I feel so valued

quote:Originally posted by Slippers
You may have seen my other posts about this friend of mine who wants us to have [sex]. I fancy him but he is making it a LOT easier to say no because of the comments he's been making!

"What goes on tour, stays on tour"

"I want you all to myself, though I don't mind sharing you with your H"

"I would love to feel you f***ny around my c**k"

"Do you want to eat some meat?"

Now, some of these are said in jest - e.g. the meat comment but today he was saying, "I really want you".

Am I just getting old and been married so long that men are normally this forward these days ?. Seriously. It's quite aggresive, I feel.

p.s. for those who read my previous post, I told him today it wouldn't happen, which he took fairly well.

We do fancy each other but I am sad it's come to this. ?

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What a charmer!?

If I am wide off the mark, I apologise, but you are coming across like you are getting off on this (excuse pun!)

If you really have no intention of going there, I wouldn't even entertain and listen to him spouting such bollocks tbh

He sounds lush can i have him

I think you need to say outright that it's not appropriate, and you don't like the terminology.

FWIW - ewwwww, not nice.

quote:Originally posted by Slippers
Yeah, I can see how it would come across but, to be honest, it's flattering he likes me but the comments actually freak me out a bit. I'm going to see him on Monday and tell him the comments have to stop.

I find them a bit intimidating.

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I get that its flattering on some level. I think you are right about marking his card though. What an audacious git! And his "lyrics" are drier than cheap white wine! Fark me-if someone is going to try and seduce you, the least you can hope for is some style and panache!?

Thanks all.

I'm glad you all think the comments are a little off. I just thought I was being a bit of a prude but, to me, they're a bit sexually aggressive ☹️

Never mind all that, will you stop changing your name!?

But to show some sympathy, Eww!
Tell him you don't appreciate him coming on to, and especially not with disgusting lines like that.

OK ?

Honestly, you've all really helped me feel better about this. Much straighter in my head. ?

We are super magic men
we stay up til 5 am
although we're bound by shamen law
what goes on tour, stays on tour!

Those comments are buttock-clenchingly grim/awkward/inappropriate/nasty/shudder-inducing.

I would view them as a nice bucket of cold water over any spark that might have been there.

He's a charmer though, and no mistake.

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