How did you know you had found 'the ONE'?

Your wedding is very close to mine!

I have had three dress shopping trips - which adds up to about 30 different dresses!!

I ordered my dress at the weekend (see my posted thread) and it was the first dress I ever tried on in the first shop. Like you I didn't want to rush into it, but every other dress I tried on just didn't match up. Having tried on all the others, I went back and tried the first one on again with my two sisters, my mum and aunt and we all just knew. I couldn't stop smiling and my mum cried!! So thats how I knew and after that I thought there was no point hanging around so ordered it there and then. But everyone is different and you have got plenty of time. Perhaps have another day of dress shopping and then go back to try the one you can't stop thinking about on again?

Btw - LOVE the dress!! x

That dress is beautiful.

I never had the overwhelming feeling that I'd found THE ONE. I went to loads of different bridal shops with my Mum and tried on loads of dresses and eventually made a short list and went back with my BM's. I was stressing as everyone kept telling me I would know when I found THE ONE and I wasn't having that feeling, I felt like I was desperately running out of time. The dress I've ordered was in my personal top 2 and my CBM cried when I walked out of the changing room.

I get married in October and I ordered my dress mid March. I'd been looking since about November last year and the dress I chose is from the last shop I looked in. Is there someone you can go back with who will give you and honest opinion on the dress, best friend, sister etc. I knew that I would get a more honest opinion from my BM's than I would from my Mum as she would say I looked lovely in all of them!!

Good luck on the dress hunt x

Im getting a trudy lee dress too

I agree it takes ages, and i kept changing my mind after every shop i went in,i found taking pictures helpful becasue sometimes i would fall in love with a dress in the shop,then see a photo of myself in it later and decide it didnt actually look that good!

I am very lucky in that my CBM is very honest and will tell me what she likes about a dress and what she doesn't. I am definitely going to go on another couple of trips, i'm very lucky in that my CBM loves dress shopping. It is just such a big decision that i am terrified in getting wrong! The rest of the wedding seems quite insignificant at the moment. But i know that once i have the dress sorted everything else will fall into place.

Thanks for the advice girls

All the shops i have been to have said i can't take pics and my CBM has tried to sneak a quick picture but it has been impossible.

I went to 3 bridal shops and tried on about 25 dresses.

The one I've picked is the one that gave me the biggest grin and also from the shop that had made me feel most welcome/been really helpful. It was also my sister's favourite which was a bonus ?

ETA - I also found that other dresses no longer compared to 'the one'. I tried on others and was like 'it's nice, but I prefer the shape/colour/material/detailing etc etc on the other dress'

well i just didnt want to try ano more on after I tried mine on! I love mine and i cant help having a wee look at it myself! Although i couldnt find it anywhere on the www, so i emailed alfred angelo for the pic and they sent it to me!

Sounds like you are doing better than I did to be honest I never had a the one moment that people describe but I think if you keep thinking about one dress above all others that you have tried it is a good place to start.

You have pleanty of time for ordering still why don't you have a break from dress shopping and go again in a few months try some different things on plus your current favourite and see if it is still top of your list!

I ordered my dress with 10 months notice but I'm getting a one of special made for me as I never found the one (after trying on a good 50-80 dresses I stopped counting in the end!)

Like Drifter, i never had the 'this is the one' moment. But all the dresses I tried on after got the response of 'it's nice, but it's not the other dress' if tha makes sense!?

Don't worry! I don't even remember trying on my dress the first time I tried it on. I only went back to the shop to try on another dress and the assistant suggested I try it again.... I don't think everyone has 'the one' moment. I personally hate looking at myself in the mirror, so I really struggled with dress fittings and stuff and was never sure about dresses on me. Even now, I've just had my final fitting an hour ago and I think it looks nice and I do love it, but I wouldn't gush about it. On the other hand, my Chief Dress Advisor and my mum have been, so I know it's a good choice for me.

I went to about 8 or 9 shops when i first started - I really wanted to try a range of dresses on. I think the thing I struggled with the most was the fact that I haven't been dreaming of this day all my life and I don't really wear white very often, plus wearing a long dress is a bit alien to me so it all seemed a little weird and surreal. In the end, I couldn't decide between two dresses and when I finally made up my mind I haven't regretted the decision, so it must have been right!

Sorry - that all sounds very negative! I don't mean it to. I just want to reassure you that not everyone has 'the one' moment and we can overanalyse things too much when it comes to our reaction to our dresses. I'm sure you'll find the one, but don't be disheartened if you have to try a few more places. You'll look fabulous in whatever you choose, I'm sure!

argh! i know that feeling,i was lucky ost places let me,enough for me to narrow down my choices, narrowed it down from about 10 to 2,one of which i didnt have aphoto of and thats the one i actually ended up choosing! there are no set rules,but hopefully eventually one will feel right, try them on as many times as you need to and dont expect to suddenly out it on and know its THE ONE, it can take time for you to realise its the best option.

I guess you kind of assume that you get this overwhelming feeling when you have found the dress but in reality that doesn't necessarily happen. I know i still have plenty of time and will enjoy going to as many more shops as possible. My 2 young bridesmaids are so desperate to start trying on BM dresses that i think the next trip will be all about them and that also gives me a little break too.

Thanks again everyone x

When I tried my dress in the shop i kinda knew that it was the one when I felt like crying!and had butterflies in my tummy! and then I saw my best friend cry! lol I just knew it was the one.

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I tried the same dress on in about 5 shops!

I never had 'The One' moment either (quite relieved I'm not alone!). There was one dress I felt comfortable in and liked the feel of, it ticked all the boxes and then the other dresses didn't measure up to it. I don't know how much of that was due to the fact that it fit me really well and a lot of the others were too big?! I have actually been shopping since and tried on different dresses but didn't like any of them so I'm sure now I've made the right decision!

Enjoy the shopping, you'll find one that makes you happy I'm sure x

I knew it was THE ONE when all the others (even the ones I liked) looked bland and boring, and the only thing I wanted to do was go back to the shop, put the dress back on and order it!

I looked good in it and it was in budget. It was the first one I tried on. Am I shattering the dream? ;-)

I was a lot more picky about my husband and I think that's crucially important!

That dress is beautiful! btw, I thought this thread was going to be about knowing OH was the one!! hehe

If I were you, I would keep looking if that one isn't going anywhere / being discontinued? I only went shopping on three occassions but altogether tried on about 50 dresses and still sometimes wish I'd tried more!! That may be the one you end up with but like you say it is such a big decision, so you may as well shop a bit more over the next few months and see if anything either takes your fancy more or nothing else compares!

I was feeling similar after my first all day shop - out of about 15 dresses there was one I kept thinking about, but then I saw it in another shop window a month later and really went off it. I'm not saying you will, but I'm so glad I waited or I would have regretted it!

When I found mine, I did love it more than the others, and I got a funny feeling. More than anything though, it was that it seemed to blow any other dress I had tried on out of the water, and during 'the search' when I put a dress on I had thought to myself: Can I picture myself-

Walking down the Aisle in this? Having our first dance in this?

And when I tried on mine, it was all I could think about for the whole week! But I still waited a week and then faffed about in the shop for hours trying to decide for sure. I think whether or not you know it's 'the one' has a lot to do with your nature - i'm very indecisive, so though I know it's the right dress, I don't think I could ever have had that feeling completely cos I can never fully make my mind up about things for ages!

It's a lovely dress though, but I would def try on more, more, more - I still miss that and the whole experience of dress shopping!

I cried, my sister cried and my BM cried!! It was the 5th dress in the first shop on my first shopping trip and it was 18months before the wedding and I love it more and more everytime I try the shop sample on!