How many reminders for a RSVP response classes as?

Snap!

Our RSVP date was on Monday, we've still got people that haven't replied. It really annoys me too!

How long have people had the invites?

Ditto, our rsvp date was yesterday and still waiting on quite a few.. really annoys me. Im giving them until 10th june if no word then there not coming haha xx

Our RSVP deadline is sat 11th June - 3 weeks before. Anyone who hasnt replied will get a phonecall or a text. If they havent came back by say the Tue/ Wed I will be assuming they are not coming - we need to do table plans, get the info to the Paper Doll to actually do the table plan, the name place cards etc

Its soooo rude. People ringing to let us know in my opinion isnt good enough - we included addressed RSVP - all they need is a stamp.

Are they RSVPs from people you'd want to have there? I have two outstanding but both singletons and somewhat estranged family members so as far as I'm concerned, that's that. No chasing. Also less complicated as we haven't been inviting others to fill places. But I think you need an answer. Send a final text/email/call, saying that you are sorry they cannot make it and that you will catch up with them at another date? Would your "fillers" be evening guests that are bumped?

They have had the invites since February! The day ones are almost sorted (all being one person that has split up with her husband and is deliberating coming on her own - god forbid she has to do this ?) The ones we are waiting for are evening guest and yes we would like them there, but the longer it goes one without a reply I am thinking why did we bother inviting them in the first place.

Our guests had stamped return envelopes provided in their invitations, and six months to get them back to us, and we still had to chase almost half of our invitees. We sent reminders on our rsvp dates, followed some up a second time 2 weeks later, and we're still waiting on six people, although two have medical reasons they can't reply yet.

It is frustrating, and it's rude not to reply, but I guess a lot of people don't understand that RSVP means a reply is required, not just "let us know if you can come".

*Updated* to say the ones we were waiting back from are declines! I just wish they could have said - why is it so difficult to say no.

Perhaps they were hoping that circumstances would change to allow them to come, or felt awkward and hoped you'd forget you'd asked them? Were they important people to you or just people you felt had to be invited?

When we chased our non responders by phone, most seemed apologetic for not responding and there are two awaiting medical appointments which may or may not mean they are able to come depending on the date of the operation, so we said we understood and are happy to give them until much nearer the time to get a definite final answer, so we'll be chasing them in early August - which gives us 6 weeks left so there's no mad panic changing table plans etc.

The thing is... even if there IS something which means your plans may have to change at a later date, a call or quick note to say 'yes/no but not if this happens - will keep you posted' is just polite!

My 'auntie' called to say that her daughter was due to have her baby that month and that she might have to call off at the last minute - she was an all day guest so I was able to tell my venue. As it was her daughter ended up having the baby 2 weeks before but she was so knackered looking after mother, baby and their other little one she avoided going to the doctor and ended up putting herself in hospital with pleuracy (sp) on the day!

Ditto! Our date was 1st June as well and we are still waiting for about 8-10 of the RSVPs!

How hard is it? Really!?

I just don't get it. People had their Save the Dates from us a year ago, so no one can suddenly be surprised that they're now invited to our wedding! We put stamped addressed envelopes with our invitations and people still can't seem to send them back. The worst seem to be our work colleagues who we see practically every day. They don't even have to post their replies.

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I feel your pain!

The majority of our guests have been ok however:

One person never acknowledged invite, never sent rsvp card back, said "is it just the night?" when we chased him, then finally after more chasing said he was coming.

Another has had the invite for nearly 3 months, has told us (after chasing repeatedly) it may be difficult to get the time off work. Then after our rsvp deadline passed I chased him again and he said he'd have to find out if he could have the time off - hadn't even flipping asked yet!!!! And to add insult to injury he asked where and when it was - read your invite!

Finally, there were a few family members who had not responded so I got my mum to chase them after the deadline had passed. She said she asked them and they were all coming and had booked the hotel. I'm supposed to be pshycic am I?

Sorry replying to your post was an excuse for a little rant If I were you though I'd get in touch with them saying you need to know by XX date because you need to let the venue know numbers, and if you don't hear from them you will assume they are not coming. Then if they still do not reply, send them a "sorry you can't join us" text (which really means f-off you're not coming).

Oh we had a few of these! one in particular (she did the same on my hen and didn't come!) - i text her on the friday (3 weeks after the rsvp deadline!) saying we needed to give final numbers and that if i didn't hear from her by monday, I would assume she wasn't coming - she text back quick enough saying she was - and a week before the wedding i asked if she was still coming and she said no!!!! i didn't want her there anyway!!!! cow!

but i think if you do the 'if i don't hear from you by...., then i assume you aren't coming' then its up to them and you can't say you didn't warn them! if they can't be bothered to reply then you don't want them there anyway! my own cousin didn't even bother to reply! their loss - we had a great day without them and they weren't missed at all!!!!

I gave them a week after the RSVP date and then chased them up and basically said we need to know and we need to know today. The only ones who are still unsure is the BM's wife and child who are 'probably' coming! I have said they have until the end of June and then OH has to get a definate yes or no from them - they have had a year to decide after all! Also my BM is due to give birth two weeks before the wedding so she and her OH are yes but things may change if the baby is late! This is understandable.?

The evening invite deadline was yesterday but we got two in the post today, so again I'll leave a week and then ask for a firm yes or no.

I think this is so rude. I havent got to the invites stage but I am dreading it. We will be putting on our invites "failure to rsvp by x date will result in us assuming your non attendance and we shallnt include you in the catering numbers" or something like that.

I've started to tell people already I wont be chasing! At £60 a head if you cant be arsed to respond I will put that money back in the honeymoon pot thanks very much

It's madness isn't it.... I had quite a few I had to chase up, and then no fewer than 6 cancellations right up 'til the day before the wedding (including my own stepsister/witness who said she couldn't afford to come!!!) and then a further 3 no-shows on the day.

A big, fat MEH to them. Especially given my wonderful BIL and his wife who were absolute troopers and came along in spite of her having had a baby by c-section just NINE days before the wedding. A-mazing effort on their part and we were thrilled they put the effort in to coming.