I guess that's it then

Oh Pompey I don't even know what to say or suggest. I'm so sorry he's being such a dick. I'm sure he loves you, but he's acting like a child who doesn't want to grow up. He needs a massive shock to wake him up I reckon. I wouldn't be there when he gets home if I was you

He's just added that he's unhappy and that's why he's ill.

He's spoken to his mum and dad apparently. I deserve so much better than this

I'm so sorry he's being such an arse, PP. You really don't deserve it.

It's impossible to say from a set of brief texts, presumably sent under the influence of alcohol, whether he still loves you or not, but it's clear that all is not right in his head regarding your relationship. I would leave it for tonight as you're not going to achieve anything beyond upsetting you both more, but when he's home tomorrow have a serious discussion. Not just complaining about him not saying "love you" back, but trying to find out what he really feels deep down. His behaviour recently certainly points to him being unhappy, and dealing with it very badly and childishly, but whether that means he really has fallen out of love and wants out of your marriage is far from clear. If the worst is true and he does not love you, it's only fair on both of you that it comes out sensibly and seriously, rather than being thrown at you in the heat of a big fight when you can't be sure if it's true. At least that way you can have an adult discussion and work out what to do next, and how to fix things if they are worth fixing for both of you.

Good luck and lots of internet weirdy hugs.

Sad to say but the its human nature to want what we can't have and the more we try to hold onto something the harder it is. By that i mean he may need to realise that although he married you he can still lose you but he he does know that. Your offers and your texts and the reception last night suggest a bit of that. I may be wrong but I personally would withdraw a bit and see if when you show less interest in him and his needs he starts to try to get you back

What Helenia said.

PP I am so sorry you are going throught all of thi s- it's miserable and rotten for you. Whatever happens, plese remember that we are all here for you. x

I am so, so sorry P. I don't know what else to say.

Lots of love and hugs xxx

Pompey I've got no advice (although helenia's is excellent) I just want to say I'll be thinking of you today and I'm sending internet weirdy hugs to you x

He's being an absolute arse pp.

im sorry you are having to deal with this. I know you have lots of friends and family around you but if you ever want someone to vent at I'm about.

I have my mum and step-dad and my sister but they live 30miles away. And most of my friends are his.

After saying that he wasn't going to come home last night, he did and was banging on the door at 4am to be let in cus I'd left the key in. Then he had a go at me for leaving the key in. He slept, and is still asleep on the couch.

Maybe wait until he is up and try confronting him about it? Maybe he doesn't realise it hurt you? Men are a bit silly sometimes and need the obvious pushed right in front of their faces before they realise. Sorry to hear you are going through a bad time - you deserve better than to constantly feel like this.

Can I have some massive hitched vibes that we can work it out?

Ive gone back to bed with a cuppa, so he can come to me.

I hope he has a stinking hangover.

Oh PP at least he did actually come home, so that's a start.

sorry he's being such a big kid. No excuse, but I think men sometimes find the first year of marriage hard when they realise they actually need to be adults and do things like be considerate and compromise. Mind you, women can be the same too.

Sending massive vibes you can sort it out xxxxx

PP, sorry you are having a bad time.....hope you can resolve things today

Sorry to hear about all you are going through.

Helenia's advice is excellent - spot on - you need to get to the bottom of it.

Good luck

xx

So sorry to hear H is being a twunt again. It does sound as though you need to try and get to the bottom of it, once and for all. I hope that you manage to sort it out with him, I can't imagine how hurt you must be feeling right now. Have a hug from me and know that we're all here behind you.x

I'm so sorry you're still having problems with your H. I hope your discussion today goes well and you managed to sort out what the issues are and the best way forward from here as I feel you really have come to that point of 'make or break'.

You can't continue to live like this. As you said yourself, you deserve better. Please never lose sight of this.

Hugs to you lovely xx

Hope he is awake and you are getting through it, lots of love and hugs x?

Ohhh pp, really hope you can sort it today.. good luck x

Hope you've managed to sort things out today. Sending hugs.

Vibes and hugs for you PP. Hope you can agree how to move forward. x

Wise words from Helenia and JoJo. I hope the two of you can talk things through today and get to the bottom of what's making him act like this x

Thinking of you, hope everything works out.

Massive hugs and vibes to you. Just caught up with this, hope things are going okay as can be today. You do really deserve better from him P xx

I've been thinking of you, PP. Sending loads of vibes that things work out for the best for you.

By the way -

- you are SO right about that.

Massive vibes P! Hope you are ok xxx

Anyone want to buy a sofa?

hes amdamant he's leaving, says he doesn't even know if he loves me anymore and has been unhappy for two years. He doesn't seem to care that he took vows.

Oh P I am speechless.

Has he managed to even give you any reasons or full sentences about your relationship?

He is still being entirely un fair and yes you do deserve a whole lot better- he isn't even close to being good enough for you recently.

Sending you lots of love and strength to try and work things through x

He doesn't want to. He says that being married changes nothing he's been unhappy for so long he didn't want to tell me until he knew what that he wanted to leave. He's had the best of,both worlds hasn't he? He can't even tell me why he's unhappy.

Oh, PP. I wish I could give you a massive hug - sending loads of weird internet ones your way. ?

So he has just been coasting along until he decided to make his mind up??

I cannot comprehend him at all P, why would he get married / continue feeling un happy- just to use you? (awful blunt word sorry)

The very least he could do is offer you some kind of explanation.

I am so upset and angry for you- can't imagine how you must be feeling sweetheart. I want to slap some sense in to him for you- he is achieving nothing with his behaviour/attitude. Does he just want to coast through life being a 'lad'?