How quickly did you get RSVP's back?

Very quickly but that's because I didn't do a postal RSVP. I used zankyou and set up a wedding website and the RSVPs were electronic. Much quicker!

We sent our about a month ago. So far we officially have 10 people coming to the wedding that includes us. Neither of our parents have replied either. They've got until 11th May so hopefully people will actually start to send them through soon, other wise there will be a lot of chasing. Just annoying having to wait, especially as I've been told by my grandparents my aunt's not coming and she told them that a month ago, but she's not told us. So I don't want to bump someone up just yet until she tells me that she's not coming. Surely people have decided by now if they are coming or not!

We had an initial flurry in the first week but the rest have been slowly coming in. We're at about 50% received back with about 1/3 of the period given having passed. Like becomingmrsevans said, some of those we haven't received back are from people we know are coming (e.g. bridesmaids - I hope they are coming!!).

I just wish the people that know they *can't* make it would reply early so I can see if I would like to invite others in their place!

Ours trickled in steadily over the course of the six or so weeks we gave people to reply. About three of oh's friends haven't bothered replying at all so as far as I'm concerned they aren't coming! One of my friends has only been able to say a provisional yes as she is a nurse who works weekend night shifts so needs to get a definite yes for annual leave first. We gave people an email address to reply to so it was easy for them although we did get a few cards in the post too which was nice.

We sent our daughter's out in October for a March wedding and asked for replies to be in by 31st Dec. We only had a handful in by this date and ended up chasing many of them right up until beginning of Feb! People just don't understand the urgency of seating people, confirming final numbers, printing table names and plans etc and it's so annoying!

So frustrating! Ive had lots of comments about how nice the invites are but why cant they just send the rsvp back!!

Our deadline is at the end of next week and we only have about a third of the replies. My mum is inpatient and keeps going to the hotel to see who has booked in. Some people have booked their hotel and havent RSVP'd! We are organising transport so we were hoping they would be coming in faster than they are!

I haven't even had it mentioned that we sent them just total silence, including close family. Yes cousin dearest you can message me on FB to ask about borowing the Hunger Games but you can't say thanks for the invite?

It annoys me because lots of our family nagged and nagged us to send the invites, we did so a few weeks ago (earlier than planned just to shut them up) and had about 4 back from friends only. I am hoping they haven't just assumed we magically 'know' they're coming!

On another note, how strict will you be with replies? As in, no reply by the deadline = assume not coming? Or chase for a bit to give them a chance?

We sent ours out in feb with deadline by end of April. It's funny but ones we didn't get back as quick are ones who are not attending!

We are prob waiting for about a third back now and they are my own family on my mams side! They think it's ok to just turn up but I need their food and drink choices on that too. I know most of them are coming as we are close family however one of my cousins who was my bm can't tell me til right at the wedding because her baby is due!

We are going to chase once nearer the RSVP deadline and then if still no response we are assuming they are not coming and will invite someone else in their space. Sounds harsh but if they cant be bothered to reply within the 3 months they have been given then they obviously arent that bothered about being there!

We gave people until mid Feb and I rang the people who hadn't replied (and yes, they were all family!) and said that I needed a definite answer and if I didn't hear back within 7 days, I would assume they weren't coming and would invite someone else in their place. I stuck to my guns and only had one person who rang me the week before the wedding, my brother of all people, to say he couldn't make if after all. I'd already crossed him off the list anyway and told him so for being so idle!

I've had so many naggers then no RSVP. To be fair - they only went out two weeks ago but you'd think if you were bugging for the invite you'd return it promptly!

I will chase people after the deadline but will be annoyed doing it - like you havent got a million other things to do!

This is why then - people think they have plenty of time so won't bother replying immediately, or realise that it might be winding you up. And some people don't even realise that they need to RSVP - I, along with several of my friends, made this faux pas when invited to my housemate's wedding. We had spent so long talking to her about it, we just assumed that she knew we were coming until a few weeks before when she said "You know, none of you have actually told my mum you're coming!" This was the first wedding any of us had been to as adults and we just didn't realise what a mistake we'd made.

We sent ours out with a deadline 3 weeks after they would have been received and included an e-mail address as well as a card, and I think I only had to chase one person after the deadline.

My oh friend is getting married this year and he mentioned that he called him to tell him the date and that we are invited plus the dates and details for the stag party. i made a little not on the calender and left it. this was 3 months ago. as the date is getting nearer i disided to have a look online at local hotels in the area and asked my oh if his friend had told him yet where they are getting married...he replied il just go and have a look and came back and placed an invite on my lap, that had come 2 MONTHS AGO! the rsvp card stated to be back in 3 days! ? i felt terrible espesialy as we should know better as we are getting married ourselves next year. his excuse was that when his friend had called him to let him know that he was getting married and the date, he told him we would go so what was the need to rsvp??!! men!

Makes me worry if we will get any rsvps back ourselves!

I'm hoping that mine come back quite quickly. I'm only sending about 30 invites out cos we are getting married abroad so only inviting close friends and family. They will probably just tell me, cos I keep giving everyone that I will be inviting a constant update on the planning lol. I don't even know to bother with an RSVP???

We've had all our day rsvp's back (except one of the ushers, who I think assumes it goes without saying he will be there, but we still need to know dietary preferences and I want them all for a keepsake!). As for evening guests, they have until 1st May and only 30 out of 120 have rsvp's which does annoy me as we've asked them to rsvp by text so it's not much effort. As others have said, if it were me I would do it straight away so I know it's done!

haha same! frustrating isn't it...

I put my RSVP date with reference to when I needed to let the venue know final numbers but in hindsight I wish I'd put it earlier as I didn't think of all the things *I* need to do which would be made much easier with actual numbers, like telling the florist how many table centrepieces, ordering bits for the favours and stationery etc.

I just can't wait for the RSVP date to go by so I can get on to some chasing. I've given a few people a gentle prod already but only to gauge their likely response.

We dont need to submit numbers until 4 weeks before but I put ours 8 weeks before for htis reason plus then it gave us time to bump up people frmo the evening if there was space in the day.... I guess Ill just have to be patient. x

1 more received today, thats a whole 6 now!