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Bohemian Raspberry
Beginner July 2009

I hate my OH sometimes

Bohemian Raspberry, 11 December, 2008 at 11:11 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 12

I started a new job in August and last month I had to take 2 days off sick (with a sick note from the doctor) due to a chest infection. Obviously this couldn't be helped and my new employer was aware when they took me on that I occasionally suffer from chest problems due to my Asthma.

On Sunday whilst clearing out the living room, I was moving the coffee table when the shelf underneath it slid off and landed on my foot. The three middle toes on my foot swelled up and bruised. I've been in agony since then, it's near impossible to drive, I can barely walk and the swelling hasn't gone down.

This morning after OH had left for work I rang NHS direct as the pain was unbearable and I've put up with it for 3 days. They advised that I went to A&E which I did after I had rang work to explain. They know how much I've been struggling this week and my boss actually said she though I should have gone to A&E sooner.

The hospital have said 2 of the toes in my foot are fractured, they've put it in a splint and I have to go back in 3 weeks to see how they're healing. I've just rang my OH to tell him and he's just started going on and on and on about how I need to be more careful and how I'm going to have every one at work calling me behind my back because I'm always off sick apparently. He also said he thinks I should be in work right now and to get there asap. Why does he do this? I have broken toes FFS after a complete accident which I could really blame on him for not putting the table together properly when we first got it. He's really starting to get to me lately, he's under lots of pressure with his job but I'm sick and tired of him taking it out on me. I didn't ask for 2 broken toes did I, all I'm asking for now is a bit of bloody sympathy from him but instead he's asking me if I'm going to go to Tesco after work to get him something for his fecking tea!!

Sorry, I don't know why I'm posting this but I need to let this out of my system cos I'm really pissed off now on top of being in agony.

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Latest activity by GMT, 11 December, 2008 at 16:04
  • R
    Beginner March 2004
    RachelHS ·
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    Ooh - I'd be really annoyed at that, too.

    Are you able to take anything for the pain?

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  • SophieM
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    Yes, I would be annoyed too ? Sounds like he means well but is being just a tad insensitive and controlling! Your poor toes - broken toes hurt worse than anything ?

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  • (Mrs) Magic of Christmas
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    I would be annoyed too. ?

    Have you been given something for the pain lovely? xx

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  • Bohemian Raspberry
    Beginner July 2009
    Bohemian Raspberry ·
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    Thanks all. I'm taking ibruporofen for the pain but it's not touching it so my mum is going to call round later with something stronger.

    I wouldn't care but he didn't even ask what the doctor said, all I got to tell him was that I'd been to A&E and 2 of my toes were fractured. He didn't even bother asking if I'm ok or anything, he just went into a rant about how much time I've taken off (3 days including today) and how people will be calling me behind my back for it. This is the same guy who last month took 2 days off sick because he 'couldn't be arsed'.

    A little bit of sympathy from him wouldn't have gone amiss but all I got was a lecture from him. I'm trying to make allowances as I know he's under a lot of pressure at the moment with work stuff but he's going too far recently and I think after I spoke to him earlier, I've crossed a point now where something needs to give because we really can't continue like this. Time for a chat once he gets home I think, that's if he lets me speak before he starts again about me not going into work this afternoon.

    Roll on 2009, this year has sucked ?

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  • F
    Beginner July 2003
    Fimble ·
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    Sorry to hear about your toes. I'd be fed up with his attitude too. In fact I have noticed my husband never says please or thank you for anything so I have started pointing it out to him on every occasion. He is charming and polite to other people just seems to forget to be nice to me - so I am retraining him.

    I think you do need to point out calmly that you expect to be treated with a bit of kindness, he might not realise what hes like if hes all wrapped up in work.

    Get well soon and PUT YOUR FEET UP!

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  • Zebra
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    Zebra ·
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    Maybe you should take a sledgehammer to his toes and see how much work he manages to do?

    Grrr - I hope your toes get better soon.

    As for day's off - you've not even had enough to require a doctor's note. What planet is he on?!

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  • NickJ
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    Sorry for the possibly dumb question, why cant you be in work if you have broken toes?

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  • (Mrs) Magic of Christmas
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    I think the same day BR has been to A&E and been splinted, she can have the rest of the day off as I'd imagine it is currently killing. She hasn't said anything about staying off long term although I get the impression she has to drive to work.

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  • LouM
    Beginner August 2007
    LouM ·
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    Yes, I must admit this was my overwhelming second thought. I've worked through broken toes and a broken foot before, but I only have to walk a mile all in each day to get to work, and when I get there I can get sat on my fat arse all day should I so wish. I appreciate it's not teh same for everyone.

    My first thought, however, was that OH is being really insensitive? Why would that be? Is he worried you might lose your job/ income, or is he perhaps stressed and doing the 'hurt the one you love' routine? Either way, ?.

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  • NickJ
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    Yes, sorry, i know about staying off today, but i read it that she cant go into work at all with broken toes.

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  • Bohemian Raspberry
    Beginner July 2009
    Bohemian Raspberry ·
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    I am just staying off today on the doctor's advice plus the pain is much worse now than it was earlier. I will be going into work tomorrow but as I can't drive I've had to arrange someone to take me and pick me up from work.

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    Beginner November 2005
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    Poor you that sounds so painful, try not to let him get to you, make sure you get lots of care/attention/hugs from your mum when she comes over and discuss in detail how annoying your H is being, a good bitching sesh helps me!

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  • GMT
    Beginner December 2008
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    Hmm. Sounds like he might be all wrapped up in his own worries and is also anxious about you and your job, and perhaps this is skwing his perspective. That's not to excuse him - he does sound very insensitive. and even if he is worried about other things, this doesn't make it right that he takes it out on you. I hope you both have a good air-clearing talk tonight ....

    I must admit, I assumed from your OP that you couldn't go to work with broken toes full stop, not that you were just giving it a miss today. I see what you mean now and staying home today sounds like absolutely the best thing to do. Hope the pain wears off soon!

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