How to be a good bridesmaid?

Congratulations to your brother and his wife to be!!

I think tbh the fact that you want to be a nice bridesmaid will probably mean that there isnt much for you to do!

My sis has been a mare - demanding very opinionated at times etc.. whcih has made it difficult but as you seem to want to help to make your brother and his w2b's day as mmuch as possible im sure you'll be perfect!

Congrats!

I would think:

Good-------give honest opinions when asked for them; ask if they would like you to do anything for them regarding arrangements; just being supportive when things get stressful.

Bad---------being constantly negative; changing your mind all the time when a decision has been made, not offering to help with any arranging,

Erm...that's all I can think of at the moment, and can I say you are gonna be a fab bridesmaid because you are thinking about how to be a good BM ....if that makes sense!!

I live 400 miles away from my BM's, them being at home where the wedding was and me in Englandshire. So I was worried about how we would do everything.

But they were fab. I was up in Scotland for a weekend and we went and got the BM dresses. Then disaster and we had to get them made at the last minute and they arranged it all with my mum, went to the fittings, got their own shoes no probs at all.

I don't have sisters so it was my two BF's and I think this helpded a bit as there was no family drama I have seen with other weddings. I also think cos I was so far away there was no chance to be a bridezilla about it all. So I guess BM's that you can rely on in a crisis is a good start.

They did get absolutely blazin drunk on the day but I heart them so wasn't bothered and they were very entertaining

I am BM for my BM next year and I guess I will be in a similar position to you where all the other BM's are at home and I am here but she hasn't planned anything as yet.

sorry just waffled on there, not sure if any of that was any use to you!

Thanks for the replies, sorry am late back to this.

I've just heard she's chosen the colour scheme which I think will suit us all and bless her, she asked me what style of dress I wanted to wear and wants me to be comfortable (I have big boobs so strapless is hard work). I said I'd wear whatever her choice is.

I think we're all going to be ok and this is going to be a fab wedding! ?

My BMs (my 2 best friends) both live in Derbyshire and I'm in Newcastle, I'm spending a lot of time worrying about how to make sure I don't make them travel up here for things too many times over the next couple of years as I don't want to put them out! The last thing I want is for them to think I am coming over all bridezilla and expecting them to spend small fortunes on petrol and give up all their weekends. So your brother's wife-to-be is probably going to be trying just as hard as you are to make sure it all works out!

Edited as didn't read original post properly, again ?

I think you'll make a great bridesmaid as you're already asking questions. I live over 100 miles from my bridesmaids, we text and email all the time. We even bought their bridesmaids dress over the phone with a little help from picture messaging! We're currently thinking of plans for the hen do, this all being done over phone. My two big bridesmaids haven't met yet, but often chat on msn and facebook. They have each others numbers. They'll meet in the next few months, hopefully. We had it all planned for them to meet last month, until one on my bridesmiads broke her elbow!

As long as you turn up to dress fittings and be there when they need it, and the occasional email of something nice you found online (mine send me random weddingy things such as pretty flowers or shoes) to make it seem like you're involved. x

My bridesmaid was a total star. She was there for me to moan to and check out my ideas and didnt turn up her nose at anything. She didnt crowd me but was there when I needed her.

On the day she amazed everyone by being a point of contact, mingling with all the guests, taking photos, ensuring everyone was happy...she was basically a Hostess and didnt stop all night. My mum was utterly amazed and asked me if I told her what to do... the only thing i told her to do was unzip me frock so i could go pee...lol. We barely saw one another once the evening kicked in, she was just the best. And its only afterwards, when I see photos or speak to people that I see how much she had done for me/us.

have a great time with the planning, the dressing up and the day itself!

Thanks everyone, all very helpful tips. I shall be open to driving down there for as many dress fittings as needed as an excuse to see the family.

I might have a look about online and see what things I can find now we know a colour scheme as I like that idea of being involved.

Cheers for the tips! x