I have a confession - Wedding related

I feel exactly like this about our wedding. Best day was pretty much every day of our honeymoon - no stress, no fuss, just us!?

I totall agree. Mine wasn't either. It was nice but I came out of it feeling very deflated and although every one else enjoyed it I felt I should have and I didn't. I actually feel jealous when people say what a good time they had. I was really upset when I saw the guest pictures as h had a drink in his hand for every one that he was in. Apparently people had just been buying him them - I had to beg him at the end of the night for a J2O as I had been hours without a drink and not one person had cared enough to think that a bridal gown might not have pockets. oh and the honeymoon sucked too.

My best day was either when I went to see U2 in Manchester on their elevations tour or the F1 last year.

sheesh ?

are you not capable of asking someone to get you a drink? or heaven forbid, getting one yourself?

and whats the problem with him having a drink in his hand? whilst your wedding may be in the past, its clear that the bridezilla inside you remains alive and well ?

my wedding was fantastic, and i loved every second of it.

I loved my wedding. From the first steps down the aisle "me! me! look at MEEEEEEEEE!" ? to the very last minute. It was great, everyone had a great time and I didn't worry or stress about anything. Even my 2 bossy SILs telling everyone where to stand for the photos didn't get to me, and usually that would have be in a rage ? but that day nothing fazed me at all. Yes it probably was the best day of my life, of course becoming a mother for the first time was pretty special too but having to have one's ravaged fanny stitched together takes the gloss of the enjoyment somewhat ?

As for the drinks, maybe I'm just bolshy but I found "fancy getting the bride a drink then?" worked quite well if no-one took the hint if they saw me without a glass ?

My wedding day was one of the best days to date. Even though i shared it with a monster guest who was so obviously uber jealous, but, that did not spoil it.

I would do it all over again.

There have been plenty of sucky days sionce though.

Another reason to have a free bar all evening I reckon.

My wedding day (five years and 1 day ago) was brilliant, I loved it. So was the day I rode my first wave. I hope I have better days to come though.

I had a fab time, a brilliant day.

I'd hope the best day of my life is still to come though ?

My wedding day was definitely one of the best days of my life so far. As to the drinks, I didn't get offered one either, but I just walked up to guests who were already at the bar and asked if they wouldn't mind getting me a drink - worked every time! I was nicely pickled by the end of the night as well - just at that stage where you have all the warmth of alcohol but none of the sickness.

I have had other fab days that would rival it - the day I found out I was pregnant was one. Unusually the day I had my daughter wasn't but that was because she was whisked off to SCBU very quickly. I think though that the day she came home from there with me was the happiest day of my life so far. It was the first time I cried through happiness and probably just beats my wedding day into second place.

Chookles, I didn't know it was your anniversary yesterday! Happy Anniversary, dude ?

My wedding day was brilliant, the best bit was the Irish contingent and the English contingent singing songs backwards and forwards to each other in the bar until 5 in the morning. I had plenty to drink (because I have a mouth in my face), I also nicked whole packets of fags from people and never returned them ?

Would do it all again tomorrow, was the best party I've ever been to.

Thanks dude. I'd actually forgotten until I was presented with a card. Oops ?

If you do do it all over again, I'm there.

Can i be a bridesmaid holio?

crikey I've never had anyone call me a bridezilla before. I could never have been so rude as to ask someone and I didn't have any money on me (they really should sew pockets into those bloody dresses). i think I'm a little more irritated as H didn't lift a finger towards the day - he just put a suit on, turned up and then enjoyed himself wheres as I did everything and spent most of the evening having to great the all the family that my dad had invited to the evening do who I didn't even know.

My 1st aniversary had better be good.

I loved my wedding. i had a great frock, it was a beautiful place to spend the day, the food was great and best of all, everyone in the world I loved was there and having a blast. And there was a crazy amount of cheese, and sweets. Heaven.

I keep asking when I can get married again.

WTF? rude? how is it rude to ask for a drink, at yur own party, that you have paid for,

you do have a few funny ideas

Course you can, Ginge. I need to be a BM too, I've never been one before <gets out world's smallest violin>

Zooropa, why on earth wouldn't you ask people you have invited to your wedding to get you a drink? I think that's hysterical ?

Controversially, you could have asked your husband ?

I take it Zooropa you are not happiily married and regret spending money on the day - well that's how it sounds!!

I'm not married and therefore bitter and twisted about my life before anyone else feels the need to say it ! ha ha

Best day of my life? er I'll get back to you I have had some amazing days I am very lucky!

My wedding day was amazing, and certainly the best day of my life up until my son was born in Feb.

I looked stunning (big head icon!), my H looked amazing and everyone we love was there. It pissed down all day but I couldn't have cared less!

I had the opposite problem with drinks, people were constantly putting them in my hand but as I'd discovered I was pregnant 2 days before I had to palm most of them off onto my H and bridemaids - not that they were complaining!

I'd do it again in a shot!

yeah but then at my birthday party a couple of months ago I sat on my stairs for quite a while as everyone were having fun in the living room and I didn't want to intrude. I've spent my hole life having to struggle with being around people (my dr says I have low self esteem but I'm still waiting for the cbt appointment) - I just thought the day that was suposed to be the best of my life would be different (becuase these people are supposed to know me).

Your last post has made me feel quite sad. I am sorry for snapping at you and hope you get your appointment soon.

My wedding day and honeymoon were some of the best days of my life. The best day by far was when I gave birth to Harriet, despite all the tears and stitches.

H really enjoyed his wedding day, but says the honeymoon was the best bit. I kind of agree. My wedding day was everything I wanted it to be, exactly as I imagined it, but the honyemoon was fantastic. Best holiday I've ever had and I felt I totally deserved it after all that organising.

Other best days include getting engaged, my sister's wedding and a whole host of days spent with H and Harriet.

Maybe I'm easlily pleased, but we had a perfect day at the seaside recently and that was one of my best days.

Neah my H is great. I'm more bitter the world in general but I guess thats another thread ?

My wedding was bloody brilliant. I usually look like a troll in photos, and I was bricking it about having loads of pics taken, but i ended up so relaxed and happy that I actually look human in the photos!

It was the best party I've ever been to and I've never drunk so much champagne in my life.

Heading off for honeymoon with both of us hungover half to death wasn't quite so much fun, mind.

I loved our wedding also. The best party i had ever been too, and i've been to a few. And everyone who i thought wouldn't enjoy themselves did also, which was great.

I was a complete bridezilla and it was worth it.

And i don't/didn't care about being seen holding a pint glass either. It was my wedding i could hold whatever i wanted!!

I feel sad that some of you didn't have to ideal day.

I can't pinpoint the best day of my life. I've had lots of great and amazing days, but not one where I could say it was better than the rest and nothing could live up to it. I'm not married so can't even include my wedding day ?

I'll tell you after next Saturday! I don't expect it to be the best day of my life though, I'm looking forward to it and think it will be fun but have no expectations apart from that (and a very good meal).

*Edited as I posted too soon

We had a fab day, but I'd say I've had days that have left me with a buzzing high, even more than my wedding.

I enjoyed our wedding day - mind you we organised it in about 6 weeks and were pretty relaxed about it all so hadn't got all stressed about it before hand.

drinks - i asked a few people to buy me a drink - mostly soft drinks as i was knocked up but i did have a couple of g&t's over the evening.....

dunno that i would class it as the best day of my life tho..... it was good and fun and i have good memories of it but at best it would tie with the birth of my children

I do feel that i would like to defend Zooropa a bit here - i experience a similar thing at my wedding. I had a wonderful day, but i did notice that it seemed far more acceptable for the groom to get stuck into the drinks, while the bride - ie. me! - to be more of a hostess - circulating around the guests, thanking them for coming etc. Often the wedding planning does fall to the woman, no matter if they want it that way or not, and it can be a strain. I think sometimes the man is given more freedom to turn up and have fun - though i managed to do that too! I also think it is a bit off that Zooropa's H was bought lots of drinks while she wasn't - i'd be a bit peeved too. Also, i too would feel a bit rude asking guests blatantly to buy me a drink. We had free wine and beer so it wasn't an issue, but had it been a pay bar, it'd have felt cheeky. After all, guests have often paid for hen/stag night, travel, hotel for the night, wedding present and maybe a new outfit. They've shelled out a heck of a lot to share your day. Yes, you've paid for their meal and a party and often a drink or two, but i'd still feel uneasy asking them to buy me a drink aswell. Course, that doesn't mean they shouldn't feel free to buy the bride a drink on her wedding day if they're buying one for the groom - but i don't think they should feel obliged. Zooropa - you have my sympathy, can't imagine it helps if you have low-esteem to have people saying your feelings aren't valid...

Well I went into my wedding not expecting it to be the best day of my life (I don't really like being centre of attention and everyone focussing on ME!) but I think it actually was - although I reserve the right to have better days later on! I was so stressed in the run up but on the day I woke up completely calm, enjoyed every minute and had a blast with my friends. Controversially (for some relatives anyway) MrSC and I split up after the meal and mingled with our individual groups of friends/relatives because we didn't feel like we'd see anyone otherwise. After about an hour of this a friend offered me a glass of wine, I suddenly realised that it was the first drink I'd had since the toasts and that was me for the evening! I do think it's a bit mean that no one bought Zooropa a drink but if I'd been really strapped I'd have just asked the bar to put it on the wedding tab - I doubt they'd have minded. Hope you get some help soon Zooropa - if it makes you feel any better I had a stinking hangover the next day and couldn't fully enjoy the fab breakfast at our hotel with our friends.

I had alot of stress for our wedding but I don't think about that now - we had a fab time and I do think it was the best day of my life dispite the arguments and people being unreasonable. The day was perfect and as we were staying in the hotel any drinks went on the room - suprisingly the bill was about £20.00 the next day - not sure how that happened !!!

My wedding day was a bit crap really. It was organised in 4 weeks flat, cost £250 and because I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time I could drink. I remember one point during the evening sitting at a table on my own while my new husband stood outside with most of the (20) guest happily getting pissed. I think we were both in bed by 11pm. However that said I've spent many happy days since the 11 years that we're been married that have far surpassed the actual wedding day and really thats what it's all about.

WTF? How is it rude to ask someone for a drink? Was there no close friends/family you could have asked? Yes I probably wouldn't have asked H's dad's friends who I barely knew, but why wouldn't I ask my dad/uncle/best friend to get my a sodding drink? Or my husband? What is rude about that?