How do you know what you want.........very general question

I honestly couldn't be doing with all the faf. That's why i'm jetting off to Turkey for my wedding and my planner has orgainsed everything. It's like a bit of a surprise wedding for me! lol! I have an idea for what it's going to be like, but not a real clue tbh. I can't be doing with all these little bits to organise, it would bug me to death. All i need to do is book a flight and hotel and be standing outside my hotel all dressed up for my car to pick me up! Bliss! x

I'm organising pretty much everything myself. No fountains (fun but messy), very small ceremony with more for the reception, disco (fab DJ who I've seen before so it will be a damn good boogie) but no other entertainment, the venue does amazing food so the meal will be great, buffet in the evening, no favours - they just get left on the tables.

I think the more you plan for the more can go wrong! I'm fairly laid back and don't want 'stuff' to take over the day I marry my man ? but I appreciate for some all these details make it all the more perfect.

It just goes to show how different people are. I hated the thought of fuss etc etc but also needed to be in complete control and consequently had everything the way I wanted. Had anything gone wrong then I would have had to deal with it but thankfully the people at my venue ensured that the bulk of things were left to them. It was just the smaller things like favours / confetti etc that i just said a big NO to!

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All i know is i want something thats about and reflects me and mr delicious. unfortunately it all seems to be ending up in a fussy theme but i'm sure it will be fine. I want to do most of it myself anyway.

Hey there, I think one major deciding facto is the budget, first of all - because then even if you want a theme park and cute bunny rabbits hopping about it your colour scheme - its not going to happen! but generally speaking we were going for something simple anyway, we're having an afternoon-evening do as I didn't want to take up the whole day and could provide a meal, buffet and canapes for 70 people. We are doing most things ourselves and of course it would be nice to just get a wedding planner to do it all and stick to choosing colours and whatever, but for me its more fun to organise ourselves.

oh dear its a rant, sorry...

We are planning our own,.Church, sit down meal for 50+ and disco for 100 in the evening. Our venue has a wedding coordinator who sets everything up for us on the day. We are aiming to keep it simple but elegant.

Sometimes I wish I could have a wedding planner, only because the wedding is sometimes all my brain thinks about. We still have just under 9 months to go and all the big things are booked but we are at the point where it's abit soon to do anything else but I still cant stop organising in my head. To tell you the truth it's driving me nutty. ☹️

I don't think I'd have been happy with someone else oraganising it all for me, I like to have a plan!

Don't get me wrong, some bits have been difficult and at times it would have been nice to be able to say "you sort it out" but now that it is all sorted I'm pleased that I know all the details and I'm confident that if anything does go wrong on the day then it'll be fine - if I didn't know the details I wouldn't be so sure of that.

Half the time I don't have a clue what I want. I'm not sure it's so much a wedding planner I would want but i would love to have someone to help me pull my ideas together into something cherent.

As for things like all the added extras cartoonists fountains etc not really fo me, flowers and a band/ disco are all I am after in addition to guests who I am hoping will have a lovely time

I have planned mine all myself as i too am a control freak on the scale of Monica from friends my OH tells me!! Both of us wanted a small intimate wedding and a massive party, although i wanted it to be posh suppose formal is a better word i also wanted it not to be in peoples face, so i suppose understated grandeur best desribes mine our venue oozes this.

It was important for me to reflect both myself and my partner and our families, i dont like fuss just elegance and formality. Food is importance to us both and i will say the majority of our budget has gone on food and venue, the trimming such as cake, flowers etc are not as important, to me a good crowd of people surrounded by fantastic food and wine is what i am after.

K x

Have to agree that budget is the biggest factor to the decisions that we all make. Also the theme and feel that you want for your wedding.

Ive been married before so I guess Im well practiced in what worked and what didnt. Ive had two weddings with families having a large amount of input...this time were paying and it's all about "us".

I think you go with whatever makes you happy and makes your day your own

T

?I think it depends on 1) Budget 2) style and theme of the day.

I'm having a relativly small wedding mainly due to our budget but even if I had an endless pot of money I wouldnt want alot of guests. The people attending my wedding are the people who are close to us and who mean a great deal to us. I don't think I'd want alot of fuss with lots of entertainers due to our budget we are only having a DJ if we had more money we would probaly have a band but these are the things I would have but due to budget restrictions am unable. THis isn't to say that my big day won't be all that I hoped for...at the end of the day its about two people celebrating their love and commitment to one another and sahring this with the people clsoe to them...

I say each to there own....