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I think I've upset my MIL2B

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Mrs_T2B, 16 May, 2010 at 16:57

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We visited my MIL2B on Friday evening to take her Save The Date magnet and I'm paranoid that I've upset her. We were chatting about the wedding and what we'd already done, and she asked if I'd been dress shopping. I said my mum and I had gone and that I tried on two that I absolutely love. She asked...

We visited my MIL2B on Friday evening to take her Save The Date magnet and I'm paranoid that I've upset her.

We were chatting about the wedding and what we'd already done, and she asked if I'd been dress shopping. I said my mum and I had gone and that I tried on two that I absolutely love. She asked when she could see it and I said 'not until the big day'. She looked quite shocked and went quiet and then said that it wasn't very nice that I was keeping it a 'secret'. I explained it was nothing personal and that NO-ONE was seeing the dress only me and mum. She looked as though she was about to cry!

I am I being a bridezilla not wanting her to see me in it till the big day? ? She has recently had a big 'mum' role in my OH's sisters wedding (step parent), going to her first dress appointment etc.

I just feel a bit down about it now, like she thinks that I'm intentionally not wanting her to be part of the day when it's not that at all.

Sorry to be such a whingey pooh but I needed to get it off my chest ☹️

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Storky · 17 May, 2010 at 16:52
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It's a difficult one and I think Saracroft offers a decent solution to it.

I have found my dress. I have my mum and sisters coming to look at it over the course of the next couple of weeks and will be putting my deposit down once I've seen it. I shall be keeping it a secret from everyone else as I think it's nice to be able to make an entrance!

That said, I have asked my future MIL if she'd like to come to a fitting. My fiancé is her only child and she won't have the opportunity of the MOB role. She would never, ever ask to be included in something like that and, having seen the smile on her face when I asked her, I am so very glad I did. It's given us something that we can share, a memory that will just be ours, and I'm really pleased to have been able to do that.
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