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Beginner September 2014

I'm a bridesmaid...what is the etiquette on gifts to the bride?

beckimas, 11 February, 2014 at 12:30 Posted on Planning 0 6
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Hi all, a post for once not about my own wedding lol. I am moh at my friends wedding in 2 weeks time. Oh is best man as well. They are going to Disneyworld Florida for honeymoon and have asked for money so we were going to give them £100 but in dollars so think it works out about $150 - I thought this was a nice amount to give as if somebody gave us £100 as a wedding present we would be so shocked. However, another bridesmaid (the grooms sister) has just text me saying she is buying the bride a Pandora charm as a gift from the bridesmaids and did I want to give her any money for it...I felt awful saying no and that my oh and I were already giving them what we can afford but should I be getting a pressie from me as a bm aswell?? Only other times I've been a bm was when I was much younger so don't really know the done thing but I sure wouldn't expect 2 presents from the same person. What do you think? Tia x

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Latest activity by clarehj, 11 February, 2014 at 19:31
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    Beginner May 2015
    Jayla ·
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    I was a bridesmaid last year. My friend also asked for money. Me and my other friend were very short of money and the wedding was organised very last minute. We have £30 between us plus bought her a pandora wedding charm. I was embarrassed that it wasn't much, but you give what you can. £150 seems very generous to me.

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  • ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
    Beginner January 2012
    ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown ·
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    As a bridesmaid, I would buy a regular gift as if I were a guest (not a sentimental one to mark the relationship or commemorate the day). I would probably be more generous than normal though, because BM assumes a close relationship.

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  • Arrianne87
    Beginner June 2015
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    I was MOH last year, and the bride organised her wedding in 6 weeks so we were only able to give £50 from myself & BF (they'd asked for money) but I bought the champagne for the morning getting ready, and myself and the other BM got her garter and a horseshow necklace to wear for good luck as a present from just the 'bridal' party.

    I think £100 converted into $ is a very geerous gift and I dont think the bride would expect something else from you Smiley smile

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  • *Pugsley*
    Beginner March 2014
    *Pugsley* ·
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    Exactly this.

    Do whatever you're happy doing, so basically stick with your original plan of dollars as I think they'd appreciate it.

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    Beginner September 2014
    beckimas ·
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    Thank you all!! I did think that we were being quite generous so will stick with our plan. I think they will really appreciate it as I don't think they would expect it from us. As well as our own wedding in September, we are going to Cyprus in June for my brothers wedding where I am also bridesmaid lol. Thanks again x

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    Beginner November 2014
    Hisgirl ·
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    You're certainly wedding busy this year! Kudos to you as I don't think I could do all that.

    I agree with what others are saying though, £100 is more than generous and I would be over the moon to receive such a gift.

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  • clarehj
    Beginner April 2012
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    I got my bride an additional present, as she had spent a lot of money on me *bride-maiding* me up - dress, hair, make-up etc. We clubbed together got her a bracelet and I also got a beautiful jewellery set from my bms when I was married.

    But it's about what's in budget/affordable and it sounds like your wedding present is very lovely and generous. How many other BMs are there? If you would be the only one not contributing to that you may feel a little awkward. In that case would you consider giving her a few less dollars and puttng the remainder towards the BM present?

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