Basically I spent that past 8 weeks organising a secret surprise for H
- for H's family to meet him for the first time (he is adopted and not
met his Dad before). Since then, although H was gobsmacked and said
this was the nicest thing that anyone has ever done for him, he has
been snappy with me. Blaming me for when he fell out of bed, like I
wasn't helping him get up. He's gone overdrawn with his credit card and
it was down to me to sort out. I've just had to buy him tyres and an
exhaust for his car because of his lack of funds. He also is nagging me
for a flat screen TV, when the one we have is perfectly fine. I did ask
him "what have you done for me lately?" because he wanted me to do
something else for him (BJ! ?) and he said that he'd done loads for me - he got
himself better (we have been through a really rough year). To me it
feels like just because he's done that, he feels he doesn't need to do anything
else. He says he does lots for us that most men wouldn't do (ie he cleans the house - that's it).
Today he got up late so again I had to feed the cat and get us tea
(when it is his turn and supposed to my day off - if he does it
tomorrow, that'll be once in a week, when he is supposed to do it three
times a week), plus he refused to put his towel away as he was "too
hot". They are all really small things, but they are getting on top of
me as there seem to be a lot of small things, and I don't know how to
get out of this dark cloud.
So, how do I pick myself up?
