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I am a rubbish wife [weep]

Knownowt, 29 September, 2008 at 10:24 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 26

It's my husband's birthday today and I've just realised that his presents are frankly pathetic. I ordered a DVD box set from Amazon.com, which hasn't arrived, so he's stuck with a shirt, a pair of wellies (wellies!), a book and a CD. Could anything be more boring? I was going to say one of the presents was from the children but it's such a poor haul that I don't want to- I'll just get them to do some pictures or something. Arses. I have been managing his expectations but it's still a bit rubbish.

Birthdays are the one time that I really hate not having my own income- it makes it hard to buy generous presents (ie those that cost a lot)- I'd like to have bought him a new laptop but it's pointless when it's all from the joint account and I know he'd rather choose one for himself. So one is left with having to think of fabulous ideas that don't break the bank and sometime inspiration just doesn't come ?

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Latest activity by NumbNuts, 29 September, 2008 at 14:37
  • SophieM
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    Oh no! Can you surprise him with something else? Flowers delivered to the office? Cake? Champagne blowjob? ?

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  • barongreenback
    Beginner September 2004
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    You know there's only one present he wants. So long as you do that, he'll be overjoyed ???

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  • Chicken
    Beginner October 2003
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    Aww.

    Can you do something thoughtful rather than expensive? Cook his favourite food or, erm, arrange babysitters and take him to the flicks or .. I'm all out of ideas.

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  • Sparkley
    Beginner September 2007
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    Indoor picnic ? ?

    Aww KN, you are not a rubbish wife ?

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    Headless Lois ·
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    I doubt he cares - do you really think he does? I have got H absolutely nothing, or just teeny token gifts before, while he has chosen his 'main' present (liike laptop or whatever). He never seems to mind whereas I would be crying and bleating on that he doesn't care ?

    I think I feel similarly about the joint money thing - it just feels odd to spend a lot without discussion. Oddly H does not feel this way.

    I bet you put a lot of thought into those smaller gifts, right? I would have bought a box of Thorntons

    L
    xx

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  • Knownowt
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    We're going out for dinner (which I hope will be nice- Monday isn't the best night for atmosphere, I fear).

    It's going to have to be a champagne blowjob ??

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    See now, i would have to run over MIL ON H's birthday for things to go that far

    L
    xx

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  • SophieM
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    That could be his present from the children ??

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  • Chicken
    Beginner October 2003
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    Steady on .. you've only bought him a few birthday presents, not murdered his cat or anything.

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  • Flowery the Grouch
    Beginner December 2007
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    It was my birthday on Saturday. I got a box of chocolates, two kitkats and a brownie pan.

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  • kewbride
    Beginner September 2007
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    just spat tea all over my keyboard ?

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  • Knownowt
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    Lois, you're probably right- he won't mind at all. It just feels a bit rubbish- I'd love to buy him something wonderful but getting a laptop would just be saying "here's something I've bought you, using exactly the same money you were planning to use to buy one for yourself- only this way you end up with one that isn't quite what you would have chosen" ?

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  • Knownowt
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    Waaaaaaaaaaaaah ??

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  • Gone With The Whinge
    Beginner July 2011
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    If it helps, that's pretty much what my H will get for his birthday (well, minus the wellies ?) - dinner, t-shirt, DVD, book etc...I never thought of it as boring. In fact I'd be delighted to receive the same myself. What do you normally buy?!

    I understand the rubbishness of not having your income, but my logic is that as my presents come out of the same pot, at least it's equal ?

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  • BBD
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    Its a nightmare its S. birthday next week and I'm in the same situation present wise except he's already said "don't get me a jumper again) ?? The only think he'd wuite like is a plasma TV but like you no doubt I'd get the wrong one.

    Chocolates again this year then.

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    Make some cakes with the kids, maybe pop to the local charity shop and get some books if he reads.

    Maybe an IOU book, no need for MU, it's just a birthday lol - things like you'll mow the lawn etc if thats usually his domain, a massage.

    Erm...

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  • Heather W
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    Hi

    Hope these ideas help -

    Do him an IOU pack - you can get some envelopes and each one has a handwritten iou message - back run, foot massage, walk in the country just the two of you, midnight picnic for 2, bubble bath ? for 2 - you can think of lots - wink icon. Couldyou book a night at a hotel and get someone to look after the kids?????

    Bake him a cake this afternoon - could you also get some Happy Birthday banners to put on the front door and a HB helium balloon?

    Send him a red rose to work

    Maybe a treasure hunt after the kids have gone to bed - you could be the prize???

    Have fun - presents don't always have to cost.

    Heather

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  • Clairy
    Beginner October 2003
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    Treasure hunt ? Jesus, Mr Clairy would be disappointed ?

    (btw Mr Clairy would say home made biscuits or blow jobs ?)

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  • Knownowt
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    I've made a cheesecake (although that surprise was sadly blown by our two year old who helped me pick what we were going to make at the end of last week, then spent all weekend saying, "can we have daddy's cheesecake now?" ?)

    GWTW, there's nothing wrong with presents like that at all (in fact, books are my absolutely favourite thing to receive). I think I'm just feeling frustrated at the fact that I can't do something extravagant.

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  • SophieM
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    I am loving the idea of a norty treasure hunt ?? and imagining KN hiding red crotchless pants and ostrich feathers and anal beads and the like around the home, and having to think of chues for them, and then standing around dressed like Dita Von Teese saying "Warmer... cooler... no, you're cold now" while MrKN champs the bit with sexual frustration.

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  • Clairy
    Beginner October 2003
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    ? in his new T shirt and wellies

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  • Redhead
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    Oh lordy, I just laughed out loud! ?

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  • HeidiHole
    Beginner October 2003
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    "wink icon" ??

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    Is this from Woman's Weekly?

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    xx

    (please, no one, ever ever tell my husband that present don't always have to cost, in case he believes you)

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  • Sparkley
    Beginner September 2007
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    Me too ?

    Loving Sophie's idea!!!

    Anal beads ?

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  • NumbNuts
    Beginner October 2004
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    Trying not to laugh at work

    Failing, miserably

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