how many bridesmaids?

Hiya lisa.....i have no sisters or close family relatives so i've got my 3 best friends (who are same age as me) and three little flower girls (all will be age 4 at wedding)

one thing to bear in mind is budget (if you are paying for their dresses, shoes, jewellery, gifts, hair and make up on the day etc etc) obviously if you go and have loads of adult bridesmaids it's going to be expensive!

i am involving more of my close friends by having them do readings at the ceremony, or maybe you could ask a close friend to be a witness for signing the register. all of this stuff gets people involved and part of the day maybe you could try something like this to involve your mates xx

I had a problem choosing as I had to pick my 2 sisters (there would have been hell to pay if I hadn't) but I couldn't have coped with just them as they aren't really on the same wave length as me & will (& have) disagreed/sulked/argued/belittled my choices & opinions. But I also wanted my 3 closest friends, but for some unfounded reason I wanted an even number so I also asked a friend who I've only known a few years but to whom I am very close to. So I have 6. (Although 1 since got pregant & chose to opt out but has since lost th ebaby & feel a bit shallow asking her if she wants to do it again but really need to)

We're also having 5 best men, 2 flower girls and 2 page boys (I'm all about the even numbers). I'm really looking forward to it but I always cringe a little when I see how many I'm having.

Good luck with your decision

I am one of 4 girls, my OH has a sister and I have lots of close girlfriends and I still ended up with 6! You just have to think of your budget and practicalities and then take it from there.

I'm having my twin daughters (who will be 9) and my two best friends and I'm very happy with that, however the other day one of my kids asked (in front of my neice) how come my niece isnt a bridesmaid, you have to draw the line somewhere is the answer she got - there's lots of friends I'd love to ask, but its just not practical.

For me, i always knew who i would have. My 2 sisters and my niece

Well I orginally had 2 adult bridesmaids and 3 flower girls planned, but my nan has added another adult bridesmaid and another 2 flower girls, luckily my uncles are paying for thier dresses so Im let off here and Ill let my nan have her way just this once as it's her 1st proper family wedding she's been involved in ?

I had a similar dilemma - I always wanted to have OH's sister (not because we get on fantastically or anything, just more as a gesture to OH's family) and one of my closest friends who is pretty much family - I've known her all my life as our parents are friends. Then I also wanted my goddaughter. So that left 3 of my closest girlfriends - I could either choose 1 or 2 of them or not have any of them. At the end, that's what I ended up deciding!

I didn't want to have 6 bridesmaids, more because of cost than anything else, and I couldn't choose between my 3 friends, so I just explained the situation to them and they were all fine about it. So now I have 3 bridesmaids and 1 flower girl, who is my cousin (and also my goddaughter's younger sister)

I really think you just need to do what you think is right, and real friends will understand your decision.

Tbh the more there are, the more hassle you have. I saw something in one of the wedding mags where she asked her friends to come as "pink ladies" and wear dresses in any shade of pink - could you do something like that?

I'm just having my friends little girl as the FG and then my two boys and my nephew as pageboys. I don't really like adult bridesmaids for some reason, I told my best friend and she looked a bit put out but I know it's because she just wanted a free dress and shoes! I think you have to go with what you want. My aim was to keep this wedding as simple as possible and involving several women and their differeing tastes was just too much for me.

Luckily we dont have any sisters so do not have a problem with that.

We hav a few girl cousins, but luckily all but one are over 30 and would not really like being one, and the one that is left is the one i am having and we are really close, even though she is in Australia.

I am also having 3 other girls (one is a chief bridesmaid) and they are childhood friends who i have known since i was a baby.

I have a couple of close friends who i would have liked to have picked, but i thought 4 was enough and it made sence to have the people who i have known the longest.

x

I'm having my sister and mu best mate, so 2 in total. One thing to consider is bridesmaids can be particularly expensive additions to ur budget!

Yes, i would definatly take in to account cost of bridesmaids.

We have asked our bridesmaids to fund there own dresses, as we dont have a very large budget, but we will be buying the shoes and accessories.

x

I always knew I would have my sister as a BM then I asked 1 other friend. There are other friends that I could have asked but you have to draw the line somewhere.

Don't feel pressured by anybody. Choose who you really want and then say to the others that you are really sorry but you have a limited budget and would loved to have had everybody as BMs but you just couldn't stretch that far.

Well i am havin my sister and my best friend as BM's. also having my OH's little cousin as FG, and her big bro is page boy. We babysit for his cousin so had to have the 2 of them on the wedding! they are very cute and a great wee team. As for other BM's well It was going to be difficult to them draw the line at which friend not to have. so might be best to go sisters and Best friend.