i don't get bridesmaids

I had 4 bridesmaids and really hoped they'd pick different style dresses (in the same colour) but they all wanted the same dress

Haha, fair point! I actually wore the same dress as someone to a Christmas do once, very embarrassing! When I was a bridesmaid I was the only one, and today's wedding is a single one too, but my girls both wore the same! I guess it's just to distinguish them as bridesmaids, but the flowers and they fact that they follow you down the aisle do that pretty well too ;-)

Haha I see what you mean - I gave mine the option of having any dress style they wanted as it was being made - they decided they wanted the same one!!!

I think the main point is to provide the bride with support - however reading hitched I would say 50% add to the stress!

Ha! i don't even remember writing this! Drugs pain and sleepiness will do WEIRD things to your mind :/ lol

I think a lot of people don't get them, and that is why they're such a source of problems and arguments. People have them cos you're supposed to, brides expect too much, bridesmaids think they are just there to look pretty, nobody really knows what their role should be. I've never once regretted not having any!

I'm completely with you, I see no point in all in having this big entourage!! I am having my sister as my only BM as she will be my witness and H2B is having best man as his witness. Why do you need to have 3,4,5,6 or even 7 people with you all looking the same in the same dress? I just don't get it at all.. Lol And I agree it would just add to any stress levels, and budget! I can understand the dilemna if people had mutliple sisters or perhaps a BFF they're really close to. But in the end, in my opinion, I would not be offended at all if I wasn't BM for anyone just coz I'm close to them , you're still a part of their day by being there..

I just don't see the point if having BMs just for photos really, as "MOH" usually end up with any responsibilities or signing of register etc..

It's so that when you're the intoxicated bride who cant fight her way to the toilet in her wedding dress other females waiting in the toilets can distinguish them and let them through to help you ;]

Or that's my main reason anyway :p