I might come off like a cow here, and it's not my intention at all.
Neither me or OH are what you would describe as 'svelte'. We're not mahusive, but could both stand to lose a couple of stone (a few in my case) thanks to the onset of the middle-aged spread.
We both agreed that we'd try and lose the weight before the wedding; mainly for the honeymoon- so we'd both feel more comfortable / confident on the beach- plus I could get a cheaper dress (a lot of the shops I went into at the time charged more for plus size dresses), and he has quite a specific idea in mind for his suit and he knew it was unlikely he'd get the style in his current size.
I've been working my a*** off- quite literally- since then, dieting, running, doing classes, etc. and have lost just over 2 stone. I'm hoping to lose another 1.5 stone at least before the wedding. He has lost nada. Nothing.
I want to say at this point that I DON'T CARE. I love him, and I would love him if he was twice the size, it doesn't matter to me ONE BIT.
What DOES matter is that he's now started commenting on it. His best man sent him a link to a perfect suit t'other day (they're going shopping on Savile Row as bit of a treat at the end of June) and he was chuntering that they wouldn't have it in his size, he'll never get anything he likes that'll fit properly, etc. etc. He's also started making comments about not wanting to take his shirt off on honeymoon because he'll look like a beached whale, blah blah blah and that he'll look fat and crap in the wedding pics. I think that it's bothering him more than he lets on, but he's not doing anything about it! Infuriating man.
I've NEVER been a nag. It's one of the things that keeps our relationship strong; I never tell him what to do and vice versa. At the moment I am *that* close to telling him that he's got 3 months left- if he manned up a bit and focused he could easily lose at least a stone, if not two, in that time. But I don't want to nag, or make him feel all sensitive that I'm not happy with the way he looks, because that's not the case at all- I'm worried about his own confidence and self-esteem. What do you recommend?