How involved is your other half in the wedding planning?

I've done him a disservice saying just honeymoon and suits but I wouldn't say it's an equal thing either. Hes open to discussing and loves the whole elope in Lapland thing so its not like he doesn't have any interest it's more there isn't that much for him to sort with our low key wedding ?

Hi everyone - just to clarify, the option for 'some things' doesn't just mean honeymoon and suits. They're just examples. Apologies if it's not clear, I meant for it to read like 'some stuff, but not everything'.

Hope that clears it up a bit!

Zoe x

Mine has a say in everything and we have split the tasks out so I have put us as sharing the load.

However, I am in charge of the money and have to chase him about things he 'forgets' :-)

We decide stuff jointly...then I pay it, book it, organise it etc. Same as everything else in our house haha

I'm voting for the.... If it wasn't for me there'd be no wedding haha. He has only just come to realise its not that far away and we need to finally pull our finger out lol.

edit - I do give him the option to get involved but he just wants to sit back and relax, which is totally cool with me no bridezilla here ??

My OH really wants to be involved and we make any decisions together so it is very equal here. We've said from the start that we both decided to get married so we should both organise it. He enjoys talking about the wedding almost as much as I do ?

My OH has done most of the organising tbh, I'm quite happy to let him. He txt me one day and said ' booked DJ today darling, he did Andy Murrays wedding so should be good, is that ok?'

Lol, not long to go now, tasting on Thursday to look forward

He's always said he wanted to be totally involved and make decisions jointly but actually it's been me running ideas past him and him saying 'yes, that's fine'.

He definitely wanted to sort his suits and his ring. He has done neither of these things yet ?

I say 'equally' but he has some very definite ideas, even as far as bridesmaid and flower girl dresses! Most of them are very good and I'm happy to go along with. He's a very organised person and loves a spreadsheet or two so he's taking charge of all that side and I get to make things look pretty

This is exactly us!!!

Erm... I think he knows the date?!

In all seriousness we've chosen the venue, the wedding breakfast options, the cake flavours and the suits together, the rest has been me. I'm not complaining though because it's meant I can do what I want.

I chose the 'some things' option. I run everything by him so he has been involved in all the choices, but generally it's me doing the planning and him saying whether or not he likes it. The one thing he is doing completely on his own is the sweet table - I'm banned from that!

This is pretty much our set up too. I do all the research and organising but run everything by him before I actually book anything. When he has to be present somewhere for a meeting (i.e. venue, TOG, VOG, even chair covers) he's quite actively involved, he doesn't sit there like a mute or act disinterested. But there wouldn't be a meeting in the first place if I hadn't booked it!

Another entry for the 'some things' option.

I run every decision by him and we discuss together, but I'm the one doing all of the research and booking.

I refuse to organise his suits, though. That's all on him - and if he looks silly on the day, I don't care

I did have to think about this one! We're pretty much 50/50, he's spending every evening in the garage creating a wooden wishing well (for the cards) and a sweetie ferris wheel, while I'm working on the invites, the website and anything stationery. He booked the registrar and paid the ceremony fee while we both looked at venues and I went shopping for my dress without him obviously. We're both super excited and both working together pretty well

I wouldn't say it's equal, but he is very good. If I ask him to do something he does it, and when I have issues with suppliers (read stupid venue coordinator) he has stepped in on more than one occasion so I don't bridehulk out on the guy!

i think I'm just more organised than him, so want to get stuff done sooner...

I did pretty much everything, but then my husband specifically told me he wanted to be surprised (he was!). We agreed the invitations together, he helped with the signboards, menu ... mind you, I love organising things and I really got to surprise him. Plus, I always told him if he wanted to know or do more then he just had to ask.

He's having his say in the important things like the venue and food but other than that he's leaving it up to me. Totally fine with both of us! xx

He's had equal input into the big stuff but I'm running past him everything else I have ideas for (apart from my dress, none of his business, and his suits, none of mine!). He's asked for a chocolate fountain so I'm leaving that to him to organise because it's something I won't be using on the day, so it's entirely up to him what he wants for that part of it.

I'm probably doing the lion's share of the research but we're making every decision together.

e.g. I found 2 venues where we could get married on a barge but we went to see them together and jointly decided which we wanted to book.

He did find his own wedding ring though and is deciding what will be engraved inside both rings (I won't get to look at that until the big day!).

I'd say he's played a very active part in everything, even down to what music will be played for the ceremony and while guests are waiting etc.

It's a breath of fresh air after Husband #1 who took no interest in anything other than his own shoes and then wondered why he wasn't getting excited ?

My other half is not bothered about planning the big day at all. I ask him a question and the answer is always, what ever makes you happy. I quite like that I could organise a day fit for a princess but it is also infuriating and its put me off planning anything!

Mine: Not at all apart from if I say what about this and he says yes basically. He had two job: first one was organise suits for his 2 best men and his groomsman. Guess who is now doing that.... I've asked 3 times for suit measurements now and still not got them. I'm now going to say give me measurements by x date, or you won't be a best man/groomsman. His other job was pick one of the two readings for the ceremony. I have now picked both. I've liked doing most of it, but honestly I'm starting to feel the stress now!

Mine started off well, but very quickly lost interest and has subsequently left it all to me.

He shows an interest only when it comes to something food related. Although he's fairly quick to voice that he doesn't like something. Usually once it's already been sorted. Only to change his mind a week later ?

I am definitely the one in charge because getting married is all I have ever wanted and so planning it all is exciting for me! My OH does get involved and we discuss different options etc but I am the one who researches, books appointments and makes sure things are paid.

My other half is involved in every tiny little detail. I love that he's so involved and has definite ideas about what he wants. We are also very lucky that we are definitely on the same page regarding our day....

I did the lot, including the suits and honeymoon. When it got close to the wedding he'd do jobs I gave him when he was at home and I was at work, like going into town and collecting things, he sent out a few invites and he got a sign made that he wanted but that's about it!

Mine is turning up lol

Equally

We have been engaged a while (10 years) and never really got into setting a date etc but recently it has come up more and we are in the early stages of planning and he is very involved in everything

I'm giving this a cheeky bump! There must be more of you out there to vote in the poll!

Zoe x

This, lol

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OH has been really good about getting involved. All of our decisions so far - venue, cake, flowers, photographer, entertainment - have been made together. He even chose the fabric for my evening cheongsam!

I've never understood the obsession with a wedding being "the bride's day"; last time I checked, there were two people involved in a wedding!! J is definitely more organised than me, and better at making decisions, but we've always talked about how we'd want our wedding (he said he wanted to marry me a month into our relationship!) so now it's official, it's just a matter of finding what fits our imagined wedding and budget! Luckily we want exactly the same sort of thing... It's the parents' and grandparents' involvement and opinions that are stressing us out!