How do you know you will love each other till death do you part?

Perfectly normal.

WP is stressful, I dont think we have ever argued as much as we did in the run up to the wedding, I hated MrMini at points and I am sure he felt the same about me.

I dont think you can say that you will definatley love someone"til death us do part" I dont know whats round the corner, he could commit a terrible crime, or cheat or I could fall out of love with him, any of the above. All I can say is I took my wedding vows knowing that I intend to love him forever buts thats conditonal- the same as most other aspects of my life.

I think you just have to take that leap of faith sometimes! I can't 100% garauntee I'll love my OH til death do us part - as Mini has said, all sorts of things *could* happen that would make me fall out of love with him. It's probable that we'll go IVF route to have children, and that process itself has destroyed many relationships and is something we're both mindful of.

But it's him I imagine having children with; it's him I imagine celebrating our 10 year anniversary with; it's him I imagine retiring with and hopefully having grandchildren and lots of lovely holidays. But who knows what the future will bring, really?

(And last week he was driving me MAD, so you're not the only one!)

Thank god!

i hope this feeling passes soon...

I think it's natural. I've been with my OH for 8 years, we got together when we were 19 and before that I'd never really had any sort of relationship with boys (or men!). People say that you won't stay with the first person you meet, we met at uni where we were supposed to just go through partners but we didn't. A couple of months ago I got a little bit scared, wondering if I should have had more boyfriends/whether I was ready to settle down at only 27 but in the end my OH makes me happy. We argue, and *** but we have fun together too. Basically we are both huge geeks who deserve each other! You don't know what the future hold but I think if you can see yourself on the same path in life together still having fun then you're on the right track. Everything in life is a gamble, there are no rules so you have to trust yourself. Don't they say the most stressful things in life are moving house and getting married?

I'm sure you will be fine and hopefully its just wp stress, i dont know if i will be with my oh till death do us part i can only hope so but who really knows that for sure? we all go into marriage with the best of intentions but sometimes life doesn't go how we plan, its unpredictable, hard and at the best of times trying marriage is no different you never know whats around the corner but if you love each other and it feels like you fit then just enjoy the here and now and be hopeful your future together will be a long and happy one, being together for longer than a lot of marriages last must be some proof of how much you care for each other, try not to doubt yourself and good luck with the rest of your planning xx

The part that came up as stars was supposed to say b*tch - nothing ruder than that!

Very normal.. i told my other half the morning before our wedding i didnt wanna go ahead with it, just because we were both stressed we had guests everywhere and we just didnt get any time together.. but to be honest i think its normal to have these feelings, but as for the death do us part.. who ever really knows whats around the corner? i dont mean were going to get divoreced in 30years but nobody knows the future... if i make sense? lol

Weve already done the in ''sickness and in health'' part- oh was in hospital from end of jan 2010 till mid nov 2010and was very close to death so if we can pull thru that then we can kinda face anything else life throws at us.... as forrest gump said ''lifes like a box of chocolates- you never know what your gona get'' i think that is very true for our lives

Wow. Good for you! Thanks for your reply.

You don't but how would you feel if you lost him tomorrow? You can't protect yourself from the pain that you might get in future by not taking risks.

You don't and can't possibly know you're going to love each other for the absolute rest of your lives. How could you ever predict that? But he makes you happy in the here and now and thats what matters. If you can see a future together then even better. Everyone has times in their relationship where they drive each other up the wall.

D and I have been together 5 years in february. We will have been engaged for three of those years. We split up in june 2010, because neither of us were sure we wanted to be together forever, we weren't sure we really loved each other etc. But when it came to actually being apart it was awful. We have fun together, make each other laugh till we're crying and I miss him terribly every second he is away from me. That is a very recent development and its only since May this year that i've been 100% sure the wedding was going to go ahead. That was only because we went to london for a weekend and there is a picture of us together and when i saw it i thought 'wow i've not seen that kind of smile on me for years and years' and realised that actually i am happy. If in the future that comes to an end then so be it.

It's simple - you don't know for certain. You get married and it seems easy, but it takes work and compromise. You have to make sure you work together and grow together and COMMUNICATE! It doesn't just happen. And even if you're not still madly in love in 30 years you may still have the friendship, companionship, mutual respect and understanding to stay together.

I agree with jude. Who knows if we'll still be madly in love when we're in our 80s? What is love? Love is what we make it. If being in love is friendship, companionship, understanding and commitment then, yes, I really believe I will feel all of those things every day until the day I die.

My dealings with the site http://yourdeathdate.info had ended in a nasty exchange with the site`s management. Just about half a year ago my girlfriend took a death-prediction test and found out that she had only about a month and a half left to live. When she had only a day left before the predicted date, she started showing clear signs of agitation and got into a car accident exactly on the predicted date. She survived accident, but the that was a real close call. We are now taking legal action again this site on our lawyer`s advice.

I know alot of people are being very head over heart on this subject and saying anything could happen, which in actual fact it could.

Alot of divorces have been in my family and my parents themselves are separated. However theyv never stopped loving each other.....its just a different LOVE, more like brother & sister or friends.

I think the title of the post should be "How do you know you will be in love with each other till death do you part"?

They way i feel about my partner is im 100% confident i will always feel this way, i wont allow anything come in-between it..........everyday stresses is what usually causes relationship break downs , getting in a rut , money , kids , etc etc the list is endless. But i think its important to keep the bond and have couple time, just anything to show the appreciation even if its something simple as a foot massage . I think couples that keep the appreciation going in a relation ship , stay in love for years. But even so..........i dont think you would ever stop "loving! your partner unless they done something to hurt you, just maybe when you get older just in a different way , than the passionate inlove way you do when your younger ............thats jus my take on it i think what your going thru is very normal all our OH get on our nerves and some days we may not feel it as much as others but its still there

The discussion of the ways in which one`s death date can effectively be predicted has recently been rapidly spreading over the net. A few months ago one priest filed suit against a the site http://yourdeathdate.info when this site predicted that his death was only a year away. What got him especially worried was the fact that just about seven months before that his colleague had taken the same test and died exactly on the predicted date. Sad but true.

By the way, suppose you know your death date - does that put your life at ease? Has any of you tried? I am going to find out. Here is a link to the site where I am thinking of taking this kind of test - http://yourdeathdate.info I am not sure though if it`s worth taking that test there.

I think there's a massive difference between deep down knowing you're not doing the right thing, and pre wedding nerves.

10yrs ago I was engaged to my now ex husband, planning a wedding. There were lots of reasons in hidsight it was doomed to failure (he was 18yrs older, I was wife no. 3, we were from wildly differing social backgrounds, and he'd been open about believing that certain things e.g. money were more important than relationships) but I ignored these because I truly believed that if we loved each other, it would be OK, wouldnt it? and even if not, then I was allowed to make a mistake. We split up a month before the wedding - he said he couldn't go through with it, but I persuaded him otherwise. The marriage lasted 15 months. Looking back, I think I knew that "until death us do part" was a lie, and it wasn't going to be forever, but I couldn't even admit this to myself, let alone anyone else. Dad asked me, en route to the ceremony, if I was sure, and I said yes. But at that point, with guests all assembled, what else could I say?! I just prayed and hoped, and it didn't work. Much as predicted, I guess. (and no, I wasn't a naive teenager, I was 28 with a fair bit of life experience, but hey, love is blind!

This time, I've been with H2b for ages. No idea when we became a couple, just that we met as mates in 2004 and now we're engaged and just bought a house together. We know each other pretty well and even though the "spark" isn't always there, we're very compatible (socially, morally, values-wise, future hopes-wise etc). I'm scared about getting married again, for fairly obvious reasons, but when we moved in together a month ago (after virtually living together at my old house anyway) it didn't seem like a big change. We've survived some pretty major stresses (buying a house, career changes, my bipolar disorder flare-ups) and come out the other side. I can see us in 10, 20, 50yrs time. No idea if I'll be "in love" with him then, but we'll be together still, and loving each other (subtle difference I know).

If you're making a mistake, you'll know, in your heart of hearts xxxx

Definitely normal! My OH and I had never really argued until after we got engaged where we had the biggest argument EVER (which was largely wedding planning related!!) but it cleared the air and now we're loving planning our wedding together!!!

these are great! More please

It is very normal i think. Before i am married and was going to married, i asked myself so many times. But after marriage, i know that we should believe both you and him and trust that you will love each other until die. Don't think that you two will depart. One have some reason to be part, we have no choice. So now since you two still love each other try to love.

10/10 for grammar.

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Nice. English might not be amilydress's first language. Not to mention the fact your comment could put someone off posting if they are dyslexic or new for that matter.

I was going to say the same . Cruel

amilydress is a spammer...

Geez, seriously?! It was a lighthearted comment. Some people are way too sensitive if they take offense at that.

My boy has special needs but tries his best at grammer but would be upset if someone commented on it. I personally think its a bit insulting to comment on how someone writes . This is IMO of course

As Mrs C said though, the poster's a spammer. I wouldn't ridicule someone who has genuine special needs. I'm not that low.

Spammer or not it was a rude and insulting reply. And no, not sensitive, beanbump has given a very good reason why a comment such as yours could be construed as insulting.

I'm unaware at how being a spammer has anything to do with it .... ?

Anyway , its Friday and Im not arguing with anyone, just thought I would express how carefully others can be upset by a comment like that .