I wonder if I missed out?

Hey

I'm pretty laid back about my wedding. Bought my dress through my work (a department store), ex sample, it was the third one I tried on, on a random day off. I didn't do the whole 'proper' trying on in bridal stores. I think it would have been fun, but I'd found the one I wanted.

Did a bit of research about flowers and got three quotes but then sorted it pretty quickly. I've planned my hen night but it's just going to be a girly night out, nothing major like a weekend away. Not really worried about a colour scheme but knew I wanted purple bridesmaids dresses so the flowers are going to be purple, that's about it.

Cake's coming from M&S I think, cars are from the Glasgow black cab company who have a wedding fleet (white cab with flowers and stuff but nowt too fancy). My hairdresser will be doing my hair but I'll be doing my own nails and make up. Still to get a DJ and photographer but I'm pretty relaxed about it, plenty of time.

I don't want all the planning to make it more about a wedding than a marriage, if you see what I mean.

I think all you probably missed out on was a lot of unnecessary stress! ?

GOD NO!! (well thats my opinion anyway).

I didn't try on many dresses either as here we have to pay to try them on! I booked reception venue, photographer, cars, florist, dj all from the internet pretty much and haven't seen the church where we are getting married. Will also just get an M&S cake ..... good old online ordering. Haven't gone BM dress shopping, have had a look at dresses online and BM going to check them out. My Mum and Dad even went to the wedding fayre and tasted our meal options for us. This is cos we live overseas but are coming back to UK to get married .....can't say I feel like we have missed out though and tbh that has been more than enough for me.

As we get closer a number of issues have cropped up and I am a bit over it all. If you know what you want and its easy to sort it all out then that is surely the better option.... I would say you have probably just missed out on a load of extra stress and thats about it.

Why on earth would you feel you've missed out? you've still organised your wedding, you just know what you want. too much is made of wedding planning - surely the most important thing is saying your vows - everything else is just a bonus?

you really haven't missed out at all!

I got married 10 years ago and I think if I had done all the stressy bits it wouldn't have been my style as we are generally laid back people.

I'm going very low key on my wedding.....for our wedding, there will only be me, H2B, my mum and stepdad, then we're haivng a party when we come back - which I am inviting people to as a "party" not a reception as I don't wan't anything formal. At the end of the day, its only 1 day at the start of our marriage.