I am so angry!!!!!!

How awkward for you both...how does your OH feel about it all??

I think it might end up being a case of getting on with your plans, & if they want to be adult & show up great, if not, its their loss. I know its easier said esp as its your OH's parents.

Hugs?

Thanks bonnielass he was really upset after the phone call but now he is really angry with her and cant believe she would act like this esp on his wedding!!! i just feel so sorry for him as both my parents will be at both. but ur right it is her loss. x

You'll just have to support him. I doubt it would do much good you saying to her, but would your OH go back & tell her how much she has hurt his feelings? Poor guy, just makes you think how lucky you are to have grown up parents!!

I think she'll prob know within herself as he was very quiet with her, in time he might say something. i know i am so glad my parents act like parents x

Hey mini i am sorry to hear that u have a similar problem to me, it is so silly u would think they would be more adult for their son's sake.

my H2B was upset after the phone call, but now he is just really angry with his mum and also because she isnt going to arrive in cyprus untill 10pm the night before the wedding, she is just treating herself like a normal guest rather than mother of the groom she hasnt even asked about how our plans are coming on and she shows very little interest i am at a total loss with her just dont know what to do for the best!!! sorry for the rant xx

Well this isn't good. But at the end of the day this is you & and you OH life they're messing with. Be blunt and stand up for yourself, tell her how you are both feeling and say if she's not prepared to put up with it just for a few days then maybe you don't want her there at all. It can either go 1 way and she will say sorry and be ther for you both. Or it will go the other way and she will say well i won't come then...and in that case she's not a very supportive mother or MIL and maybe it's best she isn't there at all. Everyone there at your wedding and celebrations should be there because they want to be part of your special day and if she's not prepared to put up with seeing her Ex then she obviously isn't bothered about being there.

I wish i could tell her how i feel but i know it would start world war 3 and i dont want to that for H2B, you would think she would show more interest as she is never going to have a wedding again. aaaaarrrrhhhhh she just really gets to me!!!!

well i think you should have a wee word with her and tell her that it would mean a lot to her son to actually if she was there for the reception. Tell her that you would make the necessary arrangements that they would not have to spend any time with her ex. She might change her mind. If she does come up with stupid excuses then ask her out straight if this is the start of avioding things he will be at. Will she be able to go to her grand-children's parties if he's going to be there, cos they happen to share a son, which means also possibly sharing grandchildren!

A wee update i phoned the lovely MIL2B and told her that H2B is really upset at the fact she is not going to be at the party and she isnt arriving in syprus till the night before the wedding and is missing out in things before the wedding in cyprus and all she said was "i cant do anything as we will lose to much money and his aunt will be there for him the night before" what a lovely motherly response!!!! i now give up with the woman i've totally had enough!!!!

deborah if this is the way she is acting now then i will be sure it will carry on with our children (when we have them) but it will be her loss in not seeing them and i will not be going out my way for her anymore!!! i think thats a good idea i think a wee night in the house and her ex hunny will be there hahahah would love to see her face!!!