Ideas for children

Wow, a NYC wedding sounds amazing!

Why not ask your 19 and 14 year old boys to read a poem/song/speech? You could ask your 12 year old to be in charge of the guest book and to take it to people to sign. Your niece could hand out cake/sweets or give her a few disposable cameras and let her go around taking photos of guests - depending on how 'girlie' she is, you could say that she is your 'fairy photographer'.

Just a few ideas ?

Hi, we are getting married in Jamaica, just the two of us. My daughter is 25 though, but I would still like to involve her & my grandchildren who will be 2 and 3. I am having speaches, so my brother will give a speach

Im not sure how to involve my daughter though as she wont speak in front of people.

Im looking forward to seeing your replies as it may give me some ideas.

Hi, I think Butterfly2014 has given some great suggestions. Without putting a downer on your situations as I perfectly understand, my father got remarried in Florida when my brother and I were teenagers and we were very hurt at being left out. However, there was no after party that we could be involved in, so I think just involving them in some way is a great idea. Getting them to right a mini speech or say a poem is a great idea and will make them feel important in the grand scale of things. Perhaps involve them in the planning, choosing the music, creating a guest book with pictures and photos etc. I'm sure it will be lovely and they will be really happy to have been so involved.

Thanks for the suggestions and advice ladies, I hadn't thought of speeches before, but I think it would be a great idea. As we're not having the ceremony and wedding breakfast with our families it would be great to incorporate these ideas into the evening do ?.

My niece will love to be involved by taking photos and she has asked if she can wear a bridesmaids dress (and of course I said yes!).

I think the key is to involve the children in the planning of the reception and get their ideas, I want it to be about all of us a family, not just about my partner and me.

My daughter is helping with all my planning ( we are also planning her wedding for Jan2014 ). She is absolutely fine with us getting married abroad & doesnt feel left out as she is having loads of input into the reception. Shes helping make my invitations & table decs as well.

I am getting my gradaughter a bridesmaid dress...shell be 2 & will look soooo cute & my grandson will have a little suit on, he will be 3

I don't know if this is any good but any chance you could do the 'give you away' thing - perhaps one of the older boys could walk you towards your husband - might not be possible depending on the venue type?

You could then use the other suggestions, have one of the other boys do a speech and the last guy do the guest book - then you've given them all an equally important and individual job! ?

And, as suggested by butterfly2014, have your niece be the fairy photographer!