I don't know what to do :(

Try it on again on Tuesday and if you still love it, go for it! If you're not sure, could you ask the shop if the £200 deposit could be put towards a different dress?

Is this a serious post?

What the bloody hell difference does it make what someone else looks like in it?

You really want to change your dress because someone older and fatter than you also likes it? Jeez. I’m sorry but I can’t even be diplomatic here, that is OUTRAGEOUS.

I really don't get what you're worrying about. If it was 'perfect' for you and no other dresses compared then why are you doubting your choice now?

Is it really just because you saw another lady who obviously didn't meet your standards wearing it and wanting it for her wedding? Surely, what matters is how you look and feel in it - not how you thought another woman looked in it. I'm sure it must have made her feel amazing too if she was considering buying it. I honestly can't understand why this would put you off and to be honest it sounds a bit snobbish and as if you've just decided that this lady wasn't as good as you.

*NEWSFLASH*

Unless you have a wedding dress that is uniquely designed and made bespoke for you, other people will also buy the same dress as you. Some of them will look worse than you in it. Some of them will look better than you do. But unless you're all getting married at the same place on the same day, why does this matter?

Try the dress on again, take your mum/a friend for an honest opinion, and if you love it, get it. Don't lose sleep over some total stranger buying the same one as you.

This lady obviously loved the dress too, we are all different shapes and sizes and because she is bigger than you doesn't mean she didn't look as good in it as you. I would still go for the dress.

You do not know for sure she has chosen the same dress. She might change her mind after speaking to you...and judging you?

this!!

somehow I doubt she chose it just because you said you were buying it. Or maybe she did because she thought she'd look as young and slim as you in it? How very dare and older, fatter bride want to look beautiful on her wedding day!

I smell a troll but anyway...

buy it. They way you can gloat at how much better you look in it than the old fat hag. It's the obvious choice.

Agree with the others, sorry but that's one of the most shallow and horrible comments I've read on here.
For all you know she could have been the same if she seen you in the dress, but not possibly because she's older and bigger..and i'm pretty sure the lady will be a nicer person than that anyway.

And waking up during the night thinking of the lady in the dress, all I can say is get a grip. I doubt that person is losing sleep imagining you in her dress.

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Oh mini, you have such a way with words!!

I've read your post different to the other posters.

Is the issue that you did not look like how the other lady looked in the dress and are therefore worried you also look bad in the dress? or is the issue that you don't like the idea of having the same dress as someone else?

I don't really understand what the problem is.

If it's knowing that someone else has your dress: that's life unfortunately, unless you get a bespoke dress like someone else said. (And I really really don't think she bought it just because you said you did.)

If it's seeing someone else look bad in the dress, why does it matter? You've already said it fitted you perfectly and looked good. Lucky you for being young and slim and pulling it off. Does it really matter that a complete stranger has chosen a dress that doesn't suit them?

For starters, I'm not a troll.

I'm panicking about my wedding dress... I asked if anyone else had been in a similar position!!

I didn't ask to be judged, insulted or anything like that. I thought this forum was a place I could come to for help, not to feel even worse than I already do!

Yes, after seeing the other lady in the dress, I went off it slightly, I'm now panicking that I got a bit too giddy when I 1st went dress shopping. Don't worry, I won't come back for anymore help or advice as I'm clearly not welcome.

nor did the fat old lady in the shop

Didn’t take much for that flounce ?

I don’t know exactly what you expected everyone to say when you announce that you can’t sleep at night because some old fat bird bought your dress and now you don’t want it.

So u've never judged anybody??

I'm not slim- I'm well aware of how difficult it is to feel comfortable in clothing & when it comes to your wedding dress, you want it to be perfect! After seeing someone else in the dress I chose, I'm feeling quite conscious that I may have jumped the gun a bit. I was looking for reassurance & advice, not the clique of hitched to jump on my like the class bullies at school!!

It's completely normal to worry a bit after deciding on a dress. It's a huge chunk of money and it's natural to wonder if maybe you'd kept on looking there'd be something even nicer, but it's rather odd to be worried because of what someone else looked like in the dress. If you looked amazing in it, then good for you. Get it, wear it, look amazing! It doesn't matter what anyone else looks like in your dress. I bet you tried on other dresses that you disliked or that didn't suit you, but those same dresses might make another girl look like a princess.

Try it on again on Tuesday. See how you feel once you've got it on again. Don't compare yourself to others. Focus on what suits you.

Clique AND bullies in one post! Why is it that just because a few people think the same thing after reading a post they are automatically in a clique? It’s laughable.

I think you should try it on again and see what your mum/maids think. I would have bought every dress I tried on, it wasn't until I saw their reaction to my dress that I decided it was the one. Maybe if you change your mind the shop will let you put £200 towards something else?

as for the hitched clique...it's a tough crowd. Just smile and keep on posting

I think I know what ou're trying to say, don't think it was worded very well though! I tried a dress on in a shop and loved it (didn't buy it though) later went on the shops FB page and they'd got a picture of someone bigger than me with terrible sunburn modelling it for the purpose of the FB page. It made me go back and look at the pictures of myself wearing it to get a proper idea of what it looked like because from the model pictures I wouldn't have looked twice at it.

As it happened I went off the dress anyway but I think you need to kind of think of it this way; if you see clothes on a mannequin in a shop they're bound to look different than on you (usually better let's face it!) but it wouldn't put you off buying them if they suited you; this situation is kind of a reverse of that; you've seen how it can look (in your eyes) unflattering on someone else but you need to ignore that and remember how great it was for you. I bet once you've tried it on again you'll forget about how it looked on the other lady!

I'm not backtracking at all OB.

I'm well aware of what a clique is & how it works as I've been members of various baby forums for a few years & have seen them in action. I also know what a troll is, & if I was one, I wouldn't really have a post count. Go take a look at my precious posts... Do I sound like a troll????

You don't know me & have clearly read my post in a different way to how I meant if to come across.

I'm grateful for those that have commented without jumping down my throat, I will be going back on tues. Hopefully I will find it's just wobbles & this post was just nerves getting the better of me.

Let us know how you get on. You might find a second look will make you love it all over again!

Just for the record, I didn’t call you a troll

It does seem like you are backtracking, your first post was totally focused on this other woman and what she looked like, now you are claiming it’s about how you feel in your dress. If you don’t give the whole story up front people can only reply based on what’s in front of them. Read it back. You say your dress was perfect, better than anything else you tried on, then wrote quite a bit on this other woman who is fatter and older than you, then asked whether you settled for it because it pulled you in and you felt good in it? That doesn’t sound like normal ‘have I picked the right dress’ worries to me. Sorry, but it doesn’t. It sounded like you’ve gone off your dress because some old fat bird wanted it too.

If that’s not what you meant then fine, but try to be more specific in your OP in future.

Sometimes wedding planning can give us totally irrational thoughts. I know you didn't mean to offend, honey. I hope that you feel amazing in your dress on Tuesday.

OP: I tried on a dress that was perfect, then I saw an old fat woman in it and I don't like it anymore.

Hitched: ?!

OP: CLIQUEY BULLIES!

I love Hitched.

And for the record, I still genuinely don't understand what the problem is. The dress isn't special anymore now you've seen a munter off the street wearing it?

I'm a bigger bride and when i tried my dress on, I felt...amazing.

All of my life I have felt big, ugly, too big to be pretty. That dress changed my opinion every second I was in it.

Wedding dresses seem to do that for people. They make you think for one day, while you wear it, you will be the pretty one.

I hope you still find yourself pretty when you try it on again.

OP: I tried on a dress that was perfect, then I saw an old fat woman in it and I don't like it anymore.

Hitched: ?!

OP: CLIQUEY BULLIES!

I love Hitched.

And for the record, I still genuinely don't understand what the problem is. The dress isn't special anymore now you've seen a munter off the street wearing it?

Now you're putting words in my mouth.

I personally think (probably going to get shot for it!!) that everyone has a dress that makes them feel good, special, pefect etc. All i'm saying is, when I saw this other lady in it, it felt less special. I now understand that I shouldn't have an opinion.

... And for the record, not once did I say she looked bad in the dress, or that I looked better!!!! She did look good in the dress, which is why I'm questioning myself! Am I just settling for the dress cos it pulled me in, Does the dress look good on anyone? I want a dress that makes ME feel special.

Maybe I should have kept my feelings to myself though eh??

Go back and try on the dress, yes your OP may have been taken out of context but posts on forum's can be. Sounds like you were just a little put out by seeing someone else in it. Try it on with all of your paraphernalia to get a good idea of how stunning it could look.

I saw a few people in my dress we all looked different.

Keep posting! Hitched can be so useful as you know you, we are all adults so you take on board those opinions that you find useful.

I don't think it's about you not having an opinion or commenting on things, it's just the way you put it. After reading your latest post I'm still unsure whether you don't like the dress because another person tried it on and you want it to be special or exclusive to you or you didn't like the way it looked on the other woman and you identify with her in some way?

I'm an older bride of 47 and have wobbles about whether I should wear a dress that may or may not look better on a younger bride but I chose my dress because I love it on me.

I hope you enjoy trying your dress on again but as previous poster have said the dress that you have chosen isn't exclusive to you. Good luck.

Hitched bullies! Cliques!

Ah the standard reaction to not liking the responses to a post you have made.

I am guessing you have never actually been bullied to bandy the word around so lightly after a relatively minor diffirence of opinion.

I hope you absolutely love the dress when you go back and that you can put all memories of a fat older lady in it out of your mind on your special day.

I had something alittle like what you went though.

I've purchased my dress (had a few wobbles) and then went in a google hunt to find pretty pictures of real brides in it.

I found a lady who didn't look so great (I'm evil but I know that!) it made me feel uneasy and then when I tried my dress on again all them worries disappeared.

I look back on it and laugh now, hope you can too.

Chin up love and good luck Tuesday

I honestly wonder sometimes how some people get through life without being able to cope with any kind of mild criticism or difference of opinion. You wouldn't last 2 minutes in my job if your immediate response is to throw a "well I guess I shouldn't bother having an opinion in future" strop.

And by the way, I STILL don't get it. So the problem is nothing to do with the fact that the other woman is old and fat (even though that was all you said in your original post) and in fact she looked good in it (which you didn't mention once). So the problem is that you didn't like the fact that someone else has your dress? In that case I recommend you get a bespoke dress made.

For the record, I had dress wobbles when I bought my dress. But then I remembered how amazing I felt when I was wearing it and that was all that mattered. If you think back to how you felt when you were wearing it and you still feel amazing then keep it. If you really can't stand the idea that someone else out there has it then get a bespoke dress made.