My sister (moh) has sent me a really hhurtful email today and I'm devastated :-(
As a bit of background she got married last year and asked me to be moh and OH to be usher. When we got engaged in July I asked her to be my moh, but OH chose 3 of his friends to be ushers. I brought up the subject of bil as an usher and OH said he found it hard choosing out of his friends. So fast forward 7 months (3months before the wedding) and out of the blue comes this email saying how hurt she is that we have snubbed her husband. Now, I have been trying to get hold of her for weeks to ask her some questions about her size for the BM dress and me booking her a make up trial and hotel room for the night before and she has not got back to me. All over Christmas she seemed uninterested when I spoke about the wedding to family and every time I brought it up directly to her she seemed to change the subject. I now understand why, she was obviously pis*ed at me for not asking her husband.
I picked up the email at work today and held it together until I left, I called my OH and cried. I called my mum and cried. I calmed down and am now at a point where I have 2 options. Ask him (or get OH to) or just go on as previously planned. Whatever I do will be wrong I am sure. My sister and I sorting this out like adults won't happen as the way I deal with things is to talk a lot about them and the way she does is not to talk at all.
So I suppose that this post is a bit about me getting it off my chest to someone (anyone!) who is not directly involved in my wedding and a bit of here's hoping that someone might have some advice.
Thank you for listening x