I'm having a major dress wobble *Flash added*

lol I sometimes wonder this, but on this occasion I agree with Janet, the OP doesn't look confident in her dress, lets face it, a big white dress is not something any of us has much experience in wearing so it can be tricky to look and feel confident about it. There is also SO much choice and when your in the throws of wedding planning you see them everywhere. I think OP is looking for confirmation that her dress isn't horrendous rather than wishing to be told she looks like the most beautiful bride in the world.

Jaysmonkey, I think you've made a great choice for your figure and you will look and feel amazing on the day if you take Janet's advice.

You look lovely in your dress, and I'm sure all your guests will think you look stunning when you're big day arrives.

I'm kind of glad that other people have wobbles too - I've had numerous, not just about the dress but about the underwear, shoes, hair and makeup too! Like others have said, my OH is the only person I would normally talk to about these sorts of wobbles so it can be difficult not being able to say 'what do you think of this'. What he has said to me when I've been upset is that he thinks I'm beautiful, so will look wonderful whatever I wear - and I'm sure other peoples OH think the same about them. The real problem for me is that I need to lose weight - but doubt I'll get rid of all 7st before the wedding, so I end up feeling less confident about how I'd look in anything - if we can all just magic up a bit more self confidence wedding planning would be so much easier!

Not a particularly helpful comment....

ive had my fair share of wobble thread! They were all genuine! In the end I actually ended up getting a totally different dress to what I initially chose! Now I have my dress, I know I was right regarding my initial wobbles! Not had a wobble worth calling home about since!

It wasn't meant to be a helpful comment. It was a question.

Fair enough.. Point remains!

It's a very pretty dress!!!

In answer to your question, I think probably not.

Jaysmonkey

Dress wobbles are the norm ,I fell in love with my dress when I saw it bought it straight away then about a month before I had wobbles about it

is it the right dress

will other people like it

will they be calling me behind my back ect,

but I loved the dress and that's all that mattered

looking at your pic you have no worries at all, you look stunning ,I don't think you need to lose weight either .

JaysMonkey - it's a beautiful dress and looks lovely on you - I can understand wobbles, everyone has them and I keep having them with my dress - sometimes I love it sometimes I worry I've totally chosen the wrong thing. I haven't shown anyone other than on here the pics of me in it though as I want them to see it on the day. It's also worth remembering that just because it seems someone doesn't like it, doesn't mean it's not nice, it just means it might not be their thing, everyone has different style a different tastes to what they like in a wedding dress - you're not going to please everyone.

I think ER's question is fair enough - most people post wobbles threads looking for a bit of reassurance (the same reason I'd do it) and this isn't far off from compliments in most cases. But sometimes it's good to have a bit of reassurance when you're doubting decisions - even if it is from internet weirdies!

Thank you for those that have replied, your advice is much appreciated. Janet, you are completely right, I do lack confidence and it doesn't help matters. I will do my best to implement your advice and here's hoping I won't look so nervous and shy come the day.

ER if you have issues with me having a wobble or others having wobbles then I'm happy for you to PM me to discuss it. I was genuinely having a break down with my dress and was seeking advice, I posted pictures as a few told me to do so. As I said before the only persons opinion I genuinely trust is the O/H and I can;t go to him with this issue. The next best critic are people you don't know, because simply put you don't know them, you're not likely to meet them and they will give you an honest opinion for the most part (what have they got to lose?). I've found from this thread that the issue isn't with the dress, it is with me and it is true the dress is pretty much wearing me. I need to change that.

Thank you to all that have offered constructive and helpful advice, I truly do appreciate it. ?

You look lovely in it honestly, don't have to lose weight either.
It's a beautiful dress, and wobbles are completely normal.
Do agree though get that confidence up, you should believe how good you look in it and get your head held high.
It's your big day so enjoy and make the most of it, don't shy away thinking it doesn't look good etc..although i'm sure on the day you'll be too excited to even consider dress wobbles and you'll look at your best so it'll all be fine!

No issues, it was a genuine question.

A lot of people on here seem to have "wobbles", yet they disappear as soon as a few strangers say "aww, you look lovely hon", or some other complimentary statement. SO, I was genuinely curious if they were real wobbles, or if people just wanted compliments. ?

Aww ok, well no I won't be disappearing ?, I'm very happy I found hitched! x

Well done for refraining, I am in the same boat but haven't given in to the need to get the OH to look. I am sure that if your friends realised the turmoil they had put you in they would have acted differently. They probably won't even remember what it looks like and when you are all done with hair make up and accessories you will glow regardless. My future mother in law 'offered' to look at me in mine to give another opinion but I couldn't stand the thought of anymore opinions!

Just trust your own initial judgement and feeling and my advice would be to keep it as your little secret and don't ask for anymore opinions that might rock your confidence!

good luck!