I hate my dress :-(

It's a dress.

A dress you will be wearing for a few hours.

Wether you wear that or a bin bag, you'll be marrying your OH, that's the main thing...

Hey hun, have u got any pics of you in it which we can see? some of the people on here are amazing at coming up with ideas on how to salvage a dress-gone-wrong.

Try not to worry!

No I haven't. My Mum said she wanted to take one yesterday but thought she best not as i was in such a state. In hindsight it would have been the best thing to do so I could look at it!! I've put a pic of the dress on here though.... what's happened... I think is now it's gotta be made shorter the eye doesn't have the elongating effect it has when it's full length and makes it look a bit out of proportion!!

Er, you speak sense.

Out of interest, whats so specific about size 10 girls trying on dresses that made you feel bad. I would like to take note so that I don't accidentally offend someone next time I go shopping!

Wedding planning can be stressful, so take a breath & have a think. Sounds like you were rushed in the shop & it was really busy.

Think of all the things that you loved about the dress when you ordered it. Other than the length, what has changed? You must feel better about loosing the weight, so think of all the positive things going on.

If the length is an issue, could you have platforms or higher heels so not as much has be cut off the hem?

I'd suggest booking another appointment in the shop, not on a weekend, but when its quiet & you can have time to put the dress on again.

Wedding planning can be stressful, so take a breath & have a think. Sounds like you were rushed in the shop & it was really busy.

Think of all the things that you loved about the dress when you ordered it. Other than the length, what has changed? You must feel better about loosing the weight, so think of all the positive things going on.

If the length is an issue, could you have platforms or higher heels so not as much has be cut off the hem?

I'd suggest booking another appointment in the shop, not on a weekend, but when its quiet & you can have time to put the dress on again.

I can't imagine it looking as bad as you think. And I actually think that if you let it pool on the floor like it does in this pic it could look strange, be hard to walk in + get extremely dirty!

As others have said, why don't you try wearing platformed shoes? I'm going ti do that, I'm 5"4 and my partner is 6"3 so I need the height but also I don't want my dress taken up much it at all.

Relax, none of your guests will look at your dress + think it looks strange, it's only you who will have seen the before and after anyway. You're marrying your OH who I bet will love the way you look no matter what!

Did you just put the dress on, with nothing else? If so, when you go back, take along some accessories - put your hair how you'd like it, and put a bit of make-up on.

I was amazed how much different hair styles/accessories can change a dresses look..

Also, was their anything in particular you were worried about? Obviously, you cant do anything about the length apart from heels, but as a fellow shorty, they never make a massive different - but possibly try and get a sash/belt type thing to make your waist higher so making your legs look longer? Or bring up where it looks like the front comes together?

Also try different sleeve length and style boleros/jackets too? It might be different if you cover your shoulders?

I think you need to go back when its quiet and book to see what sort of things the shop owner has and what sort of things the seamstress could possibly do when they have full focus on you.

I would feel extremely uncomfortable if I were surrounded by women a lot slimmer than me, in any shopping situation. It is nothing personal, nothing that they do and nothing anyone could change. However, as a larger lady, being surrounded by slimmer ladies highlights my own insecurities. No one could change it, no one needs to do anything in particular.

When I was trying on dresses, I came out a few times and stood next to tall, slim girls in sheath-like lace dresses looking slim, svelt and model-like........ how on earth was i ever going to feel good compared, with a dress that doesnt meet at the back, my fat arms and knowing that about 6 dresses in the whole shop actually went over my arse!

It is nothing against slim people, it is about how an individual feels and, as I said before, is about what highlights one ladies insecurity - we all have them!

Your dress is stunning !!! Maybe your just over thinking it !! Good luck x x

I am positive once it's finished getting altered it will be back to being just as gorgeous as it was when you tried it on. Loads of people have felt like this - its never going to be right when held together with pins.

I never hated my dress more than when it was pinned...i think its because of the material it doesn't hand right when pinned, its too stiff...in contrast ive never liked my dress more than when I went back and the alterations were done! Fear not, I think it will be fine when its done!

Dear Sparklebright,

The ladies here speak so much sense. I only got on this site by accident and have been posting on another part of a forum 'wedding dress dilemma'. I felt a bit guilty about being here at first, because I'm an old married timer of 14 years!! But do you know what? You have struck such a chord with me and it took me back to when I was getting married and I had a very similar problem.

I made my own dress and decided to take photos throughout the making process. It was getting close to 'D' day and I was at home and got my Mum to take a photo of me with the skirt pinned to the bodice as I couldn't wait, and wanted an idea of how the dress was going to look.

I cried my heart out when that photo came back because I looked HUGE in it. I'm a big girl anyway, and really didn't need a photo yelling 'OMG' at me. But when I calmed down and took a look at it again i had my sensible head on and realised that I could see the folds sticking out and adding inches.

Go back to the shop when things are much quieter, and you feel calmer and less hassled. Style your hair before you go, in something resembling how you're going to have it done for the wedding, put your 'special day' make-up on, take your wedding shoes, put your veil on and borrow some silk flowers from the shop and get your mum to take photos of you. And if you do NOTHING else, think of your posture and stand tall in your beautiful dress. If you were hassled and feeling less lovely next to size 10 beanpoles, you don't 'think tall'. Try and get your head into a positive mental attitude zone. I have never been to a wedding where the bride didn't look beautiful- you will be beautiful too.

Good luck x

I fell out of love with my dress at the same stage. I think it was because I tried it on at the seamstresses house and there was no big mirror, fancy lighting and posh wallpaper behind me, just manikins, a sewing machine or two and a load of other dresses (including one the same as mine) hung up on door frames around me. The pinning made it look odd and I felt short and not at all glamorous. I think I even posted about it after my fitting actually... Anyway, if it makes you feel better, I felt more positive when I went back to collect it and put my accessories with it. And on the day, when my hair and make up was looking it's best ever and I had my new shoes and my veil and jewellery on I felt amazing. Don't panic.