How young is too young?

Hi! I will be getting married next year too, but I'll only be 20 by then, which most people think is definitely too young! My OH will be 21, but we'll have been together for 5 and a half years by that point, and given that we don't want to live together until we're married, it would make the best practical sense Not many people know that we're engaged at the minute, but I'm sure I'll get lots of raised eyebrows once everyone knows :L

I also look quite young, which doesn't help matters, but I don't think 25 is young at all to be getting married. (although I guess I wouldn't :L)

As long as you know you're ready, and you're not ridiculously and obviously too young, then I don't think it matters if people think it's a bit odd

I'm getting married at 24, I have heard the whole young thing a couple of times, but its not really any of their business ? I have quite a few friends of the same age getting married this year or next.

I wouldn't dare say to somebody that they are or look to old to get married!

It does annoy me even when people ask how old I am and I'm always talking to people as I'm a hairdresser, it's so rude I would never ask some one how old they were if I thought they look haggered! I also get "your very slim what size are you 8... 10?" Stuff you wouldn't believe!! Hairdressing isn't a Job where you can have any secrets lol!

I agree with I don't think it matters how old you are. A lot of people say "I want to travel first I want to do this n that first" which is fair enough but I would like to travel with the one I love and I know we will do that one day when we are married

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One of my yni friends got married the year after we graduated, so she was 23. I have to say no one batted an eyelid! We were all very happy for her but never did it cross my mind that they were 'too young.'

I'm getting married next year and I'll be 24. To be honest, most people haven't mentioned my age, although maybe that's because my fiance is older than me by 5 years. I think as long as you are 100% sure then age doesn't make any difference x

Hi,

I'm getting married next year too, I will be 21 and my fiancé will be 22.

I haven't had any comments about being too young, but I don't think that us getting engaged came as a shock to anyone we know as we've been together so long.

In my opinion, if your legally old enough, happy and want to get married, who can say your too young?!

I feel like I'm quite young, our wedding date is a month before my 26th. I think my family may think I'm young (although they haven't said) but I've been with my OH 6 years and we have a child so just wanting to do right by him! My in laws are very supportive, by my age my mil was married with 3 kids!

We will both be 22 and together nearly 7 years then! Had a few young comments but by people that don't know us!

I thought I'd give the view of a second time bride!! The first time I got married, I was 17 and, looking back, I agree with everyone who told me I was too young. We had been together for 3 years and I thought I knew him better than anyone - I did. But I knew the child him, not the man he became and I also didn't know the woman I would become. We had three children together but things were badly wrong almost from the very beginning and by the time I finally gathered the courage to throw him out, it could not have been worse. The reasons my marriage broke up may appear to have nothing to do with our age when we got married, but I will always feel that I should have waited, that we should have lived together for a few years before we got married and we should have given ourselves a chance to enjoy being young before we tied ourselves down.

On the opposite side, we have friends who have been together since they were 13 and have just celebrated their 12th anniversary. They had six children before they got married!! I'm not saying you shouldn't get married young because only you and your OH know whether you're ready, but I wish I had waited. I don't think there is a right age but I would definitely advise teen brides to wait xx

I don't think you're too young at all. Someone I know got married at the age of 25 last year.

I'll be 27 when I get married at the end of the month, I've been with my OH 11 years. When you know, you know!

It's nice to hear all your views, I have lived with mine two years and I have to say I'm glad we did live together before we decided to get married as you don't truly know some one until you live with them you have to live with their bad habits that normally their mum dealed with!! Lol.

To the second time bride- at least you got 3 lovely kids there's definitely an upside. But at 17 all I wanted to do was party and I've done that every weekend until now and got it out of me I think (haha) but my dad got married again and mum got engaged too they got married early 20s but I guess it's different for everyone. I'm glad to hear that other people don't think I'm too young. Guess it's because I'm the first out of my friendship group x

I've been with h2b for 9 years & we have 2 children together. I'm getting married 4 months before I'm 30. It was a compromise, he said he didn't want to until he was 30 and I said before I'm 30. He proposed to me on his 30th bday & 2 years later we're getting married.
Do what's right for you, if you're both certain it's what you want now then go for it!! People will always have an opinion on everything, just smile, nod and carry on!!

It's nothing to do with anyone else. Just because someone is 30 doesn't mean there marriage will last. Age doesn't come into it.

I got engaged at 19 and I am getting married 3 days after my 21st birthday. My OH is 23 and we have been together 5 years. Yes, I do get a few comments but I quickly put whoever it is back in their place. I have had looks of judgement from potential suppliers who act as though I am just after a day out so I go elsewhere where I won't be judged and part with my money.

I also have no children and no plans in having any for a good few years, we rent a house at the moment and I would like to buy before I have children.

I'm 38 and getting married for the third time, so definitely none of those types of comments this time around!

I was only 20 the first time I got married (my husband was 10 years older). I actually don't remember anyone saying anything about being so young - it might be because I was pretty 'grown up' for my age then - quite mature outlook, already got myself promoted into a managerial role etc. In hindsight I realise I *was* too young - even though we were together for four years before we got married the marriage only lasted a couple of years because I found myself restless and wanting to experience more of the world. Of course, just because *I* was too young it doesn't mean diddly squat to anyone else - it's a very personal thing.

I'd never dream of telling anyone else that I thought they were too young (even if I did - but that would be based on the person, not their chronological age) because life is about making your own decisions, experiencing things and learning along the way.

I think its dependent on the individual people. On the one hand, I know people who've been together since they were in their teens and are still happily married decades later. On the other, I got married to my first husband when I was 24, but now I think we were both too young. That said, at the time, I don't think either of us could have known what was going to happen over the next few years. At the time, it felt right for us and I don't regret it for a minute.

I think if it feels right, you should get married, no matter what your age. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, but that's the same for everyone. It's no reason to delay your wedding just because other people expect you to.

I'm getting married for the first time on my 40th birthday, so I'm kind of the opposite but we still experienced some surprise and a few comments cos we got engaged after only 6 months of dating, and we weren't living together at that point (although we do now). In the past if I knew or heard about someone who was engaged so quickly I'd probably say (or at least think) that it was too fast and a mistake. But it felt right, so I did what was in my heart. And that's what you have to do too! You can't worry about what other people think.

I'll be 26 when we get married next year and OH will be 33.

I also look young for my age (which will be a good thing as I get older!) Nobody has said anything to me but that could be because we've been together for 6 years now and people probably knew it was going to happen.

Don't worry what people say. Just be pleased that you are going to get longer with your husband.....

No! I was 26 when we married in dec 2007 and had our daughter when I just turned 30. It's a nice age! Don't worry :-)

I'm 27 and my partner is 22. We get married in 6 weeks and I always get asked "oh do you not think your both a bit young"...meaning do I realise I'm stealing his youth lol. I also get "are you not worried he is too young to get married and might wander ?" I'm sorry...if a mans going to wander he will do it whether he is 22 or 52. Grrrr.

We get married next year and il be 24 and he will be just shy of 27. We mortgaged our first house together last summer, and lived with his parents for 3 years prior to that saving for it! So I definitely know through all his bad habits! By the time we get married we will have lived together 5 years!

It's starting to annoying me when people say "oh but your so young!" Grrr! I am capable of making my decisions, if I felt too young I wouldn't get married! We too don't have kids, just one attention seeking kitten X

Age is subjective so I guess people base their opinions on their own life experience.

Personally I was too young to settle down and get married at 25, there were too many things I wanted to do before settling down. I was wrapped up with going out having fun with my friends etc.

But not everyone's the same, everyone has different life experiences, levels of maturity and different aspiration.

That's not to say it is right to judge others based on ones own personal experience.

This!

Everyone's completely different, i'll be 27 when I get married and I've been with OH for 9 years & have a 4 year old together.

I have friends the same age already married & others who have no intentions of settling down til a bit later in life.

Really doesn't matter if it's right for you and it's no one elses business to make judgements either

I'm getting married on 3rd may and I'll be 26 my oh is 28. We've been together 5.5years, and we've been friends for 13, we have 3 kids so no one has even questioned it, I don't think it's too young. You can't put an age on love.

Hi,

I know how you feel a lot of people at my work etc have said the same kind of thing. I am 23, nearly 24 and my H2B will be 22.

Best advise is to ignore it! If you both love each other, and both know you want to get married it really doesn't matter what your age is.

My parents got married when my dad was just 20 and my mother was only slightly older and 25 years & 3 children later, they are still very much in love. They sometimes still act like loved up teenagers!!!

Funky has made some great points and l agree with all of them. Like him l was not ready to get married at 25, it would have been difficult too as l only started going out with with Mr Erin in the July the year l was 25.

I think it's like everything to do with weddings -everyone has an opinion. It is your life and no else's business ultimately but l am guessing it is still annoying!

I got engaged at 21 and will be a few days away from turning 25 when I get married. We're moving in together in a few months so we'll have lived together for a couple of years before we get married, and I've been fortunate not to have any comments about my age but I feel more than ready now with over 2 years to go - my OH is 28 so I think I feel a bit older because of him!

Wow...wish I was 25 again....LOL.....

I don't think its too young, if it feels right then that's all that matters. My niece was 24, sister was 21, my mum was 18, I was 32 the first time, im 42 now!

Go for it, don't care what others think x

I'm surprised at these responses because I had the exact opposite. I'm 25 but my parents married at 21 and 22 and had me at 25. They have been making hints about us getting married for about 2/3 years (we've been together 8 years). My cousins also got married "young" so I've not had any comments like that.

Also, my 3 closest friends are either married or getting married next year.

Hello

I'm 21, will be 22 on our wedding day and HTB is 21 too.

I've only had a couple of people say "you're only young" and to be fair, I don't care much for their opinions. I have been with my OH for 3 years and I kind of think (No offence to anybody!) that people are having children at 18+ nowadays with no marriage etc, I think marriage is really important when children are involved (just my opinion!). So when people make those comments, I just shrug them off.

xxx

Hiya

I was 19 when we got engaged and will be 22 when we get married in 2016. We've both been together since we were 15 and we've lived together for 3 years now.

I don't think you're too young at all... we got a few comments about our age when we got engaged from people who didn't know us that well, but we love each other and it feels right for us. Don't listen to people who say you're too young, if it feels right for you then go for it!

I don't think age matters really. I was 29 the first time, the marriage was a disaster and I was old enough to know better! I will be nearly 34 this time. My mum was 22 when she married Dad and they are still together 34 years later.

I'll be 24 when I get married, O/H will be 27. We've been together for 10 years and would have got married sooner but we bought our first home in our early 20's instead (21/24), this put a set back on getting married as of course financially we couldn't afford to do both.

Noone has said we're too young, though most know how long we've been together and don't see fit to judge our relationship.