I never knew it would be so hard!!!

I'm only inviting the girls I see out of work i.e. they are friends as well as colleagues. Everyone else can sod off! I do get on with everyone at work but they are just work colleagues and I cant see the point in inviting them to my wedding. If I moved to another firm I wouldnt keep in touch with them so whats the point?

We both didn't invite all our work colleagues, for similar reasons to you. We've restricted it to basically people that we deal with on a daily basis, and actually like sufficiently enough to want to spend an evening with.

Our venue says you only have to cater for 75% of your evening guests - does yours offer something like that? It meant we could invite a few extras we might not necessarily have done so.

I'm inviting the close work friends that I see outside of work and inviting the others without partners at night.

Most of them I doubt will come to the evening- 9 of them in total.

Yep I am having dilemas like this - Major ones in fact!! Its very hard and very awkward.

I have the added issue that my OH works at the same place in the same department therefore our evening do is already going to look a bit like a department outing! But even then we can't invite everyone as there is about 50 people so plus partners would just be too much (actually the partners thing for work was a whole other dilema! especially as i have worked for the Company for 10 years so have met the majoritiy of the departments partners on many occasions)

We have decided its our day so we will invite who we want to be there - mind you we do differ on who we want to be there as he gets on with people I wouldnt invite and vice versa!

It really is a nightmare so I share your pain on this one x

I have the same problem, I work with about 40 people and if I invited all of them with a guest that would bump my numbers up to 80 and we are giving each guest a glass of wine with the buffet and each couple a Favour, I am only inviting my close friedns that I work with and see out of work plus a guest.

Was only just deciding what ot do last night about workmates. Have about 20 in the building that i work with and know them all well. decided to invite the 7 managers i work with and invite others to the service only. not including partners as simply do not have enough room or money. it is very difficult to decide what to do as u dont want to offen anyone.

I'm still not completely sure who we'll be deciding - the usual trend where I work (office of over 100) is that you invite your section - there are 8 of us in the section and so numbers wise, it's not a massive problem. The fact is that I only actually like 4 of them lol would never dream of spending social time with the others and definitely not their partners. There are, however, others in the office that I'm much closer to who work in different sections who I'm inviting all day.

It's a nightmare isn't it!!! I also have a weekend job, one of my colleagues is actually one of my BMs so they'll all be invited to the evening but hopefully most won't come - some don't live locally and the others generally seem disinterested in life sometimes!!!

OH has changed locations for his job so many times he doesn't know where he'll be when we send out invites so there's nobody on his side of the list from work at all yet.

If only we didn't have to be tactful in these things.....

At least I'm not the only one then having these problems lol ? Its such a nightmare. I think really no matter what you do, you'll usually end up upsetting someone, thats the trouble. Ahhhhhh!

I have got a great set of work friends from my previous job before we were all made redundant 18 months ago. Approx 10 people.

But since starting my new job, I would also like to invite many of the people there too. Approx 16 people + partners.

Problem is, my OH would only invite a max of 2 people from his work (very small team), and I don't want to completly out balance the mix.

At one point I was thinking of not inviting any work colleagues, old or new, but I think that will be hard going.

Are you getting your day videoed? You could always offer copies of the DVD to those that you can't invite.

No were not AJ - To be honest its the only the night do anyway that were having this prob rather than the day. I'm thinking I may just have to invite them all. Its not just numbers its just a few Im not bothered about having there, even though I get on with them, bbut it would leave a few out which wouldnt seem very nice IYKWIS.

I work with a team of 10 so will be inviting them all as I want them to come, but only to my evening do, have said the same to OH. We spend so much time with them I want them to celebrate with me

One thing I am undecided on is wether I allow them to bring partners!!

I work on a ward with about 25 other staff. I'm only inviting 2 with partners all day, and then the rest will be invited to the evening without partners.

We all get on pretty well and spend a lot of time together (I see people at work more than my family) and regularly have staff nights out. Pretty sure not everyone will come though as the ward will need covered/holidays etc but the people I work with are quite important to my life.x