I need to get more excited

Can't help on the excited front as I've got 13 months to go lol, but just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear your planning's been marred by issues, that's so sad. BUT it's their loss, you know you've made the right and best decision so don't allow it to get in the way of your time. Treat yourself to something nice, perhaps a nice evening out with your H2B - just the two of you, then look forward to your big party

I don't feel like I'm getting married if that helps! I know I'm planning a wedding, I know I have a big white poofy dress upstairs and a dining table that is more of a wedding work station and I've had a hen do which should make it seem like I'm getting married but I definitely don't feel like it! I'm not sure when it will feel real or when I'll get excited... maybe when I wake up in the morning on the day?

This. I know it is hard when there are issues along the way as l have had a few myself. Hopefully you can get back on track and enjoy the last couple of weeks before the wedding. Like Pammy67 said how about a nice evening just the 2 of you, either out or a nice evening in?

Ah lovely that's not good at all

I've had my moments as well of just feeling like giving up with the planning with family problems and people being goons.

Try and forget all the bad things though like the ex BM and friends etc, it's a huge day for you and you don't want to look back in years to come and regret not making the most of it and not enjoying the planning process.

Have you got any last minute planning to do that you could focus on? Or could you try and organise a girlie night with friends and have some wedding chat, look through some pics of your dress etc to cheer you up? Focus on all the good points and how much you're going to enjoy the day and try your best to forget all the bad, I know it's hard but the people that don't matter shouldn't ruin your planning process. Hope you feel a bit better soon & feel excited!

And just over 2 weeks time...how quickly has that went by!!

I think it's only natural Pugs, you go into wedding planning thinking it's all going to be great but you don't realise that it can put a real strain on relationships and that can be quite sad to discover. Also you've been weddingcentric for so long now that' it's only natural for the excitement to fade a bit. Just remember you're marrying the love of your life and you've got a gorgeous holiday to look forward to! I've seen a lot of posts like the closer to this day, I'm sure your excitement will come back soon.

I suspect you've got to that point where you've done all that you can and its now just a waiting game. I think that probably the night before, it will start to tingle and then grow and the day itself will be all you dreamed of. Don't worry about what you're leaving behind, look forward to what you're gaining xxx

I have less than 4 weeks to go and although I've not had the issues you've had I don't feel particularly excited either.

I think it's because all I can think about is all the things I have to get done between now and then. I wish someone would come along and sort it all for me so all I have to worry about is turning up looking pretty on the day! I'm just bored of waiting now really.

Easier said than done but try to put all the folk who've let you down out of your mind and think about (and surround yourself with) the people you care about and you know care about you. Do you have any other bridesmaids? Maybe arrange a last minute get together if you can with a bottle of wine and a chat about what you have planned. It might make it seem more real and get the excitement levels up a bit?

x

I think what you are feeling is quite normal.

When planning a wedding I think you have the initial excitement when you start booking stuff and its all new and exciting but this soon fades as your wedding always feels like ages away. As you progress the stress and politics gets thrown in the mix which bring you down further,

I don't think I felt excited again until the actual morning of my wedding when it hit me it was actually happening.

And despite all the stress and worry you have while planning its funny how you simply forget about it on the day and just enjoy it for what it is.

Not being excited was also a good thing too as I slept like a baby the night before the wedding and woke up feeling fresh instead of zombie like from being awake all night with excitement.

Hi,

Cutting out friends that are bad for your mental well being is a good thing, I did it years ago and have never looked back. So you def did the right thing there. The older I get the easier it is to realise how some people and situations are bad for you and you have to remove them from your life and remove yourself altogether.

As for not being excited this is completely normal, In fact most people don't get excited or worried about things days into the future and only deal with things on the day. Therefore I am sure that when your beautiful wedding day comes you will be excited. Don't put any emphasis on what you or others think you should be feeling, just accept you feel as you do, and know that all is well. There is no right or wrong way to feel before your wedding, its your wedding, and you are you, so just relax and know that whatever you are feeling, is normal for you.

xx

Thanks for all your replies, I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling a bit this way.

I've got my final venue meeting on Saturday so hopefully that'll get me a bit more in the mood. A couple of glasses of champagne whilst there wouldn't go amiss ;-)!!

I think you're all right, it's been a long time coming and a lot of expectations. Fallings out or not there probably would have been nerves/worry/apprehension anyway.

Thanks again :-)

Big hug, I know how it feels to have sucky friends, probably not to the extent you've had to deal with though.

As for the excitement, I'm on such an emotional rollercoaster at the moment, only 2 days to go! Some days I'm really excited, others I just want it to be over!

Sorry to hear you've had a bad time. Surround your self with the people who love you and forget all about those girls, they don't deserve your time or energy. I'm sure the excitment will come along soon enough

Awww I think its because of whats been happening to you, that's why you wont feel excited. It sounds like its been more of a rollercoaster of emotions than a happy time planning the best day of your life.

I bet when you get to a couple of days before you will start to feel great. You have got rid of the chaff out of your friends and you know that its the people that matter that will be spending your special day with you.

Try not to dwell on whats been happening, get a couple glasses of champers down your neck and enjoy your day. :-)

Im sure everything will go great! Im not excited yet either cos still a few things to finalise but im sure I will start feeling excited once everything is in place.

Big hugs and as im your date twin im sure we will both be very happy once the day is here! x

Hey Pugsley! Just wanted to pop by and say sorry you're feeling low, I concur with the peeps above!! Get some bubbles down your neck and your big day will be hear before you know!

I'm in a similar situation with some of my 'friends' - seriously aren't girls b*tchy?! When I got engaged my best friend who was always going to be a bridesmaid was so blaaaaah! Honestly can't even be bothered to go through with all the details, any way cutting a long story short we no longer talk and quite frankly I can't wait to share our day with people that love us and want to wish us lots of future happiness. The people that have been horrid are the ones missing out. You just enjoy your day, and fingers crossed you'll feel excited and happy and smiley again soon xx

This - as a fellow march bride, I'm getting married in 2 weeks today and dont get me wrong I am really looking forward to the big day, just cant get excited either.... we had a family get togehter on sunday and my mum and her friend were squeling and tee heeing about the wedding and basically down right hyper - i just didnt feel it and they looked at me like i had horns!!

i stop work tomorrow and my bridesmaid has just arrived home so think this will gee me up a bit.

i think the stress and upset you have had throughout the planning process has just brought you down - hard on you chin up, you're marrying the man of your dreams time to get ourselves in wedding mode!!!

Sorry for are feeling like this Pugsley

I hope by the time the day is here you get excited again like Funky did. I'm sure you will. Don't worry about other pathetic little girls who you are letting get to you. They aren't worth your time.

I for one am mega excited to read your wedding report!

We get married in November and i go through phases of excitement and not botheredness...

I still find it a bit surreal that i am actually getting married and its almost as though, despite everything being booked, its still not happening lol!

I'm really sorry to hear you had a crappy time of it through your planning though, i work on the basis that as long as i wake up excited and looking forward to it on the morning, thats all that really matters.... hope this helps a bit x

Thanks again everyone.

I think it's just hard to get excited because I work with/for one of my ex-friends (although that's soon going to change as I start a new job after my honeymoon) so I can't really get excited in the office & my other friends in the office feel a bit awkward mentioning the wedding around her as she is now not going.

I think the week l leave my job and get married I will be not excited as I have a few things to be excited about. It all just feels a bit 'meh' at the moment though.

Sounds like you've been having a stressful time as of recent with everything that has happened, so first and foremost, *squishes*.

I've got around 3 weeks to go, and am too feeling a bit 'meh', as you perfectly describe it. My favourite thing at the moment to make me smile (wedding-wise) is to find one of the smallest details I'm looking forward to.... I think the logic here is that I don't get bogged down with all of the more complicated details or stuff I have left to do. Yesterday's happy object: tiddlywinks. Sad I know, but hey!

Stay strong and remember: Everything will be AWESOME.

^^^ exactly this!! I was sitting in work this afternoon thinking, it's 5 weeks to the big day, I've had my hen do OHs stag is this weekend. I have my dress, I've got a million and 1 wedding things still to organise and yet...I still don't feel like I'm getting married and still don't have that excitement. Also still not had that 'oh shoot am I doing the right thing' moment which my friends keep telling me will come.

I'm hoping I get excited at least the week before?!