I'm having a major dress wobble *Flash added*

I think wobbles are totally normal, from what I can gather from this forum!

If it made you feel amazing, you will look amazing!

I'm sure the peeps here would give you opinions if you wanted to flash the dress?

I was where u was the other day.

Got really stressed out. I'm also trying to lose at least a stone maybe 2.

it passed. I got to thinking that a dress won't change the day, I will look amazing and I'm gonna marry the man I love.

Ewww that's soppy lol x

I saw a wobble thread, just after posting this one, hehe. It's good to know I'm not alone, but also bad to see others upset/worried too.

I hope so, I do. I just have niggling doubts

Thank you for replying x

Hi - I had a dress wobble, told my OH and he was like well you have paid for it now - I thought to myself I don't care I will lose the money and buy something else - so instead of rushing I went back to try it on and wow - I can't believe I even thought about getting something else, as soon as I put it on I got so emotional - it's stunning, and my bridesmaids reaction were amazing which helped. I don't think looking at yourself in the dress is doing you any favours as I'm sur eyou didn't have all the hair / make up done like you would on the day and it almost isn't special if you can see it so much. I would delete the picture and then leave it - go back in a few months and then try it on again and I am sure you will love it

That there is so true ❤️, thank you.

I'm glad you're feeling better about your dress now x

I was exactly like that about a week after ordering my dress. I wasn't getting the reaction to the pictures of me in it that I wanted and I convinced myself I'd messed up and chosen the wrong one. I'd tried on another one that I really liked and one of my friends really gushed about that one but in the end I chose another one and she just said it was really nice. What I did was sit down with OH (also my preferred critic) and went through some bridal mags and asked him just to say what he liked/disliked about different dresses. Did put my mind at rest, also he said to me I should trust my own judgement and whatever I wear I'll be the most stunning girl in the room

the he other thing I did was flash a pic on here, that helped a lot. Might be worth doing?

I was exactly like that about a week after ordering my dress. I wasn't getting the reaction to the pictures of me in it that I wanted and I convinced myself I'd messed up and chosen the wrong one. I'd tried on another one that I really liked and one of my friends really gushed about that one but in the end I chose another one and she just said it was really nice. What I did was sit down with OH (also my preferred critic) and went through some bridal mags and asked him just to say what he liked/disliked about different dresses. Did put my mind at rest, also he said to me I should trust my own judgement and whatever I wear I'll be the most stunning girl in the room

the he other thing I did was flash a pic on here, that helped a lot. Might be worth doing?

I'd do the bridal magazine thing if I hadn't already committed I think .

I did show him the dress which was the 'almost' and he hated it, so that was a narrow miss but also a relief!

Thank you ladies x

I think I'm going to do the same and retry the sample dress at the shop. Hopefully it will put my mind at rest.

Everyone has different body shapes and one dress won't suit all, so I'm sure your dress will look gorgeous scully82.

Bless ya, wobbles are completely normal! I felt the same so booked to go back and try my dress on again, and still loved it.

The main thing to bear in mind with regard to others opinions is that no one, and I mean NO ONE is as emotionally invested in this experience as you. They will not get how big a deal it is to you, so please do not put too much stock into others reactions, if you love your dress, its guaranteed your OH will love it too, because you will radiate in it! All my mother said was that mine was very nice but did I really need to spend so much money!! Not exactly the gushing MOB moment I hoped for!! LOL!!

For some reason I cant see your pics (damn work pc )

What dress is that Jaysmokey? Looks similar to mine! x

I've been the same. I found my dress a few weeks ago and loved it but when I look at pictures I'm now thinking 'What if' but then I think to how I felt compared with other dresses.

My honest opinion on your dress....

It's gorgeous and you will definitely wow him on the day.

You look fantasitc in that dress, I love it.

Just a question, are the 2 others married, in a couple, single? I am just wondering as it may go someway to explain how they are feeling.

Thank you, I think I'm looking at the bigger picture and have been over thinking things.

You are completely right, I have an emotional attachment to this dress and I can't expect others to have the same. I'm putting things into perspective now, I'm completely over thinking it.

x

You look gorgeous in the photos of your dress ;-)

Dress wobbles seem completely normal from what I've seen on here, I'm sure next time you try it on you will fall in love with it all over again.

? Thank you

The 2 who are indifferent are both single.

I am feeling more confident now, I will book to retry my dress. No harm x

That dress looks gorgeous! If you feel amazing in it then thats the most important thing,

I have only just started trying on dresses and I have already learnt my lesson not to trust other peoples reactions too much. My BM took photos of me in all the dresses I tried on last Saturday and I showed my fav one to a friend who's reaction was 'hmmmm I'm not sure'. I quickly changed the subject so I didn't get upset but when I got home I had a little cry! I suddenly felt the pressure of the fact that everyone would be judging me, I phoned my head bridesmaid who pointed out then firstly my friend is a bit of a bitter single (that sounds really mean but she has become a very jealous person over the past few years), and also that her clothing taste is the complete opposite of mine, so I should be more worried if she DID like the dress!

So I have now learnt I am not going to show photos of me in the dress I choose to anyone apart from mum and BMs. Everyone has their own agendas and some people won't have your best interests at heart, especially if they are a bit resentful of you getting married. Sorry to be so negative!

Jaysmonkey, You look absolutely lovely in that dress! It's a fantastic shape/style of dress for you, with just the right amount of floatyness in it

As someone else already said, no one else is going to be as emotionally involved with your wedding/choices/dress as you are. Not everyone is going to have that teary moment, least not in a wedding dress shop. Don't be hard on yourself for others reactions (or lack of). There could be a million reasons to why people aren't going OTT over your dress. You fell in love with the dress, and if you love it then that's all that matters. And if you're happy in it then your happiness will be infectious.

I think you look amazing, that's such a pretty dress!

Thank you guys, you are amazing and you've helped me to relax and see sense.

I really appreciate it.

❤️

Honestly? Nothing to worry about. You look lovely and the dress is gorgeous.

Obviously not knowing them but I can see that it may be hard for them to see you so happy and looking so fab in a wedding dress if they are single.

I know it is not the same but (BT ref) When my friend told me that she was pregnant, i was happy for them, of course, but it broke my heart as I was going through a divorce and sooo far from having that life myself it physically hurt. envy, jealousy, self pity. all of the above and more. They may (i stress may, as i dont know them)be feeling someing akin to this.

be confident that you have a beautiful dress and J will be wowed,(i suspect even if you turned up in bin liner)

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It is a lovely dress and you look beautiful, nothing to worry about!

The dress is stunning. You have chosen it for a reason and you have to trust your instinct.

HOWEVER, you look so shy and uncomfortable in the photo - head down, shoulders down. Try it on again -

- tits OUT and UP

- bum OUT

- Hold head HIGH

- Shoulders BACK

- lungs full of AIR

Its your big moment - embrace it! You must wear the dress, at the moment it looks like the dress is wearing you.

I hope that comes out as constructive advice rather than a nit pick, I am not trying to be mean.

You look great, no need to worry ?

Great advice for anyone i think!

You look beautiful and I love the dress. It suits your shape perfectly ? Imagine your hair and make up done and how fabulous you will feel!?

janet jones, do you do bride coaching? 'cause you should! ;P

Jay the dress is wonderful! i love it! I've been (yet again) having wobbles thinking mines was too structured, outdated and with *gasp* colour in it. so i browsed at other dresses and kept 'liking' the ones that were similar to mine! So the moral is, trust your gut not your head. you got it because its what you want and now your head is overcomplicating it with doubts and reading into things that aren't there.

I think the advice from janet is great too and might make a world of difference. And on a side note, I'd tackle you for that dress, its gorgeous on you!

I think the dress is gorgeous and agree with everything Janet said!

also stop showing people pictures of you in your dress! I deleted all my pics simply because it was too hard to resist showing people to get their opinion!

its deflating when they don't react the way you would like! I've been there done that... It's awful! People will react exactly how you'd want them to on the day when you walk down the aisle! If they don't who cares so longs you husband things you look stunning (and he will) no one else matters!

I love my dress I do have the occasional wobble that my OH will thing I've played it safe... Oh well!

stop looking at other dresses and stop showing friends your pictures expecting a reaction! Surprise them on the day!

Hello beautiful! u look fab xx

Much as I love modern technology (I wouldn't be able to be sitting her now talking to you without it) I do think mobile phones have a lot to answer to.

When I got married for the 1st time there was no such thing. You went and found a dress, took a trusted friend or mum, fell in love with it and it was a huge secret until the day of your wedding. You then appeared at your venue, hair done, make up on, flowers in hand, radiating happiness and wearing the dress of your dreams. Nobody but the meanest, bitterest so and so would have said anything other than "wow you look amazing".

Nowadays brides share pics of their dress with so many people via the medium of a mobile phone, or facebook, or mobile internet. Whilst every wedding dress is beautiful not every dress is everybody's cup of tea. I have a shop full of stunning dresses that I choose for other people but if I were to choose one for me it would be different to most of the dresses I have here because I have different taste in clothes. I give an honest (brutally honest) opinion to brides when they are buying their dress because I will not let them look anything less than the most perfect version of themselves on their wedding day.

A LOT of brides have dress wobbles but I think if they are honest with themselves its not the dress that's the problem, its a lack of self confidence. Every bride ive ever met, in fact every woman ive ever met, has doubts about some part of their body and it only takes a jealous bridesmaid (yes they do exist) or an envious friend to put you off the dress that only the week before made you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world.

Your partner will see you on your wedding day and feel so lucky to be marrying the woman of their dreams. You fell in your with your dress for a reason so don't let ANYBODY put you off it.

Do people post "wobble" threads, just to get compliments off a bunch of internet weirdies?

All of this! No one would ever tell the bride on the day "hmmm. not sure about that dress!!" So easy in a dark iphone pic which just about shows your facial feautures, let alone any detail of the dress!

My mum said over a year ago she didnt like the colour i was thinking for my bm, i ignored her and bought it anyway, my bm is 90% sold, but only i can truly see the full wedding picture in my head of how everything looks together.... and trust me... she will look amazing!!! just you wait and see!!!