I don't know what to do...

I don't have anything helpful re logistics, but I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

Firstly Im sorry for your loss, I'm very close to two of my uncles and dont know what I would do if this happened to me.

I do however know that they would both want me to continue with my plans for the wedding, it is very close, but im sure you know what she would want you to do so only you and your family can make any big decisions.

Big hugs xxxxxx

Firstly I am so sorry for your loss. It is incredibly sad when someone loses their battle with long term health problems, especially if they were once an incredibly strong character.

A friend of mine is a wedding co-ordinator for a hotel and she's heard of lots of lovely tributes people have made to loved ones who passed on before the wedding.

One bride had an empty seat at one of the tables with a candle burning in one of those old fashioned metal lanterns. Another had a donation box on the gift table to a charity with a little picture of the loved one and a message from the bride & groom about who this person was and why they were so special.

As she was so looking forward to the day I am certain your uncle does not want you to postpone it, but maybe some sort of rememberance to your aunty would be a lovely tribute.

Big hugs hun xxx

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I think the relase of the body you need to appreciate you cannot control and Im sure you want it looked into as much as possible.

I went to a funeral that was 5 weeks after the death and the wait can make it worse, but you need to like others have said put your energy into makinfg it the event she was looking forward to so much xxx

Hi,

Im so sorry to hear your news, would your Uncle be willing to do a reading or something in he honor? My auntie who I am really close to had a heart attack just before christmas and is now quite brain damaged, she was meant to be doing a reading for us in the church, we are hoping she may stil be able to come for a little while but we wont know till closer to the time, if she cant it will be very hard her not being there. We are having candles to represent the people that we have lost (OH mum, his grandparents, my grandparents and very recently my Nan), we shall have them in the church then get one of the ushers to carry them back to the house and have them on display on the piano as you walk in.

As for the releasing of the body, you do not have to have the funeral straight away, so if your uncle is up to talking about it it may be worth discussing it with him and seeing what his plans are. x

So sad that this should happen. Of course you're going to be in turmoil now, that's just natural, but I agree with the other ladies that you should go ahead - if she was looking forward to the day that much, I'm sure the last thing she would have wanted would be for you to cancel it because of her.

I love the idea of the lantern burning at her place setting. I'm not sure I could cope with that, myself; I'm sure I'd be in floods of tears all night just looking at it, but it's lovely symbolism. I would offer a small word of warning, though. As much as it is wholly appropriate that you should acknowledge the people who are missing from your day, you want to be very careful that you don't let your wedding become their memorial service. I know that might sound a bit crass, especially with her passing away so recently, but I hope you take it in the way I meant it. Be sad, shed your tears, speak her name, but try to take your wedding as the celebration of the start of a new life, rather than mourning of one lost.

Take care x