How much imput are your H2B's having in the organising of your weddings?

We're pretty much on the same page with things, and as he works away so much he is happy for me to take the lead on most things. But the big decisions we make together. When he's away and I want to run something by him, I know all I have to do is to email him a pic or anything like that, or text him and say "what do you think about blah blah".

My OH is currently very into wedding planning, more so than me LOL, my main thing is the dress!! He has just booked us a trip to Rome to visit venues, hotels and restaurants :-)

My OH is very involved - we have gone to wedding fairs together and I would never buy anything without him knowing about it - he even knows about my dress (cost etc though lol he has not saw it)

He has ideas, which I try to encourage. And I check everything through with him before I commit to anything. Although I did all the work finding tog and eve entertainment, he went with me to meet them before committed ourselves to them. I would prefer for him to be a bit more involved and, if I'm honest, I'm a bit disappointed that he's not helping more.

My h2b will only talk about it when he wants lol. He is just so laid back he struggles to think about things till closer to the time, he said to me the other day we can talk about it closer to time and my responce of we only have 8 weeks to go got him interested! x

To begin with, my H2B also said things like 'we'll decide nearer the time' -this was a year in advance and really hacked me off at the time. I would do the research, go to him with 3/4 options and we would decide together which was best.

As we approach, I have to say that he has improved greatly and, at the moment, he is my sounding board as problems occur and the peace maker for family upsets. He is very supportive of everything, as I think he has realised that it is so close and is very patient with me about everything. So, all in all, although it annoyed me at first that he didn't appear to care, he clearly did and he has just been a constant source of support throughout.

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My H2B bought me a wedding planner and 'the wedding bible' book shortly after we got engaged and since then has only got involved when ive asked him something or arranged for us to go somewhere, i couldnt see him taking the lead on anything! Generally i'll research everything then present him with ~3 options and we make the final decision together, that way he's involved at the crucial part and luckily so far he's always liked atleast one of the options so theres been nothing to disagree on - yet!

On all the main things OH has had equal input however when i have a huge smile on my face he knows he has no chance bless him and agrees! i am sure over the next 8 and a bit months we will have some more discussions! My OH has been quite good at looking at all the little things so have been very impressed with him

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We've made all the decisions together. To be honest we've wanted the same things so it's not been too difficult. With the little details like decor/cake I do the research then suggest things and either get a yes or no. If it's no then I'll go back to the drawing board!

Oh how nice it is to read that I'm not alone in this!! Just been having a bit of a stress to myself that I seem to be doing everything when it comes to our wedding. OH has pretty much said, he just wants the basic legal stuff at the registry office then bugger off for a dirty weekend!! Hmmm that's not really what I have had in mind for the last, ooooh, 25 yrs or so that iI've been mentally planning this day!! ?

Doesn't help when I have no friends close or other wise! I have a half sister who would dearly love to get involved (and probably take over!) but she is in Australia, so that kinda hampers things a little! My mum doesn't seem at all interested, maybe that will chane when we go visit 2mrw and tell her we finally have a date booked? Sure she still thinks I'm due to run off with the next guy that shows an interest on the internet......(that's generally her opinion of me! not a great one, I know, but I have learned to ignore her)

Did have bit of a chat with OH the other day and he seemed to get the message that I would like his help/input/opinion on stuff that's this important!! Maybe, like yours, he will sit up and take more notice nearer the time? Here's hoping!!

I run everything past OH but to me honest me&mum have organised the wedding. He did get the band booked (work colleague) & piper (work colleague) see a theme here?! Lol. Doesn't bother me - I'm the organised one in the house & he's the laid back one ! Sometimes I get pissed off when I see me doin everything ie budgets, honeymoon, the paperwork & think how nice it wud be for someone else to look after things but hey ho!

wss! works well for us and so far no major differences in opinion.

He's paying for it... LOL! But apart from that.. he's had opinions in stuff that have been taken on board but he's not been that involved by choice I think.

He's had a lot of input. He even bought my dress, he's really into the wedding planning.

His general opinion is "you can have what you want", but I always ask his opinion, which is mostly the same as mine.

Basically I look at things, get the ideas, and check how he feels about it before any deposits are paid. The venue, caterer, and DJ I suggested, but of course we both met with them before booking anything. The caterer the suggested the TOG & VOG, and a venue decorator, so we met with them and both liked them. We met the jeweller and florist at a wedding fayre, we both liked the jeweller, and OH left the florist decision to me as he's only having a buttonhole whereas I'm having a mahoosive bouquet. I came up with the ideas for colour scheme, theme, favours, invitation design, etc. OH has said that he isn't interested in these things as such, but I still consult him in case he absolutely hates something. Obv my dress, shoes, veil, etc - are all me!

Were both on the same wavelength with the wedding stuff- and i'll run things past him- but i kinda did most things last yr when he was still in icu ? ?

Mine's on a need to know basis!!, bless him he just doesn't understand the whole Wedding Planning World, in his mind we pick a date, he has a suit I have a dress, we invite a few guests and turn up on the day!!, so i'm doing pretty much all the arranging myself,. Having said that i run all the big things past him, we chose the date and venue together, he will be with me getting the marquee quotes and of course food, the only thing he has been keen on was a disco, i want a band, he wants a disco, so disco we are having. At the end of the day, I know when the time comes he will be there to help and do all the running around that is needed with out a second thought.