I'm going through a sh1t time at the minute with H and I know that it is me being unreasonable but just can't get over it.
We have been together 8 years married 6 1/2 years. We both did the same job, that is how we met. This was the career I had always wanted from a very early age, H just fell into it as it was a job. After we got married I fell pregnant and H moved to a different department (we figured this would help with childcare). There had always been the agreement between us that should one of us go part-time it would be H. When I went back to work I was transfered to a different department and fell pregnant again (t'was planned). Fast forward to me going back from second lot of maternity leave. I was transfered to another dept and my hours changed. H was on shifts so had to work round them. H was fed up with his job and working shifts. I volunteered to go back on shifts and for him to get day shifts (this was something he had to sort first before I could go back to shifts). For months and months he was unhappy in his job and wanted out but did nothing about it, not even change shifts ?. The situation at home became unbearable and I decided that if I was to leave the job then H might pull his finger out and do the same. Guess what that worked and he is now doing a job he loves. Unfortunately I have not settled so well since leaving and am going from job to job. I can't settle and don't know what I now want to do, going back to my old job is not an option as so many things have changed and pride is also getting in the way..... its not an option doing it anywhere else either due to travel etc.
Everytime we argue (which is quite often now) I always bring this up as I cant forgive him for making me change (I know some people will argue that I made the dicission myself but was trying to do the best for us as it would have driven a bigger wedge between us had the situation carried on). I don't like where I am at the minute with work (or lack of as I keep changing my mind) and blame him for me being unhappy
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
That was long and probably garbled as I am typing it through tears as we have been arguing all day and he has just stormed out (something he never does).
please dont quote as may delete later and sorry for the rant, but I can't even say I feel better for it[:'(]
