How to organise my top table?

Normally theres the Best man and Cheif Bridemaid too!

What about best men or bridesmaids?

Are you having Cheif Bridemaid/Best Man? as i think they normally sit at the top table also,

As my parents are divorceed and my dad re-married (and we grew up living with my dad and step mum) our top table is going to have the following people on it

Bride/Groom/My dad & step mum/my mum/groom's parents/CBM/BM/pageboy (our son) but not in that order - dont know what order yet! HTH

Not sure if this will help at all, but an alternative would be to not have a top table at all.

We are not having a top table as I would prefer to be able to chat to everyone easily. Also, I think it would be nice for Best Man and MOH to be able to sit with their partners and kids. So we are having us two, OH parents and my parents on a circular table just like the other guests (but probably still in whatever the best location may be. It will be a table of 8 so we will have 2 free seats. However, we plan on inviting guests to feel free to come and join us for a quick chat throughout the meal time. I saw this at a friends wedding and it worked really well (we are only having about 50 guests). We will then make sure Best Man and MOH are on the same table (next to ours).

Another alternative would be to have a sweetheart table (just OH and yourself) and have your parents and OH Mum host thier own tables?

Or if you would like the traditional top table, does your OH have a brother who could possible sit with his Mum?

Hope that helps?

My H2B's dad also passed away years ago so our top table will be, my mum, my dad, me, H2B, H2B's mum, best man.

My chief bridesmaid is my SIL so she will be sitting on a table with my brother (usher), her mum and their three children (page boys and flowergirl), my two other BMs will be sitting on another table with their partners and some friends. The two tables will be as close to the top table as possible.

Were having OH's partner at the top table in the place of his dad, only becuase he passed away. How about a close male influence, like grandad, uncle etc? x

Forgot about my sister chief bm and the best man...I no that the sweetheart table can work well but don't think its something we'd opt for but thankyou ?

I mentioned to h2b about his brother or even his grandad whos he's close to but his opinion it that because he has such a small family anyway the more people sat at the top table the less there is on the other tables. Out of 140 daytime guests...appx 25 are his family! The rest are my family and a handful of friends!

Its difficult ?

Order atm will be:

BM-GM-BF-B-G-MB-?-CBM

If you take the (?) out will it look really uneven?

Don't know whether I've got the abbreviations right sorry??

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I think this would be fine. You don't need even numbers on a top table I don't think. The main thing is to have the people you would like on the top table there, and not worry about how many people this equates to.

I agree with above, it doesn't really matter, as long as you have the people who are important. We had this conversation (argument) and I reasoned that no one is going to come up to you on the day and question it (I would hope!!)

My H2B's dad also passed away a few years ago and his mum is severly disabled so I have yet to realise how we're going to work our 'top table' as it's likely she will have to have a nurse with her and may not even stay for the meal depending on our timing and location in relation to her care home.

I think we're going to get around it by having a circular table so that we can incorporate her and possibly a nurse. That said, I like the idea of a sweetheart table, then our best man can sit with his GF and our other friends, my parents and sister can sit together, and his mum can sit with her family (who will probably all fit on one table - like you, out of 75 guests, 12 are my H2B's!)

Do what feels right for you and your H2B, hope you figure something out.

My top table is going along the lines of this my cousin is giving me away, not a good relationship with my father, and me and my cousin have always been so close to me growing up, he even lived with us at one point, so he kinda the big brother i've never had !

We've also decided to have our two children sit up there with us!

Cousin - Mum - My Son - Me - Hubby - My Daughter - MIL - Best Man!

Thanks everyone for all your help!Your right...its who we feel we'd like up there with us not the tradition..its our day after all!

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xxx