I little bit annoyed/Upset...

Sounds as if they might have some worries that weren't there when they came back over here for the other weddings. By GFC does she mean the forest fires? Were they affected by them? Sounds as if they would very much like to come given that she enquired about the arrangements in January (before the fires?) - for some reason they are unable to say for definite at the moment - better that they say that than say they will be coming and do want a room and then back out.

I know it will hurt if they don't / can't make it but your wedding will still be amazing and like your H2B says a few less guests means savings to be made! Don't they say that 10% of those you invite won't be able to make it?

Thanks so much, yeah I know what your saying is so true.

My aunt lives in Brisbane so they where not affected by the fires. She was a headmistress for english, so me an h2b have worked out GFC to mean global financial crisis we think which we all knew about last year. I think there is more to it and has something to do with the fact my dad is not giving me away my mum is. But if they have a problem with that, thats there problem not mine

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It doesn't surprise me that they are worrying about their finances after what they've probably spent out attending all the other weddings!

I think the best thing would be just to leave their invitation open and see what happens.

I am sending them an invite, anyway. If they decide not come they can not say they have not received an invite.

My dads and cousins weddings have been over the last 17 years, the last was 5 years ago in October, so I can not see that. Ie my dad got married 92 I think my cousin got married 99, my other cousin got married 2002 and my last cousin got married 2004

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Oh Global Financial Crisis! Of course.

Maybe - like many of us - they would once have thought 'sod it let's go to the wedding in Ireland and put the flights on the credit card' they can't / don't want to do that now - again like many of us.

Like Tahdah says just see what happens.

I'm sure it doesn't have anything to do with who is giving you away - it doesn't make it any less you dad's day? I'm giving myself away - I couldn't imagine it any other way!

It sounds like they would very much like to be there (and maybe will), but are not in a position to make the decison to fly across the world for a holiday lightly ... and have said so politely and honestly!

Don't be upset by it - I'm sure they will be there if they can and be thinking of you if they can't.

I know its disappointing for you but coming from Australia to the UK is an aboslutely huge expense! I know becasue we live in New Zealand and are coming back to UK for our wedding. We had very close friends from NZ that were orginally coming and now are not able to and its totally understandable. As others have said I'm sure she would be there if she could and its not a decision she would probably make lightly.

Hiya

I can understand that you are upset by it, but sometimes people shield you from things they are embarassed or too private to say, give them the benefit of the doubt perhaps there are money issues they don't wish to shout about too much. If they can't make it, how about doing a live link up so they can watch your speeches and then say a few words too, its a thought. I know its not the same, but it means they do still share in your day a little

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WSS

It sounds to me as if they could make it they would.

Hiya :-)

Just from my own experience I wouldn't take it too much to heart. We sent out our Aussie invites last year to give everyone plenty of warning so now I have no's, yes's and maybe's. A lot of the maybe's are people I would really love to have at the wedding and they really want to come but most won't probably be able to say they can definetly come until about a month before the wedding due to finances etc. I have then just decided to put them on my list as yes's as it's a bit easier to remove people rather than add them on later (our venue has a maximum capacity for dinner). In my opinion it doesn't sound like she doesn't want to come it will just depend on finances and time off as it's not just a couple of hours flight away. I would probably just put her down as a yes and hope for the best but remember that the decision doesn't sound like it's to do with you personally or any of your choices that you've made for the wedding :-) I hope that you start feeling better and good luck for your wedding! ? xxx

Thanks Ladies for all your replys, I know she will be there if she can so that is the main thing will keep you updated xx

I wouldn't take it too much to heart - easier said than done. obviously you are upset becasue you want them to be there, but you don't know what their situation is like at the moment and it does sound like they would love to be there if things weren't so difficult. keep your chin up..