How many guests are you having at your wedding?

We're having 60 guests x

We made a list of all the people we wanted there, friends & family. We added it up and as I have a huge family it came to 140 to invite , although it will end up around 120 who will accept (and includes about 20 children),

What we did was make a list of people we both wanted to invite, and then went through it together asking questions - when did we last speak to them/see them/if they weren't there would we regret not inviting them etc. After that we had the number of people to invite!

We have roughly 80 in the day for the wedding breakfast and possibly around 120 for the evening.

We have 75 in total to the day & about the same again to the evening x

Ours is a little odd...

Church - between 70-100

Wedding breakfast 46

evening up to 200

We have 2 weddings. The first in Birmingham we're having 230 and for the London one it's at 350 so far. It's only an overlap of about 50 guests for each as it's close family going to both.

350 is classed as 'small' by the way for an Asian wedding, so counting myself lucky.

About 120 during the day, then another 30 in the eve.

I count myself lucky too!

We're having 100 to the ceremony. That's our families, close family friends and our own close friends. If it had been up to us (and us paying) we'd have kept this number and only added a handful of friends for the evening. But my dad is Indian and together we negotiated that he could invite about 100-110 people to the evening (that will actually come... we've sent out invitations to people who definitely won't come as they live abroad). Our sit-down meal is in the evening. I appreciate it was really a big compromise for him as at his own wedding there were almost 1000 guests.

My wedding is teeny-tiny for an Asian wedding, but I keep having to tell him "I don't care, as we are NOT having an Indian wedding, it is OUR wedding!"

FutureMrsJ - were getting married on the same day I just noticed!! Hows everything going x

Future MrsJ - it's crazy the numbers they have! They end up inviting all the people from their village, in-laws of in-laws and the rest of their families! I mean even at our wedding we won't know most of the people there! Our friends 1st wedding had a big turn out like your dad's, then for his 2nd wedding he had about 50 people - much more manageable and enjoyable.

I too had always wanted this but H2B has a big family. Problem is he never sees them, and even though we'll have been together almost 5yrs when we get married I will be meeting some of them for the first time. We decided upon Pollokshields Burgh Hall for our wedding, and luckily we fell in love with one of the rooms with a feature fireplace and the limit for the ceremony in that room is 50people. More than I would have wanted but at least I know that's our limit and there's no way that extra numbers are going to pop up through the planning because the legal limit is 50 - sorted. We are however having our reception in one of the other rooms which allows about 130 people for the evening I think, so that will pretty much be a free for all. I don't mind too much though, now that's it's all sorted - it was important to me only to have close family and friends at the ceremony, but I don't mind if there's a few unfamiliar faces at the party!

Oh tell me about it! My dad is inviting all HIS cousins (most of whom he never sees) and when I tried to protest he said "But these people are VERY close family"... not in my book! My grandma has insisted on inviting her next-door neighbours and her best friends. I am VERY lucky though compared to some haha!

Like Mellow_Yellow, I'm just focusing on the fact that only the people WE want there will actually be witnessing our vows, and by the time it gets to the party I won't mind if there are some people there I don't recognise.

We will have about 120 people (including children) at the church and for seated meal and then about another 80 for the evening meal.

I come from a big family. My family are Carribbean and similar to Indian families they want to invite the world and 4th generation cousins etc! I've told them that can't happen. Just my aunts, uncles and first cousins etc is about 90! I've had to invite the male cousins to the evening part as if I had all my family at the meal I would have no room for my closest friends.

I am also from a caribbean family that do not think they have to RSVP especially as most of my family arrange their own weddings and catering so everyone can attend. As we are going the formal route we are having 60 in the day, consisting of immediate family and close friends and approx 90 in the evening when everyone else can come along.

We've got around 110 for the ceremony and an additional 70 for the evening....

I do have Indian blood in me but we're not inviting "everyone and their dog"

We orginially wanted a small wedding but we both have big families however we have cut it down to 60 for the day and then probably another 40 - 50 in the evening..

We have about 90 for the day and 130-140 in the evening (inc 90 day guests)

If everyone comes then there will be 70 including me and the OH with no extras for the evening. We didn't want to end up with the situation of being "well, we have to invite so and so if we're inviting..." so we're not inviting work colleagues and we're not inviting cousins unless I/we've socialised with them or seen them recently (the last full family gettogether was my cousin's wedding 13 years ago, they've since divorced). The same goes goes for relatives of relatives and children of relatives. Our numbers would have easily ended up well over 150 in that case...

I hear that JoJo! I am putting clearly on my RSVP "failure to RSVP will result in us assuming your non attendance" I will also be putting our church time an hour before the start time!

We are inviting 130 to the whole day but will prob end up with only 110 for the day then another 40 for the evening!!! xxx

200 to the church and disco in evening. 100 for the buffet. Don't know how many will come though.

Hi we are having about 45 to the day then an extra 170 in the evening, although assuming at least 30 or more wont come! like someone said when you realise how much the day part can cost numbers can easily be cut! we have just invited immediate family to the day with very close friends then cousins and everyone else to the evening reception

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We're hovering around the 100 mark - including nearly 20 children - although we do have a reserve list (does that sound awful?) of people we'd like to invite if we have room when we've had the rest of the RSVPs back.

About 45 of the guests are family and h2b currently has about 15 more guests on 'his' side than I do on mine, so I'm itching to catch up!

We're having 70 during the day & a further 30 to the evening do.

We are having 41 for the full day

We are having around 65 in the day slightly more people than i really want but still and then we have to have a minimum of 120 at the night

We are having 15 people, and we are taking them away for a few days for the wedding and then planning to ave a meal with about 30 friends when we get back

I'm in the same situation as you Anniepie. We can afford to feed about 60 people, close friends and family. We want as many friends to come for the ceremony then to re-join us for drinks later in the evening. We're having the ceremony at 330, wedding breakfast at about 530 so they should be able to return for drinks and music after 730.

Were having approx 160 to the wedding & meal and then a further 180-200 at the evening reception.

Im the only girl, OH is an only child & we both have big families ie aunts & uncles & cousins.

Im assuming at least 10 people wont be able to make it out of the 160 - I know of 8 who definately wont come.

We're having 33 (including us!) at the ceremony, 8 of them are kids, same for the wedding breakfast and about 200 joining us at night - I have a big extended family and he has a rugby club to invite lol

We are having 65 guests in the day including 9 children, and around 100 guests in the evening. x

If we invited all our family and relevent friends (not acquaintences) there'd be 180 adults and about 30 kids. Were keeping it more intimate with day guests of about 70 (and about 20 kids) and evening wll be about 150 all included!