Hi! After talking about getting engaged for over a year my OH finally did it last Fri whilst we were away in Wales for my birthday. I am over the moon, couldnt be happier! We came home Sunday (my birthday) and spent the day telling grandparents and other family members then had dinner with my parents, brothers and my oldest brother's gf. It was perfect and i was buzzing all day. Throughout the day and especially over dinner we had many questions asked; venues, set a date, when are we having KIDS!?, colours, bridesmaids, type of ceremony, whats important to us etc. sometimes our answers had confused/negative response. Ie we want to get married outdoors in Sept 'oh, really? Why?' We will set a date within 6months 'no it needs to be sooner, everywhere gets booked up quickly' we want to spend 1.5years of planning and enjoy the engagement so ideally sept 2015 'do it sooner, get married Sept 2014'. I enjoyed discussing our options and possibilities, even when people had other ideas i appreciated them as its another option but no offence would be taken if we go a different route, as its our day. However, when i was in bed that night, taking in the whole day, i was soooo anxious i felt like i was having a heart attack. All the info, what we have to do, what people would prefer, it got too much and i cant shift this feeling of being nervous/anxious. Did anyone else feel like this? I really happy to finally be engaged and planning our day, but the thought of everything we have to plan and save for just seems impossible.
about us;
we met over 6years ago whilst my OH was in the army. He had just came from Afghan and went round a friend's house where i was and was just leaving. A quick introduction at the front door, i left my friend to spend some quality time with him, as she had been talking of him for months and worried sick, but i didnt even know who this guy was apart from what she was telling me over the pass few months. As soon as i got in the car i texted her asking about him, whilst unknown to me, all he kept saying to her were questions about me. Next weekend she had planned to go clubbing and said that her, her bf and the army guy would pick me up. After a night out we exchanged numbers, met up every chance he had when he had leave and 6weeks after meeting I asked him to be my bf. Dec 2010 he left the army to work for his parent's company. Sept 2011 we bought our place and oct 2011 we moved in. Jan 2012 he got made redundant as the company supplying his dad's business with work said they were pulling out, so they lost their business. All our savings went on paying bills so we didnt lose our home. April 2012 he started working for another new business belonging to his dad and his business partner, but hated working for the business partner so left Nov 2012 and now works in a job that he feels much more appreciated in and enjoys. We finally got our savings back so spoke about getting engaged again but in July 2013 his parents dropped a bombshell that they were separating. My world came crashing down again as he was so close to them but his mum has had to move away and his dad has said he wants to be left alone. My OH has been so stressed and at times depressed that i thought engagement was forgotten. But i was wrong and now we are in a much better place and focusing on us, rather than things that we can not change.
the engagement;
driving to The Celtic Manor in Wales on Fri we hit bad traffic and what should have taken 3.5hrs took 7hrs. We made it for dinner at 9pm and something was up; my OH was acting uncomfortable /nervous and the restaurant couldn't have done enough for us to the point of being OTT. We had our meals, a bottle of wine, sat by the open fire but he insisted on going for a walk (pitched black dark, raining and cold) but we went just around the building and he immediately eased (guess it was being around strangers). He asked what i wanted in an engagement ring, then got down on one knee and said "will you marry me babe" he looked like a 5year old boy, all innocent and nervous. I said yes, he stood up (which made us both more comfortable) and said "you make me very happy, im so grateful to have you in my life. I want to spend the rest of my life with you and be with you forever and always, will you marry me? JUST. PERFECT!! And that was before i had a look at my stunning ring :-)
so thats my story. I wrote a more detailed explanation of our relationship after my query so you do not have to read my essay of a relationship first ;-)
