Me and my Fiancee have been engaged for six months now. I love him so much but his parents won't stop interfering. When his brother got married they didn't help pay for anything and I was told this was because they weren't involved. Now I think I understand why they weren't involved.
To start with his mother told me where we're not allowed to get married. BEFORE WE'd LOOKED AT ANY VENUES. This was because it wasn't 'good enough' for their son. They're a wealthy family with lots of extra income so I understood that they wanted something more, thinking that they would help pay. The venue we were told we couldn't have, I really liked as someone I know got married their and it seemed beautiful to me.
I made a real point of inviting his mother to come and look at all the other venues with me. Their was another she told me not to choose because she didn't like the people that owned it. Well we looked at several venues and none of them felt right to me. So I told her I was going to look at this venue (I'll call it E) and she told me that's fine, it's my day. She was busy on that day so just me and my mum went and looked at it. I fell in love. It was perfect. I came home and went straight round my in-laws to show my fiancée and his parents. They barely looked at the brochure and just said 'yepp looks nice'. My fiancée liked it but we agreed to look round some more venues.
We did, we looked round many more but none had this spark. Now venue E wasn't a cheap option but slightly cheaper than some of the other venues they wanted us to look at.
I decided to book another viewing for venue E and took my fiancée and his parents. They admitted that it was perfect (and my FMIL admitted she hadn't bothered to read the brochure and took another, for herself, from the lady who showed us around). My fiancée loved it and we agreed this was the place.
We all went back to my in laws looked through the brochure properly, they read out all the menu's and told us what we could and couldn't have and his father kept going on about the date we'd chosen.
My family aren't rich so we'd chosen an off peak season, week day wedding. We wanted to keep it small and we knew none of our guests would mind it being a week day wedding as long as we gave them enough notice. His dad kept going on and on and on about having it on a Saturday instead.
Well I went home and about an hour later got a message from my fiancée telling me his parents were willing to pay the difference so we could have it on a Saturday. Now I know I might sound like a brat, but it was double the price to have it on a Saturday and we didn't see it as a necessity. But what really bugged me is they hadn't offered to pay anything else. They were happy to pay to do things their way. I said this to my fiancée, that I don't want money if it's strings attached and he tells me I'm being silly and it's really nice of them. But that money could have been our photographer, or the boys suits, or our DJ. It just bugs me that they have the money, are happy to show they have the money, but to not give us any choice on how it's spent.
And my fiancee isn't taking my side. I'm about to be his wife and he's choosing them over me, again. He never told them I liked the initial venue, they've also told him we can't have a theme 'it's tacky' and we can't have cheesy music at the end of the night (I'm from Essex, I love the macarana and saturday night) and he hasn't stood up for me on any of this and his parents aren't even paying!
I just don't think they should be choosing our wedding like this.
Rant over, thank you for reading