How 'traditional' is your wedding?

Second time for me, so maybe slightly different. But I'm not doing a lot of the traditional stuff either. It's your day and it should be respected as such regardless of how you're doing it.

Maybe she's feeling a little left out and thinks there won't be enough 'mother of the bride' stuff for her to do and fuss over? Are you her first child to get married? Perhaps her hopes/expectations aren't living up to reality and she's finding it hard to say something?

We did the same as you, my mum couldn't understand why we wernt having a recving line for example, or why we didn't have an evening buffet. She desperately kept trying to book a "nice Rolls Royce" for me to turn up in as she diddnt see why i woukd want to turn up to a wedding in a van (it was a beautiful 1960's camper) I had to keep the fact that MrMini was getting married in brown, and in trainers from her untill the day as I knew she wouldn't "get" it and would want to know why all of the men were not wearing matching suits with a swirly waistcoat and a cravat from Moss Bros *shudders*

I had to remind her it had been a long time since she had been to a wedding, things have moved on.

Thought of another one...

she wanted to do the flowers for the tables. I only wanted bouquets and wanted no floral decoration at all in the venue. We nearly went to war over that.

Ours is about as non traditional as you can get but I've not had anybody question any of our choices.

1- We are 2 guys

2- Not having an isle.

3- Nobody giving either of us away

4- No colour theme

5- No Dj/band

6- We are staying together the night before and getting ready together morning of the wedding.

7- No Speeches

8- No Bridesmaids

9- No cars

10- No button holes

10- No first dance

11- I'm having a 'best girl' rather then a 'best man'

12- No table plan (I don't need one just having 1 large table)

13 Having a cheese tower and wedding cake(s)

Eh..hmm

No BM (although having flower girls)

Wedding dress aint white

We're only 25 people inc. 4 under 5's (wedding coordinator at our venue tried to tell us we really should try and push it up to 30!! How rude!)

No cars

No matching suits (matching ties instead)

No top hats and tails (cringe)

No DJ/Band

No first dance

No gift list

No tablenames (going to just have one large table)

Afternoon tea as wedding breakfast (although this is quite common now!)

Groom refusing to do a speech as speaking in public scares the sh*t out of him, so will only have best man speech and FOB speech.

I think that's it. We are having a florist doing the flowers and are having cake(s) and also a tog. I think our timings might also be a little unusual as we will be cutting cake before the wedding breakfast, as the cake will be our sweet element in our afternoon tea.