have yet to even look at a honeymoon so we are expecting the whole thing including honeymoon to come in at £20k.

Probably looking at around 12-15k including honeymoon.

Had a generous gift from my Grandad of 1K, another gift from boyos parents of 1k, another gift of £500 from a close family friend, these were Wedding Presents and are being used for honeymoon purposes.

My Ma & Pa are paying for our band, £800, and transport- a coach around £400 and whatever my Pops has booked for me- it is a surprise.

His Mum & Dad also wanted to pay for our Cake, £300 and flowers, £200 for Church and although not finalised between £200/£300 for the rest.

We didn't ask or expect anything from our families and their generosity has meant that we could change our budget around a bit- we had planned on saving and spending 10k but with the gifting and managing to save a bit more ourselves we are comfortable with our budget.

We're paying for everything, before we started planning the wedding I had no idea how much a wedding today would cost, and we're planning (now we do know) on a lot more than we originally had estimated, but we're both ok with that.

I have 2 sons, and when they are ready to marry, I intend to help them

Ours is £9k but I work in my venue so having a bargain deal - mum has paid for my dress and veil and tiara, dad has given us £1000 (which is what he gave my sister and brother). my dad lent me money to get my first house and OH parents lent us money for our new house that we moved in last year. we weren't / aren't expecting money from anyone, we have had financial support from our parents over the years with our houses etc and we both work full time so wouldn't have it any other way x

With Money.

Seriously though ours cost c£20k.

We're paying for it all ourselves- although I'm still not sure how much that is going to be yet! We had lofty ambitions to keep it under £10k but I don't think that's going to happen....

Ours is costing 15-16k.

OH's parents are giving us 5k. My parents are giving us 1k as I have been married before they paid a few thousand towards that so I wasn't expecting anything from them so very happy they have said they want to contribute.

The rest we are paying for ourselves through savings and bonuses etc - nothing at all will be going on credit cards. I am quite proud that we can afford to pay so much of our own money towards it seeing as we have just bought our first house too. We are limiting ourselves on how often we go out etc but we aren't hermits - we still get to go out a bit and also we just have people over to ours instead.

? we are paying for it all our selves, and our very maximum budget is 3k, and my h2b thinks that that is too much ? you are all very fortunate to have family members helping you out, my mum would love to help us, but she cant afford to either. the only help we have had is h2b's grand parents have paid for the wedding breakfast, but we weren't planning on having one so that wouldn't have counted on our budget either.

I think ours is coming in at around £16 including honeymoon. My dad has paid for our honeymoon for us, OH dad gave us £2000 and my nan paid for my dress. Everything else (c£10k) has been paid by us.

Ours will be around 8k give or take 1k including honeymoon (if we have one) for the main things, ceremony, venue tog, band, transport, outfits. The vast majority of it is being funded by shares my H2B has bought through a sharesave scheme at work. Smaller, less significant parts are being funded by me using whatever is left of my wages each month. I'm paying for the cake, venue decor, stationary and VOG which is totalling around another £1200. We also have a Pot of Dreams wedding fund jar which we have no idea of what's in it..... we'll break this open around a month before and it may be honeymoon money or it may go behind the bar. My parents have given us £500 which we are using for reception drinks and toasts.

Roughly £12k and we are paying. My mum is buying my dress. Our honeymoon is £8k and we are paying for that too.

Mum feels bad she can't help out more. I feel bad she feels bad. OH has a brilliant job and I'm not badly paid. We have our own house and no debts other than my law school loan which is being taken care of monthly for now so we can afford what we want and aren't having what we can't afford. ?

Coming in about £16,000, apart from my dress, the cake and my hair we are paying ourselves. My parents have given us some money towards it, but after an unrelated argument with my mum where she misunderstood and thought I had said we had spent the money on something else, effectively spending it twice and accused us both of being idiots. OH took total offence when I relayed the conversation and said we wouldn't use the money for the wedding. It will get swallowed up when we buy the new house in October, but on principal he wanted to pay ourselves and we will have.

Ours is 9.5k (excl ring and hotel/honeymoon). I plan to sell as much as I can after and hope to get £800 including dress. We have paid for all of it ourselves. We were buying a bigger house and went for something a bit less in value (although still the one we wanted) to be able to free up most of the wedding budget. The rest we've paid for as we've gone along.

If most of the cash hadn't been available as a lump sum I suspect we would have got married, but not had a Wedding.