I know i am over reacting but just need a vent...

Personally i would let my mum chose whatever outfit she wanted to and say sod it.

thats exactly how i feel, the shop that she went to (and now ordered her outfit from) is the same as the one that i am taking my mum to wednesday, if i hadnt said anything to her i wouldnt have minded,

i do want them both to look lovely but i was under the impression that it was the dont thing that the mother of the bride chose her outfit first?!!

In which case i woud go there let my mum chose what ever she wants, not look at or be influenced by what your mil2b choose and then look afterwards and you may be pleasantly surprised that they go together and if they dont just dont stand them next to each other in any photos!!

Ive never heard that MOB chooses hers 1st. Personally I dont think it matters - as long as they dont wear the same one!!

From some of the posts i've read and weddings i know of, i know in some cases the mothers do try and out do each other and panic about getting their outfit first, but hopefully both ladies will have different tastes and it won't be a problem.

I wish i was in ur shoes!lol my own mother is wearing an IVORY DRESS! ?

I have also never heard this, I don't really think it matters what they wear so long as it is appropriate and they feel comfortable.

I've never heard of this either- i know both the mothers can get quite carried away so i'm staying well clear- they can wear what they like!

I agree with you meggles. My mum is wearing pink and grey which fits with teh colour scheme whilst i think my mil2b is planning on wearing gree at the moment. They are both fully aware of the colour scheme, flowers, decs etc so what they choose to wear is up to them. The only time i would get truely mad is if someone turned up wearing the same dress as me!!

When my daughter got married I gave her a choice of two dresses, she chose this one!

Slightly annoying but then she is allowed to buy an outfit without your permission.

I don't think you can compalin, as long as they don't wear the same thing!

Yes you are over reacting. Your MIL should be allowed to wear whatever she likes and is comfortable in for your wedding

I don't see the problem. Even going to the same shop it is doubtful they would pick the same outfit. My Mum & MIL chose their outfits without my input. They are grown woman after all.

I would not let it bother you my MIL went shopping and so did my mum ended up both with light grey without the other one knowing and I think both there outfits are lovely (and I dont really get on with MIL lol)

Lx

I think you are over reacting.

Surely she has the choice to wear what she wants and the day is important for her too.

I don't think it is fair to demand that the Mother of the Groom wait until the MOB has got her outfit and then tell her to work around that colour, especially when she is paying for her outfit.

Although it may be an old tradition for the MOB to choose first surely all you can is request that she waits and if she does not then so be it.

My bridesmaids wore midnight blue, my mum wore a very pale pink and my MIL wore duck egg blue. They both had beautiful dresses and jackets and both felt comfortabe in what they had one. They did not match 100% but they are not standing together on the posed photographs anyway and both looked lovely next to the bridesmaids.