How can I make planning more fun again?

I can totally sympathise with you. I got to this point two/three weeks ago and I think it was due to spending too much time planning. Every single night researching things on the internet and all weekend, turning into that bargain hunter you mentioned. I could never switch off from it or look forward to looking at things for the wedding. It became more of a chore than anything.

My OH has now banned me from all planning in the evenings during the week, and I am limited to a few hours on a Sat and Sun. This has really worked for me as it has given me all week to look forward to the weekend when I will look at things for the wedding again. It also has meant that my OH is much more helpful as I am not talking to him about it 24/7 and we dedicate time at the weekends to look at it together and get excited about it together.

I hope that helps, I am sure everyone goes through this stage at some point, whether he feeling lasts for an hour or a week.

The spa weekend away with your OH sounds like a good idea, but maybe as a complete break for you both rather than as a planning weekend. It's important not to let the whole occasion take over your life because afterwards it could well feel like an anti-climax. Is there something you could start thinking about for when the wedding and honeymoon are over that you both want to plan and do together? That way you're not just focusing on just one thing.

Find suppliers who you can get on with on a friendly level, you will find them happy to recommend other industry professionals that they have worked with which will take some of the anxiety out of the process. Some things may not go exactly according to plan on the big day, but they won't detract from the fact that you're getting married because you want to spend the rest of your lives together.

It's natural to want to get good value for your money and to stay within budget, but the cheapest of something may not be the best value at the end of the day. Not sure how far down the planning road you are, but if I can be of any help please feel free to contact me.

We went about it a little bit different- it wasn't so much that OH was moaning about me banging on about weddings all the time (he's pretty much accepted thats how its going to be) but it was more to do with what's being discussed e.g. he has absolutly no interest in flowers and the thought of going to a florist made him turn a funny green color.

So, we've split some of the planning- we both decided on the color scheme and type of day we want and then seperated out little tasks- He's responsible for music, the male suits and cake- so basically he does all the research and will be getting the men's suits etc. (we'll be going cake tasting together thought!!).

It kind of makes it more interesting because when we do discuss the wedding plans we've both got exciting bits to discuss and we're not focused on the same thing. It also means that OH can pretty much have nothing to do with the bits he finds boring but can still be fully involved. We try not to talk about weddings during the week at all- we found out pretty quick that 24/7 wedding chat was way too much to handle!

Ive been exactly the same, its not nice but thank you for posting your feelings as i know i'm not the only one now : )

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Just reading your posts and seeing that it's not just me was already helpful! I told my OH how I feel and yesterday he suddenly did several things on his own (created a website, asked friends if they can accommodate my family, scanned one of our first pics taken in a NY pizza place to use it on the invitations)... Suddenly he's all excited and really sweet

Give yourself a break! Thats the best advice i could give. i had one over xmas as it was just getting too much, and soon i was itching to get back into it, and started by making lots of appointments - tastings, veiwings, fittings, that sort of thing. Once i had them booked i felt more organised and as they were a few weeks away and spread out it made it manageable, i knew what to focus on each week. ie if it was cake tasting i would just look at cakes, flower mock up i just looked at flowers. otherwise its just one big planning mess lol. work out what is important to you and your OH and make a list 1-10 in order of what needs to be done/booked first?

Few ideas there but dont wory you'll be back into it soon. If not last resort go to a wedding fair to inspire you!

When we first started planning it was all go-go-go and all we talked about was weddings. That said we kind of needed to as all the key things needed to get booked.

Once I knew the most important bits were sorted I was happy to take a step back, we don't discuss weddings all day everyday, and have both contributed more useful planning since. Perhaps give your self a break - I took the whole of December off wedding planning, as I had had enough really. But now I feel much more excited and positive about it.