Ideas on how to make amends to a friend. I have mucked up.

If I were your friend all I'd be after would be an apology - it was obviously an honest mistake. I wouldn't want you to buy me flowers or anything.

A small gift maybe - doesnt have to cost much, something that shows thought ie not flowers or chocolates or booze, something you ll know she ll really appreciate, with a handwritten card containing a grovelling apology.

I wouldn't expect you to do anything, really. A sincere apology and maybe a promise to your treat next time. I really don't think you need to send anything, lovely.

It's perfectly reasonable that your friend's a bit upset, but if you're poorly there's nothing you can do, she should be a bit understanding of that also. I hope she's not making too big a deal of it, especially since it's so out of character for you.

What's happening with the festering lump? Do you have anti-bs? [gentle hug] ?

Can you get to her to see her? Maybe tonight? Then you could apologise in person which is the best I think in these sorts of situation.

Thanks all for not virtually stringing me up!

I can't really get to hers tonight, she lives a good 30 minute drive away, and driving is what i am trying to avoid, it rubs the manky bit under my arm and irritates it.

I have apologised over the 'phone.

I will send her a card with a new date where i will take her for lunch, near hers in the new year then, i think that is ok isn't it? Nick, i am all goft idea'ed out, i have no clue what i could get her.

Holio, my armpit is so sore it is not funny. I have anti biotics which have given me that most pleasant of side effects which needs more cream and another tablet (niiiiiiiiiiice) but the abscess has weeped, so now i have a hole in my armpit, gunge and still very tender skin covering the whole armpit and down my arm, they say this is it getting better ? At least it is not a massive lump anymore though.

Bloody hell, dude, that sounds rough ?

Seriously, what you've said is fine. Your friend, although put out, will understand xx

I think taking her out for lunch in the NY is a lovely idea. In the meantime I would send her a little handwritten note apologising. Particularly in the circumstances I am sure she will understand.

Phew, actually she is not the sort that will let things rumble on, she says what she thinks.

I just feel rubbish as our other mutual friend (they were the closer two) has dumped us both fairly recently, and i know she is smarting from that, so i have just made things worse i guess.

The armpit is on the mend, it is not so sore now it has popped as the skin is not so tight,